lengkap sudah kedongkolan hari ini!
tadi lin bilang padaku gini:
tante v bilang, dia dapat feeling anak kita baby girl.
kata mama pergi USG, kalo cewek digugurin aja.
kata tante v juga kalo cewek gugurin aja.
dulu pas gua keluar dari rumah sakit setelah melahirkan Crystal, kata-kata ini juga pernah tercetus dari mulutnya. tapi gak terang2an, dia cuman bilang, "ntar pas hamil yang kedua, kira-kira dah 4-5 bulan, pergi USG." sudah pasti maksud implisitnya, kalo ketauan cewek, gugurin.
sinting! sakit jiwa si mak mertuaku dan si tante itu!!!!
di sini USG gak bakal dikasih tau bayinya cewek atau cowok. konsekuensinya si petugas bakal kena pecat. tapi gak seketat itu juga sih. kalo ada yang dikenal, bisa aja dikasih tau, tapi secara diam2 ngasih taunya. ipar gua yg di sini memang ada kenal petugas USG dan dulu ngasih tau anaknya cowok. ipar gua sendiri udah 3 kali melakukan aborsi. (oh..bukan karena ketauan jenis kelaminnya, tapi karena 2 kali yang pertama sebelum resepsi pernikahan; walau mereka dah menikah di catatan sipil, terus yang sekali lagi karena kebobolan sementara cuman boleh jatah 1 anak).
gua dah nyaris 5 bulan. gila apa ngegugurin janin usia 5 bulan?!!! jangankan 5 bulan, baru hamil 1 hari aja dan even bisa tau cewek pun gak bakal gua gugurin! sudah sakit yah orang-orang ini?!!!
gua bilang ke lin gini,
yah udah, ntar kalo cewek, gua gak balik ke china aja sekalian!
gua tau lin ngarepin sih yang kedua kalo diberi...yah cowok lebih baik. tapi kalopun cewek, dia gak akan mempermasalahkan.
pikiran gua, kalo memang anak gua cewek (lebih baik memang cewek aja.. supaya menjadi nyatalah kata-kata dan ramalan mereka! sekalian aja bisa alih profesi jadi paranormal) dan mertua gua gak suka, what the hell... i have my own life! gua lebih baik tinggal misah dari orang2 sakit jiwa gini dan gua rawat sendiri anak gua, daripada capek hati kayak gini ntarnya.
pernah tuh, gua bilang ke lin, cewek atau cowok kan tergantung elo; nyumbangnya kromosom x atau y ke gua. mak mertua gua langsung nyeletuk, "belum tentu!" (maksud dia .. belom tentu faktor yang nentuin jenis kelamin bayi berasal dari suami). terus lin bilang, "udah pasti. ini scientific kok." terus mertua gua diam.
terus terang sedikit banyak ada rasa menyesal menikah, bukan.. bukan karena lin, tapi karena keluarganya!
Friday, June 29, 2007
Thursday, June 28, 2007
makan malam
gua emang biasa yang sering terakhir makan kalo dah jam makan malam. biasa, ngurus makan si kecil dulu yang susahnya minta ampun. orang rumah suka bilang, lo makan dulu, ntar baru nyuapin dia. lah... si Crystal kan gitu, kalo gua makan duluan, suka narik2in tangan gua minta temani main. kalo disuapin, kalo memang dia belom lapar, yah udah gak bakal buka mulut.
memang nasib kali yah kalo makan keluarga besar gitu, gua dan suami, kedua mertua, kedua ipar, dan neneknya suami, plus dua anak kecil. kalo makan terakhir suka gak kebagian lauk jadinya, alias dapat sisa. sebenarnya gua gak terlalu mempermasalahkan dg makanan sisa.
tapi yang kadang suka bikin jengkel yah... gak tanggung2... makanan suka gak disisain, alias kalo makan gak nimbang ada yang belom makan gitu.... sisa pun itu memang kalo bener2 gak habis.
dua malam ini kekesalan gua lagi memuncak. gak tau napa... bawaannya gampang kesal belakangan ini. mungkin efek dari pregnancy.
pertama, malam kemarin, semua dah makan, meja dah mulai dirapiin. gua baru mau makan setelah nyuapin si kecil semangkuk bubur. tadinya masih mikir mau nyuapin sayur. eh... pas lihat di meja makan, sayurnya udah dicampurkan ke tahu pedes. dongkol aja gua, jadinya si kecil gak kebagian sayur,padahal dia suka sayur. dan bikin dongkol lagi, dua jenis makanan ini berbeda. kok main dicampur aja. gua jadi gak napsu makan pas ngelihatnya! gua sempat ngedumel di depan suami pas yang lain lagi gak ada. kata suami, dan juga bikin dongkol, "enak kok dicampur gitu!"
lah.. kalo enak dicampur gitu, kenapa gak dari awal aja sebelum makan, langsung aja dicampur, kenapa mesti dipisah2?
kedua, malam ini, gua akhirnya menyerah, gak nyuapin si kecil.. ntar aja maleman dikit pas dia lapar. dan gua siap2 mau makan. eh tahunya tumis kacang panjang dah nyaris habis, disisain cuman kira2 6 pentulan korek api. ini sih buat nyumpelin gigi aja. terus tumis terong nya juga hanya bersisa satu sendok makan. udah gitu mau digabungi lagi, tapi langsung gua cegah. terus mertua sambil nyeletuk, "gak tau lo senangnya makan apa. cuman sisa dikit. toh lo juga gak makan banyak2." kira-kira aja, nyisain kedua jenis sayur masing2 1 sendok makan ... iya, orang hamil tuh gak butuh makan banyak...glek ! rada esmosi juga sih gua !
ada sih tumis kentang agak banyakan dikit, yang dari dulu gua gak pernah nyentuh kalo mereka masak, karena memang gua gak pernah doyan.
yah gitu deh, jadinya lagi-lagi gak nafsu makan.
cuman yah gitu ... makan kok gak ingat2 ada yang belom makan yah... tapi gua males aja untuk ngebahas atau ngingetin gitu. toh udah pada bukan anak kecil.
masalah nyisain hanya sedikit itu gak cuman sekali dua kali. udah hal biasa, dan malah kadang ada yang gak bersisa, jadi gak sempat gua sentuh sama sekali.
memang nasib kali yah kalo makan keluarga besar gitu, gua dan suami, kedua mertua, kedua ipar, dan neneknya suami, plus dua anak kecil. kalo makan terakhir suka gak kebagian lauk jadinya, alias dapat sisa. sebenarnya gua gak terlalu mempermasalahkan dg makanan sisa.
tapi yang kadang suka bikin jengkel yah... gak tanggung2... makanan suka gak disisain, alias kalo makan gak nimbang ada yang belom makan gitu.... sisa pun itu memang kalo bener2 gak habis.
dua malam ini kekesalan gua lagi memuncak. gak tau napa... bawaannya gampang kesal belakangan ini. mungkin efek dari pregnancy.
pertama, malam kemarin, semua dah makan, meja dah mulai dirapiin. gua baru mau makan setelah nyuapin si kecil semangkuk bubur. tadinya masih mikir mau nyuapin sayur. eh... pas lihat di meja makan, sayurnya udah dicampurkan ke tahu pedes. dongkol aja gua, jadinya si kecil gak kebagian sayur,padahal dia suka sayur. dan bikin dongkol lagi, dua jenis makanan ini berbeda. kok main dicampur aja. gua jadi gak napsu makan pas ngelihatnya! gua sempat ngedumel di depan suami pas yang lain lagi gak ada. kata suami, dan juga bikin dongkol, "enak kok dicampur gitu!"
lah.. kalo enak dicampur gitu, kenapa gak dari awal aja sebelum makan, langsung aja dicampur, kenapa mesti dipisah2?
kedua, malam ini, gua akhirnya menyerah, gak nyuapin si kecil.. ntar aja maleman dikit pas dia lapar. dan gua siap2 mau makan. eh tahunya tumis kacang panjang dah nyaris habis, disisain cuman kira2 6 pentulan korek api. ini sih buat nyumpelin gigi aja. terus tumis terong nya juga hanya bersisa satu sendok makan. udah gitu mau digabungi lagi, tapi langsung gua cegah. terus mertua sambil nyeletuk, "gak tau lo senangnya makan apa. cuman sisa dikit. toh lo juga gak makan banyak2." kira-kira aja, nyisain kedua jenis sayur masing2 1 sendok makan ... iya, orang hamil tuh gak butuh makan banyak...glek ! rada esmosi juga sih gua !
ada sih tumis kentang agak banyakan dikit, yang dari dulu gua gak pernah nyentuh kalo mereka masak, karena memang gua gak pernah doyan.
yah gitu deh, jadinya lagi-lagi gak nafsu makan.
cuman yah gitu ... makan kok gak ingat2 ada yang belom makan yah... tapi gua males aja untuk ngebahas atau ngingetin gitu. toh udah pada bukan anak kecil.
masalah nyisain hanya sedikit itu gak cuman sekali dua kali. udah hal biasa, dan malah kadang ada yang gak bersisa, jadi gak sempat gua sentuh sama sekali.
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
surfer lagi cacat - crystal habis demam
lagi-lagi gak bisa blog walking ke semua yg beralamatkan blogspot; udah nyaris 3 mingguan. =(
di komputer kantor maupun komputer rumah, sama aja. bisanya cuman ke blogger dashboard.
belakangan ini juga agak sibuk... gak sempat update-update.
terus jadi gak bisa ngintip tetangga nih, juga gak tau update-an terbaru. huek ... =(
kejepit
mingu-minggu lalu ada kejadian jelek nih.
habis overtime, pulang rumah, pas turun dari taxi, terburu2 nutup pintu. telunjuk kanan gua kejepit. aduh mak...suaaaakitnya minta ampun. udah gitu dasar gua lemot, telat bereaksi, baru sekian detik nyadar buat buka pintu dan membebaskan jariku yang terjepit.
waktu itu sekitar jam 8-an, belom makan malam. nyaris tepar ! langsung cari tempat duduk di toko roti. alamak, sakitnya minta ampun deh! sampai sekarang udah nyaris 3 minggu, masih tersisa rasa sakitnya, dan kukupun jadi item.
duh .. malangnya telunjukku !
anakku yang manis
sabtu sore yang baru lalu..
udah capek nih nemani Crystal main sepanjang hari sampai sore. duh... kok gak tidur-tidur siang juga nih yah, dah jam 4 sore lewat. batal sudah rencana mau pergi check up. hari jumat sempat planning mau bawa serta dia juga, tapi suami ada urusan, jadi batal rencana mau bawa dia bareng check up. eh, pas lagi merasa capek gitu, tau-tau Crystal nepuk-nepuk tempat tidur great-grandma di kamar tengah dan bilang:
"mama baring sebentar. mama sudah capek, ada adek bayi."
duh... terharunya diriku, sambil bilang, "OK, mama baring dulu bentar yah."
habis itu dia ngiter-ngiter main sendiri dan gak mengusik mamanya. yah cuman bentar sih, soalnya gak tega biarin dia main-main sendiri.
akhirnya baru jam 7 malam dia minta tidur "siang". pusing gak sih ... !
ketularan flu
ada bule German di company gua yang datang dari Thailand, bawa virus flu. pertama2 nular ke operation manager, terus nular ke IT, gua dan GM gua; besoknya Accounting tempat gua kena ketularan gua dan langsung demam. heehehe...
untung 4 hari dah sembuh.
sayangnya ....
si kecil demam
... sayangnya si Crystal kayaknya malah jadi ketularan gua. kemarin pagi dia kena demam.
biarpun demam tetap sweet. kata oma, seharian gak rewel sama sekali. paling tiduran di kamar atau baringan di sofa. pas makan siang, masuk ke kamar oma, naik ke ranjang dan tidur sendiri. diekori si Smarty, yang bilang, "adek... makan siang. adek..makan siang. pukul pantatmu kalo gak makan." hehehehe... ! lucu yah ...padahal Smarty juga ogah makan siang itu.
kata oma lagi, Crystal mirip papanya waktu kecil, kalo sakit yah udah, diem dan anteng aja, gak pernah rewel, paling gak mau makan aja.
pas mama pulang udah langsung lincah, biarpun masih demam, udah lari ke sana ke mari main bola karet bersama Smarty; nyusun-nyusun sandal dan sepatu, dan minta jalan2. juga mau makan saat dibujuk-bujuk dikit. hasilnya semangkuk bubur, setengah mangkuk kaldu ayam, darah beku, ampela dan sebelah sayap ayam. lumayan ...!
udah gitu pakai bilang, "aku sedang sakit. aku kena pilek," tapi tampangnya sih gak kayak orang sakit. malam juga masih lincah dan on terus sampai nyaris mid-nite. udah dibujuk-bujuk buat tidur, tapi masih mau main.
tengah malam tadi dikasih obat pilek dan penurun panas. sempat nangis2 dan minta gendong ama nenek .. hehehee... subuh ini sih udah gak demam lagi. belom tau siang ini, belom nelpon ke rumah.
sampai di rumah sorenya, teryata Crystal udah total sembuh. syukurlah!
jadi ingat 2 hari sebelumnya, dia sempat bilang, "mama, Jing-jing sakit kepala." tapi habis ngomong, dia ngelanjutin main-main dan lincah aja. jadi kupikir, mungkin asal bunyi aja kali. sekarang setelah dipikir-pikir, mungkin memang waktu itu dia memang sakit kepala (gejala awal mau kena flu)
bentar lagi ultah
tiap hari mama akan ngajakin Crystal count-down buat hari ultah keduanya, sambil nyoretin kalender dan ngitung ultahnya tinggal berapa hari lagi.
kalo ditanya,
ultahnya bulan enam tanggal berapa?
Crystal : bulan enam tanggal tiga puluh.
mau minta dibeliin apa?
Crystal : beli kue ulang tahun.
terus beli apa lagi?
Crystal : do-re-mi. (maksudnya mainan yang ada musik do-re-mi nya. bulan lalu sempat lihat-lihat alat musik sederhana yang pake batere).
di komputer kantor maupun komputer rumah, sama aja. bisanya cuman ke blogger dashboard.
belakangan ini juga agak sibuk... gak sempat update-update.
terus jadi gak bisa ngintip tetangga nih, juga gak tau update-an terbaru. huek ... =(
kejepit
mingu-minggu lalu ada kejadian jelek nih.
habis overtime, pulang rumah, pas turun dari taxi, terburu2 nutup pintu. telunjuk kanan gua kejepit. aduh mak...suaaaakitnya minta ampun. udah gitu dasar gua lemot, telat bereaksi, baru sekian detik nyadar buat buka pintu dan membebaskan jariku yang terjepit.
waktu itu sekitar jam 8-an, belom makan malam. nyaris tepar ! langsung cari tempat duduk di toko roti. alamak, sakitnya minta ampun deh! sampai sekarang udah nyaris 3 minggu, masih tersisa rasa sakitnya, dan kukupun jadi item.
duh .. malangnya telunjukku !
anakku yang manis
sabtu sore yang baru lalu..
udah capek nih nemani Crystal main sepanjang hari sampai sore. duh... kok gak tidur-tidur siang juga nih yah, dah jam 4 sore lewat. batal sudah rencana mau pergi check up. hari jumat sempat planning mau bawa serta dia juga, tapi suami ada urusan, jadi batal rencana mau bawa dia bareng check up. eh, pas lagi merasa capek gitu, tau-tau Crystal nepuk-nepuk tempat tidur great-grandma di kamar tengah dan bilang:
"mama baring sebentar. mama sudah capek, ada adek bayi."
duh... terharunya diriku, sambil bilang, "OK, mama baring dulu bentar yah."
habis itu dia ngiter-ngiter main sendiri dan gak mengusik mamanya. yah cuman bentar sih, soalnya gak tega biarin dia main-main sendiri.
akhirnya baru jam 7 malam dia minta tidur "siang". pusing gak sih ... !
ketularan flu
ada bule German di company gua yang datang dari Thailand, bawa virus flu. pertama2 nular ke operation manager, terus nular ke IT, gua dan GM gua; besoknya Accounting tempat gua kena ketularan gua dan langsung demam. heehehe...
untung 4 hari dah sembuh.
sayangnya ....
si kecil demam
... sayangnya si Crystal kayaknya malah jadi ketularan gua. kemarin pagi dia kena demam.
biarpun demam tetap sweet. kata oma, seharian gak rewel sama sekali. paling tiduran di kamar atau baringan di sofa. pas makan siang, masuk ke kamar oma, naik ke ranjang dan tidur sendiri. diekori si Smarty, yang bilang, "adek... makan siang. adek..makan siang. pukul pantatmu kalo gak makan." hehehehe... ! lucu yah ...padahal Smarty juga ogah makan siang itu.
kata oma lagi, Crystal mirip papanya waktu kecil, kalo sakit yah udah, diem dan anteng aja, gak pernah rewel, paling gak mau makan aja.
pas mama pulang udah langsung lincah, biarpun masih demam, udah lari ke sana ke mari main bola karet bersama Smarty; nyusun-nyusun sandal dan sepatu, dan minta jalan2. juga mau makan saat dibujuk-bujuk dikit. hasilnya semangkuk bubur, setengah mangkuk kaldu ayam, darah beku, ampela dan sebelah sayap ayam. lumayan ...!
udah gitu pakai bilang, "aku sedang sakit. aku kena pilek," tapi tampangnya sih gak kayak orang sakit. malam juga masih lincah dan on terus sampai nyaris mid-nite. udah dibujuk-bujuk buat tidur, tapi masih mau main.
tengah malam tadi dikasih obat pilek dan penurun panas. sempat nangis2 dan minta gendong ama nenek .. hehehee... subuh ini sih udah gak demam lagi. belom tau siang ini, belom nelpon ke rumah.
sampai di rumah sorenya, teryata Crystal udah total sembuh. syukurlah!
jadi ingat 2 hari sebelumnya, dia sempat bilang, "mama, Jing-jing sakit kepala." tapi habis ngomong, dia ngelanjutin main-main dan lincah aja. jadi kupikir, mungkin asal bunyi aja kali. sekarang setelah dipikir-pikir, mungkin memang waktu itu dia memang sakit kepala (gejala awal mau kena flu)
bentar lagi ultah
tiap hari mama akan ngajakin Crystal count-down buat hari ultah keduanya, sambil nyoretin kalender dan ngitung ultahnya tinggal berapa hari lagi.
kalo ditanya,
ultahnya bulan enam tanggal berapa?
Crystal : bulan enam tanggal tiga puluh.
mau minta dibeliin apa?
Crystal : beli kue ulang tahun.
terus beli apa lagi?
Crystal : do-re-mi. (maksudnya mainan yang ada musik do-re-mi nya. bulan lalu sempat lihat-lihat alat musik sederhana yang pake batere).
Monday, June 18, 2007
manusia yg menyebalkan di kantor
menyebalkan sekali ketika lo punya ide atas sesuatu pekerjaan dan sedang mencoba merealisasikannya, tahu-tahu seorang rekan kantor yg tahu ttg ide ini tiba2 mengambil alih tanpa ijin dulu, dan langsung memberitahukan ke departemen lain bahwa dia akan mengerjakan hal itu. kemudian, ketika dia mengerjakannya, dia akan men-cc ke boss termasuk file yg udah lo bikin sebelumnya (lewat email). sehingga para boss berpikir bahwa itu ide dan hasil kerjaannya dia.
demikian juga saat ada laporan kunjungan yg dah lo bikin, dan karena kunjungan bareng si orang bersangkutan, terus lo minta cross check dan tolong kirim (krn gak bisa akses email).
tau2 nama lo yg tercantum sbg penulis report dia delete begitu aja, jadi seolah2 report tsb dia yg tulis.
wah ... betul2 jenis manusia yang menyebalkan yah!
pelajaran yg gua dapat kali ini, kalo ada ide didiskusikan seperlunya aja. kerjain, realisasikan dan submit dengan gerak cepat.
demikian juga saat ada laporan kunjungan yg dah lo bikin, dan karena kunjungan bareng si orang bersangkutan, terus lo minta cross check dan tolong kirim (krn gak bisa akses email).
tau2 nama lo yg tercantum sbg penulis report dia delete begitu aja, jadi seolah2 report tsb dia yg tulis.
wah ... betul2 jenis manusia yang menyebalkan yah!
pelajaran yg gua dapat kali ini, kalo ada ide didiskusikan seperlunya aja. kerjain, realisasikan dan submit dengan gerak cepat.
Monday, June 11, 2007
conversation: wash dishes, call mama, miss daddy and biscuit time
wash dishes
crystal : mama, what are you doing yah? (she likes to ask this question to anybody, with the 'yah')
mama : washing dishes.
crystal : mama, dont wash dishes. carry Jing-jing up. Grandma washes dishes.
g'ma : oh you little thing, so you arrange what we big people do, huh?
crystal : eeh...mama, dont wash dishes!
mama : okey ... okey ... ! mama is done already! (left several pieces to grandma and carry this little thing up).
call mama (as grandma told)
that day, mama came home 30 minutes late than usual. auntie had already arrived home.
crystal : (to grandma) get xiao ling tong (telkom flexi). call mama. ask mama to come home.
g'ma : my dear, grandma doesnt know your mama's number.
crystal : grandpa calls mama.
g'ma : grandpa is busy preparing dinner (gave the phone to her).
crystal : hello ... mama...come home quickly.
miss daddy (also as grandma told)
daddy was out for duty to Shenzhen for 5 days.
crystal : (to grandma) get daddy's photo. get daddy's photo.
g'ma : (looked for daddy's photo but couldnt find it) my dear, grandma doesnt know where daddy's photo is.
crystal : mama knows.
g'ma : mama will get daddy's photo for you when mama arrives home, ok?
crystal : ok.
g'ma : (thought this kid must have missed her daddy). where does your daddy go?
crystal : to Shenzhen, by plane.
biscuit time
crystal and mama were having afternoon tea with butter cream biscuit. crystal took one and separated the biscuit.
crystal : this is jing-jing's (took the one with butter cream) and this is mama's (gave the other side without butter cream to mama, then dip into the tea).
mama : thank you, Jing-jing.
crystal : (after eating it, took another pieces, separated it again.. happened several times). this is jing-jing's, this is mama's.
mama : mama wants that one with butter cream.
crystal : this is half. (maybe she meant: she only had half, couldnt share with mama.. lol)
mama : yes, mama wants that one.
crystal : this is half. (with convincing expression . .wah pelit nih..hehehe..)
mama : yes, mama wants that half.
crystal : (took another piece which hadn't been separated and gave to mama). this is for mama.
later on ... great-grandma woke up from her nap.
mama : Jing-jing, give this biscuit for Tai-tai. ask Tai-tai to eat the biscuit.
crystal : (handle the biscuit to great-grandma). Tai-tai .. eat biscuit.
g-g'ma : oh, xie xie Jing-jing !
mama : Jing-jing, was the biscuit delicious?
crystal : delicious.
mama : we have eaten it up. next time when mama comes back from office, mama will buy again for you, ok?
crystal : buy it together with Jingjing.
mama : ok, buy it together with Jingjing.
crystal : buy one tin. don't buy much.
mama : (*smile*) you mean buy one pack? you know, one tin is very much. come here, mama show you how much one tin is. (pointing an old biscuit tin to her)
cyrstal : buy one pack. don't buy much.
mama : ok, we will buy one pack.
crystal : ok!
crystal : mama, what are you doing yah? (she likes to ask this question to anybody, with the 'yah')
mama : washing dishes.
crystal : mama, dont wash dishes. carry Jing-jing up. Grandma washes dishes.
g'ma : oh you little thing, so you arrange what we big people do, huh?
crystal : eeh...mama, dont wash dishes!
mama : okey ... okey ... ! mama is done already! (left several pieces to grandma and carry this little thing up).
call mama (as grandma told)
that day, mama came home 30 minutes late than usual. auntie had already arrived home.
crystal : (to grandma) get xiao ling tong (telkom flexi). call mama. ask mama to come home.
g'ma : my dear, grandma doesnt know your mama's number.
crystal : grandpa calls mama.
g'ma : grandpa is busy preparing dinner (gave the phone to her).
crystal : hello ... mama...come home quickly.
miss daddy (also as grandma told)
daddy was out for duty to Shenzhen for 5 days.
crystal : (to grandma) get daddy's photo. get daddy's photo.
g'ma : (looked for daddy's photo but couldnt find it) my dear, grandma doesnt know where daddy's photo is.
crystal : mama knows.
g'ma : mama will get daddy's photo for you when mama arrives home, ok?
crystal : ok.
g'ma : (thought this kid must have missed her daddy). where does your daddy go?
crystal : to Shenzhen, by plane.
biscuit time
crystal and mama were having afternoon tea with butter cream biscuit. crystal took one and separated the biscuit.
crystal : this is jing-jing's (took the one with butter cream) and this is mama's (gave the other side without butter cream to mama, then dip into the tea).
mama : thank you, Jing-jing.
crystal : (after eating it, took another pieces, separated it again.. happened several times). this is jing-jing's, this is mama's.
mama : mama wants that one with butter cream.
crystal : this is half. (maybe she meant: she only had half, couldnt share with mama.. lol)
mama : yes, mama wants that one.
crystal : this is half. (with convincing expression . .wah pelit nih..hehehe..)
mama : yes, mama wants that half.
crystal : (took another piece which hadn't been separated and gave to mama). this is for mama.
later on ... great-grandma woke up from her nap.
mama : Jing-jing, give this biscuit for Tai-tai. ask Tai-tai to eat the biscuit.
crystal : (handle the biscuit to great-grandma). Tai-tai .. eat biscuit.
g-g'ma : oh, xie xie Jing-jing !
mama : Jing-jing, was the biscuit delicious?
crystal : delicious.
mama : we have eaten it up. next time when mama comes back from office, mama will buy again for you, ok?
crystal : buy it together with Jingjing.
mama : ok, buy it together with Jingjing.
crystal : buy one tin. don't buy much.
mama : (*smile*) you mean buy one pack? you know, one tin is very much. come here, mama show you how much one tin is. (pointing an old biscuit tin to her)
cyrstal : buy one pack. don't buy much.
mama : ok, we will buy one pack.
crystal : ok!
Tuesday, June 05, 2007
3rd anniversary
dinner
it's our third anniversary. last nite, we had dinner outside together with our lill Crystal. the three of us had great time together.
hmm... cannot express my feeling in romantic words. just hope our relation and love grow stronger each day. it's still long journey ahead for both of us, rite?
we'll keep on learning to be the better us each day.
today, Lin is going to Shenzhen, will only go back until Saturday afternoon.
just called him, he's at the airport with his flight pending for 1 hour.
rocking chair
grandpa has just bought a rattan rocking chair for grandma. however, there is some smell on the chair, so we put it at the balcony to diminish the smell. on Sunday, i pointed at the chair to Crystal and telling her, "it's rocking chair. do not stay closer, it has smell on it. not good for our health."
daddy said that after lunch, Smarty was playing with the rocking chair at the balcony. Crystal stayed inside the bedroom and said, "do not stay closer. it has smell on it." and she didnt go any closer to the chair. again, what she said surprising grandma... hehehehe...
good cool girl, remembers and follows mommy's words! =)
it's our third anniversary. last nite, we had dinner outside together with our lill Crystal. the three of us had great time together.
hmm... cannot express my feeling in romantic words. just hope our relation and love grow stronger each day. it's still long journey ahead for both of us, rite?
we'll keep on learning to be the better us each day.
today, Lin is going to Shenzhen, will only go back until Saturday afternoon.
just called him, he's at the airport with his flight pending for 1 hour.
rocking chair
grandpa has just bought a rattan rocking chair for grandma. however, there is some smell on the chair, so we put it at the balcony to diminish the smell. on Sunday, i pointed at the chair to Crystal and telling her, "it's rocking chair. do not stay closer, it has smell on it. not good for our health."
daddy said that after lunch, Smarty was playing with the rocking chair at the balcony. Crystal stayed inside the bedroom and said, "do not stay closer. it has smell on it." and she didnt go any closer to the chair. again, what she said surprising grandma... hehehehe...
good cool girl, remembers and follows mommy's words! =)
Monday, June 04, 2007
conversation and comments
sunday morning, 7am, Crystal and mom just woke up.
daddy was still sleeping.
Crystal: little lazy worm, still not waking up.
7.30am, daddy woke up, went to toilet, then lied back again on the bed.
Crystal: little lazy worm, you still want to sleep.
Grandma just mop the floor, put 2 stools in front of the TV set. Crystal saw a stool.
Crystal: stool is not put in its place. (then she took the stool and put it aside).
Crystal, mom and dad just came back from Carrefour.
mom put all the things to its place, folded the plastic bags and put into the drawer.
mom lied down on the sofa.
Grandma just took the watermelon out of its plastic bag.
Crystal: there is one more plastic bag not being folded. (took the plastic bag and gave to mommy)
Crystal: mama rest for a while now. (after mommy folded the plastic bag and gave to her)
bed time.
mommy: Jing-jing, look, there is a hole on mama's pants. oooh ... mama doesnt have pants to wear anymore. oh, poor mama!
Crystal : Jing-jing buys new pants for mama.
mommy: oh, thank you, darling. (*kiss*) where do you get the money?
Crystal : from the pocket (pointing on her pocket)
mommy: where does the money in your pocket come from?
Crystal : from the plane (the horsy ride rhyme, paying money after taking a plane)
mommy: where does the money on the plane come from?
Crystal : eh..eh..eh.. (*thinking*) .. from mama's pocket.
mommy: what (chinese) zodiac do you belong to?
Crystal : rooster
mommy: no, mama thinks it's egg.
Crystal : no, rooster.
mommy: what about mama, what zodiac?
Crystal : egg.
mommy: wrong. what's mama's zodiac? (similar answer and question for around 5 times or so)
Crystal : egg.
mommy: wrong, not egg. what is mama's zodiac?
Crystal : ox (*finally!*)
mommy: correct! and what's daddy's?
Crystal : dragon
mommy: correct! and what's auntie's ?
Crystal : dragon, same as daddy.
mommy: what about uncle?
Crystal : ox, same as mama.
mommy: what's grandpa's?
Crystal : pig
mommy: what about grandma's ?
Crystal : rat
mommy: what about Smarty?
Crystal : monkey
mommy: and grandaunt?
Crystal : monkey, same as Smarty.
oh ya, jumat maren, gua terharu sekali. pas mau berangkat kerja, gua pakai jaket diliatin si kecil. udara di luar rada dingin. sehabis itu dia dicium dan dipamitin, dan tumben2nya .. gak nangis lho, malah dadah-dadah sama maknya. wah nak... apa besok-besoknya juga akan gitu?
terus sorenya kedua bocah dibeliin baju dan kue tart oleh opa dalam rangka hari anak-anak.
daddy was still sleeping.
Crystal: little lazy worm, still not waking up.
7.30am, daddy woke up, went to toilet, then lied back again on the bed.
Crystal: little lazy worm, you still want to sleep.
Grandma just mop the floor, put 2 stools in front of the TV set. Crystal saw a stool.
Crystal: stool is not put in its place. (then she took the stool and put it aside).
Crystal, mom and dad just came back from Carrefour.
mom put all the things to its place, folded the plastic bags and put into the drawer.
mom lied down on the sofa.
Grandma just took the watermelon out of its plastic bag.
Crystal: there is one more plastic bag not being folded. (took the plastic bag and gave to mommy)
Crystal: mama rest for a while now. (after mommy folded the plastic bag and gave to her)
bed time.
mommy: Jing-jing, look, there is a hole on mama's pants. oooh ... mama doesnt have pants to wear anymore. oh, poor mama!
Crystal : Jing-jing buys new pants for mama.
mommy: oh, thank you, darling. (*kiss*) where do you get the money?
Crystal : from the pocket (pointing on her pocket)
mommy: where does the money in your pocket come from?
Crystal : from the plane (the horsy ride rhyme, paying money after taking a plane)
mommy: where does the money on the plane come from?
Crystal : eh..eh..eh.. (*thinking*) .. from mama's pocket.
mommy: what (chinese) zodiac do you belong to?
Crystal : rooster
mommy: no, mama thinks it's egg.
Crystal : no, rooster.
mommy: what about mama, what zodiac?
Crystal : egg.
mommy: wrong. what's mama's zodiac? (similar answer and question for around 5 times or so)
Crystal : egg.
mommy: wrong, not egg. what is mama's zodiac?
Crystal : ox (*finally!*)
mommy: correct! and what's daddy's?
Crystal : dragon
mommy: correct! and what's auntie's ?
Crystal : dragon, same as daddy.
mommy: what about uncle?
Crystal : ox, same as mama.
mommy: what's grandpa's?
Crystal : pig
mommy: what about grandma's ?
Crystal : rat
mommy: what about Smarty?
Crystal : monkey
mommy: and grandaunt?
Crystal : monkey, same as Smarty.
oh ya, jumat maren, gua terharu sekali. pas mau berangkat kerja, gua pakai jaket diliatin si kecil. udara di luar rada dingin. sehabis itu dia dicium dan dipamitin, dan tumben2nya .. gak nangis lho, malah dadah-dadah sama maknya. wah nak... apa besok-besoknya juga akan gitu?
terus sorenya kedua bocah dibeliin baju dan kue tart oleh opa dalam rangka hari anak-anak.
Saturday, June 02, 2007
23 months
Crystal is 23 months today
time really flies. my lil girl is approaching her 2nd bday now.
some development within this month:
* successfull potty training. now she could tell us if she wants to pee or poop. or she will go to the potty by herself. of course there is still some pee accident sometimes, especially when she's doing something else. one poop accident at 3am in the morning. at that time, Crystal said,"pee." but actually she had had poop in her panty. after pee, she would take the wipe cloth and wipe by herself. we didnt ask her to do it, she wanted to do by herself.
* first time trying to pee by standing up because of seeing Smarty (her cousin). mommy told Crystal that Smarty is a boy, same as daddy, will stand while having a pee. while Crystal is a girl, same as mommy and grandma will sit on toilet or potty when having a pee. after that, she never tries to stand up anymore. she also would sometimes repeat what mommy has told her, like this, "smarty is a boy, having a pee by standing up."
* nap and night training. star
ting May 07, Crystal doesnt wear diaper during sleep. but of course mommy has to wake up once or twice in the middle of the night to let her pee. sometimes if mommy is over tired and forgets to wake up, she will have the pee accident. usually mommy will bring her to pee on (1) 00.30 or 1am; (2) another 2 hours, which is around 2 or 3am; (3) between 6 to 7.30. sometimes if around 6 am mommy brings her to pee, she will say, "no pee. no pee." actually this could be started even earlier. but mommy was lazy to do it, especially during winter. summer time is more suitable. sometimes she will copy what mama often says to her: 'should not pee on the bed. have to wash it and dry it. very troublesome.'
* signing. Crystal now can understand about a chinese game "scissors, stone and cloth." 剪刀,石头,布. where scissors win over cloth, cloth wins over stone, and stone wins over scissors. if or example she wins, she will pinch her play-mate's nose. of course we let her win and let her lose sometimes. Crystal can also make "chinese" sign language with 5 fingers from 1 to 10; can express "i love you" with "korean" signing. some simple sign language that she already knew before were like: no, yes, goodbye, kiss-bye, come here.
* know the character 'jing' 晶 (crystal, for her nickname) and 'dian' 电 (electricity). this happen because we've just bought an LCD tv this month. on the packaging carton, she can see this two chinese characters.
* start to be able to differ long and short, tall and low, little and many, front and back. previously she could differ big and small. it happened that grandpa asked her to compare grandpa and grandma's feet. after pondering for few seconds, she said, 'it's the same size.' though we thought probably she would tell which one was bigger.
* know and can decide on something she wants or wants to do; can refuse by saying that she doesnt want to do this or that. Crystal can tell mom, 'dont want to wear diaper.' Crystal will say, 'it's not delicious' when she eats something and she doesnt like it. ask to wear certain cloth, a red t-shirt with a tiger on it is her most favorite one.
* have her own idea or own way for solving problem. on the book it teaches to give certain amount of peaches to certain numbers of monkey. mommy will point picture of 3 peaches and imaginarily takes on peach and feeds it to one monkey, one by one until all 3 monkeys are fed. but Crystal will do in different way, she takes the 3 peaches together at one time then feed it also at one time to 3 monkeys... a short cut. hahaha..!
* start to use 'i' or 'me'. few months ago she could use 'i' or 'me' for around 3 sentences like: 'mama, pull me up', 'mama, carry me up', and 'i love you'. now Crystal can use it in more sentences like: let me see, let me hang it, how are you? I'm Liu Hui Han, etc. but she still uses 'Jing-jing' more often to address herself; or sometimes she uses 'you'. so mommy will remind her often that it's i or me instead of 'you'. sometimes she will copy what mommy says to her by saying, "Jingjing says 'me', mama says 'you'."
* good habits. if mommy feeds her something with a spoon, like ice cream or fruit jelly, after finishing it, she will throw the empty container to the trash bin and brings the spoon into the kitchen. one day, grandma was eating tomato and gave a small slice to her, but it dropped on the floor. she told grandma that it dropped on the floor. mommy gave Crystal a piece of tissue paper, then Crystal wiped the tomato and threw it into the trash bin. there was once Crystal reminded mommy to put the knife back to its place. Mommy would sometimes remind and praise her for that, she then will say, "very dangerous. can hurt fingers," and pointing at her own forefinger. after drinking her milk, she will put the bottle on its usual place.
* wear sandals or shoes by herself, seldom makes mistakes on which is the left or right side.
* always cries if mommy wants to go to work, sometimes will hug mommy's leg or says, 'mama, dont go to work.'
* ride a bike (with additional 2 small wheels at the back side). but since the bike is quite big, she cannot make a full round 'ride' on her feet. already can turn left or right by herself, and can go to the place that mommy points her to.
* jump with 2 feet stepping together on the ground. the height is around 15cm.
* put coin into the kiddy ride. when going to the play ground, she will run to the kiddy rides and climbs up, and asks for money to be put into the kiddy ride. but if mommy says that mommy doesnt bring any money, she will not insist.
* dance. lately grandma likes to dance. sometimes mommy dances with grandma, then she follows and wants mommy to hold her hands, so we dance together by counting 1,2,3 ... 1,2,3 ... when listens to music, she also likes to dance with her own way.
* drink soup with a spoon, hold the spoon quite stable for the soup.
* drink with a glass or cup without dripping off
* start to tell time, but not perfectly. usually 7.30, 10.30, 7 o'clock, 1 o'clock. but still often makes mistakes on it.
* like to change other words including text in a song with 'mama' (remember 'smurf'?). for example if we ask her what's our phone number, she will answer like this, "55 66 mama." a part of song lyrics 'somebody that loves me' becomes 'mama that loves me'. poop also becomes 'mama' ... lol. and many others.
* sing chinese rhyme; like this :
ride ride horsy ride, ride to grandma's house
where is grandma's house? in indonesia
how to go there? by a plane
how does a plane sound like? booom...booomm...booom..
flies over a mountain, flies over the ocean.. arrive now.
how much to pay? 5 yuan. 3000 yuan. put into the pocket.
little rabbit, white so white.
two ears standing up.
love to eat carrot and lettuce
hop hop jump jump ... very lovely.
* sing 3 indonesian songs: tik tik tik bunyi hujan, cicak cicak, satu-satu aku sayang ibu
* sing a chinese song call "xiao yan zi" (little swallow) - the first part. other songs that she could sing before: counting ducks, ABC Song, du shu lang (also first part), 2 tigers, some parts of Tao Hua Duo Duo Kai , Lang Hua Yi Duo Duo, Lao Shu Ai Da Mi, Rain in March, Jingle Bells, Zhao Peng You.
* ask for a book when she wants to see it. can match pictures like footprints of certain animals, which pictures are missing and find it, how to help a boy getting his ball on the tree, where do certain animals sit on the bus, differ goose egg and swallow egg, etc.
* climb up and down stairs by herself, by holding on to the handle or wall. in the past, except by holding on the wall, mommy also needed to hold her. now mommy needs only to watch besides Crystal to prevent her form falling.
* open a door
* when Jingjing grows up. Crystal likes to say: Jingjing grows up help grandpa wash dishes; Jingjing grows up cook for mama; Jingjing grows up can eat spicy; Jingjing grows up help mama wash cloth; Jingjing grows up work, earn a lot of money, give to mama, papa, grandpa, grandma.
* identify that something is the same. Crystal was playing with a puzzle with story of 'Hare and Tortoise', then asked to get a book which contained 'Hare and Tortoise' story. after that, she pointed at the puzzle and the book and told grandpa, "this is the same."
* afraid of strangers and new thing. Crystal is still afraid of stranger or people she seldom meets or sees. so in front of any of them, very seldom she wants to speak up or to interact. even i often bring her outside or to the park, let her play with other kids, let her greet other parents or grandparents .. still it seems that she is afraid. sometimes she wants to speak, but very seldom, sometimes she will say, "afraid." also she is afraid of playing with new things. for example, we took her to amusement park, paid for the ticket where kids can play anything inside the area for 30 minutes. she didnt want to play anything, just walked around and observed. including the 'ball pool', when i went inside together with her, she was whining and didnt want to be inside the pool.
time really flies. my lil girl is approaching her 2nd bday now.
some development within this month:
* successfull potty training. now she could tell us if she wants to pee or poop. or she will go to the potty by herself. of course there is still some pee accident sometimes, especially when she's doing something else. one poop accident at 3am in the morning. at that time, Crystal said,"pee." but actually she had had poop in her panty. after pee, she would take the wipe cloth and wipe by herself. we didnt ask her to do it, she wanted to do by herself.
* first time trying to pee by standing up because of seeing Smarty (her cousin). mommy told Crystal that Smarty is a boy, same as daddy, will stand while having a pee. while Crystal is a girl, same as mommy and grandma will sit on toilet or potty when having a pee. after that, she never tries to stand up anymore. she also would sometimes repeat what mommy has told her, like this, "smarty is a boy, having a pee by standing up."
* nap and night training. star
ting May 07, Crystal doesnt wear diaper during sleep. but of course mommy has to wake up once or twice in the middle of the night to let her pee. sometimes if mommy is over tired and forgets to wake up, she will have the pee accident. usually mommy will bring her to pee on (1) 00.30 or 1am; (2) another 2 hours, which is around 2 or 3am; (3) between 6 to 7.30. sometimes if around 6 am mommy brings her to pee, she will say, "no pee. no pee." actually this could be started even earlier. but mommy was lazy to do it, especially during winter. summer time is more suitable. sometimes she will copy what mama often says to her: 'should not pee on the bed. have to wash it and dry it. very troublesome.'
* signing. Crystal now can understand about a chinese game "scissors, stone and cloth." 剪刀,石头,布. where scissors win over cloth, cloth wins over stone, and stone wins over scissors. if or example she wins, she will pinch her play-mate's nose. of course we let her win and let her lose sometimes. Crystal can also make "chinese" sign language with 5 fingers from 1 to 10; can express "i love you" with "korean" signing. some simple sign language that she already knew before were like: no, yes, goodbye, kiss-bye, come here.
* know the character 'jing' 晶 (crystal, for her nickname) and 'dian' 电 (electricity). this happen because we've just bought an LCD tv this month. on the packaging carton, she can see this two chinese characters.
* start to be able to differ long and short, tall and low, little and many, front and back. previously she could differ big and small. it happened that grandpa asked her to compare grandpa and grandma's feet. after pondering for few seconds, she said, 'it's the same size.' though we thought probably she would tell which one was bigger.
* know and can decide on something she wants or wants to do; can refuse by saying that she doesnt want to do this or that. Crystal can tell mom, 'dont want to wear diaper.' Crystal will say, 'it's not delicious' when she eats something and she doesnt like it. ask to wear certain cloth, a red t-shirt with a tiger on it is her most favorite one.
* have her own idea or own way for solving problem. on the book it teaches to give certain amount of peaches to certain numbers of monkey. mommy will point picture of 3 peaches and imaginarily takes on peach and feeds it to one monkey, one by one until all 3 monkeys are fed. but Crystal will do in different way, she takes the 3 peaches together at one time then feed it also at one time to 3 monkeys... a short cut. hahaha..!
* start to use 'i' or 'me'. few months ago she could use 'i' or 'me' for around 3 sentences like: 'mama, pull me up', 'mama, carry me up', and 'i love you'. now Crystal can use it in more sentences like: let me see, let me hang it, how are you? I'm Liu Hui Han, etc. but she still uses 'Jing-jing' more often to address herself; or sometimes she uses 'you'. so mommy will remind her often that it's i or me instead of 'you'. sometimes she will copy what mommy says to her by saying, "Jingjing says 'me', mama says 'you'."
* good habits. if mommy feeds her something with a spoon, like ice cream or fruit jelly, after finishing it, she will throw the empty container to the trash bin and brings the spoon into the kitchen. one day, grandma was eating tomato and gave a small slice to her, but it dropped on the floor. she told grandma that it dropped on the floor. mommy gave Crystal a piece of tissue paper, then Crystal wiped the tomato and threw it into the trash bin. there was once Crystal reminded mommy to put the knife back to its place. Mommy would sometimes remind and praise her for that, she then will say, "very dangerous. can hurt fingers," and pointing at her own forefinger. after drinking her milk, she will put the bottle on its usual place.
* wear sandals or shoes by herself, seldom makes mistakes on which is the left or right side.
* always cries if mommy wants to go to work, sometimes will hug mommy's leg or says, 'mama, dont go to work.'
* ride a bike (with additional 2 small wheels at the back side). but since the bike is quite big, she cannot make a full round 'ride' on her feet. already can turn left or right by herself, and can go to the place that mommy points her to.
* jump with 2 feet stepping together on the ground. the height is around 15cm.
* put coin into the kiddy ride. when going to the play ground, she will run to the kiddy rides and climbs up, and asks for money to be put into the kiddy ride. but if mommy says that mommy doesnt bring any money, she will not insist.
* dance. lately grandma likes to dance. sometimes mommy dances with grandma, then she follows and wants mommy to hold her hands, so we dance together by counting 1,2,3 ... 1,2,3 ... when listens to music, she also likes to dance with her own way.
* drink soup with a spoon, hold the spoon quite stable for the soup.
* drink with a glass or cup without dripping off
* start to tell time, but not perfectly. usually 7.30, 10.30, 7 o'clock, 1 o'clock. but still often makes mistakes on it.
* like to change other words including text in a song with 'mama' (remember 'smurf'?). for example if we ask her what's our phone number, she will answer like this, "55 66 mama." a part of song lyrics 'somebody that loves me' becomes 'mama that loves me'. poop also becomes 'mama' ... lol. and many others.
* sing chinese rhyme; like this :
ride ride horsy ride, ride to grandma's house
where is grandma's house? in indonesia
how to go there? by a plane
how does a plane sound like? booom...booomm...booom..
flies over a mountain, flies over the ocean.. arrive now.
how much to pay? 5 yuan. 3000 yuan. put into the pocket.
little rabbit, white so white.
two ears standing up.
love to eat carrot and lettuce
hop hop jump jump ... very lovely.
* sing 3 indonesian songs: tik tik tik bunyi hujan, cicak cicak, satu-satu aku sayang ibu
* sing a chinese song call "xiao yan zi" (little swallow) - the first part. other songs that she could sing before: counting ducks, ABC Song, du shu lang (also first part), 2 tigers, some parts of Tao Hua Duo Duo Kai , Lang Hua Yi Duo Duo, Lao Shu Ai Da Mi, Rain in March, Jingle Bells, Zhao Peng You.
* ask for a book when she wants to see it. can match pictures like footprints of certain animals, which pictures are missing and find it, how to help a boy getting his ball on the tree, where do certain animals sit on the bus, differ goose egg and swallow egg, etc.
* climb up and down stairs by herself, by holding on to the handle or wall. in the past, except by holding on the wall, mommy also needed to hold her. now mommy needs only to watch besides Crystal to prevent her form falling.
* open a door
* when Jingjing grows up. Crystal likes to say: Jingjing grows up help grandpa wash dishes; Jingjing grows up cook for mama; Jingjing grows up can eat spicy; Jingjing grows up help mama wash cloth; Jingjing grows up work, earn a lot of money, give to mama, papa, grandpa, grandma.
* identify that something is the same. Crystal was playing with a puzzle with story of 'Hare and Tortoise', then asked to get a book which contained 'Hare and Tortoise' story. after that, she pointed at the puzzle and the book and told grandpa, "this is the same."
* afraid of strangers and new thing. Crystal is still afraid of stranger or people she seldom meets or sees. so in front of any of them, very seldom she wants to speak up or to interact. even i often bring her outside or to the park, let her play with other kids, let her greet other parents or grandparents .. still it seems that she is afraid. sometimes she wants to speak, but very seldom, sometimes she will say, "afraid." also she is afraid of playing with new things. for example, we took her to amusement park, paid for the ticket where kids can play anything inside the area for 30 minutes. she didnt want to play anything, just walked around and observed. including the 'ball pool', when i went inside together with her, she was whining and didnt want to be inside the pool.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
child proof your house
obat-obatan, bahan-bahan kimia lain (misal sabun, shampoo, obat nyamuk, dll) simpanlah di tempat yang tak terjangkau
gua sebenarnya rada sebel sama orang-orang rumah, yang kadang naroh barang suka seenaknya. maksudnya, barang-barang yang maunya gak gampang digapai oleh kedua bocah cilik.
misal aja, permen dan coklat. pada dasarnya gua gak pengen si kecil makan terlalu banyak permen or coklat. tapi orang rumah yah gitu, kalo dah makan permen atau coklat, bungkusan gedenya suka ditaroh gitu aja. nah, kalo udah kegapai ama si kecil, pasti mau. kalo gua biasanya coklat atau permen selalu gua simpan di tempat2 yang tak terlihat.
yang lebih parah lagi, obat2an. juga suka ditaroh begitu aja di atas meja.
hari senin barusan ini, kedua bocah cilik itu ngambilin obat darah tinggi opanya. terus botol obatnya dibuka, dan dimakan satu per satu obatnya. habis dimakan, gak enak, terus dilepehin. terus ambil lagi, masukin ke mulut lagi. gua sih gak lihat, tapi diceritain. gua kaget setengah mati! obat-obatan gitu !!!
terus gua bilang, makanya obat-obatan ditaroh di tempat yang tinggi dong. terus mereka bilang, mau taroh di mana, kejangkau semua ama mereka. gua bilang, taroh di lemari kaca ruang makan dong.
jawabnya, "mereka bisa ngambil kursi dan buka sendiri lemarinya."
gua jawab lagi, rak yang paling atas kan gak kejangkau.
akhirnya semua obat2an gua pindahin ke 2 rak teratas lemari kaca yang di ruang makan.
gua malah disalahin karena terlalu banyak ngajarin si kecil ini itu. dulu si kecil suka main botol aqua, suka buka tutup tutup botolnya.
benda-benda dari gelas, benda-benda runcing dan tajam, air panas
si opa juga kalo dah pakai tusuk gigi atau cotton bud, suka digeletakin begitu aja. untung si Crystal dah mendingan. dulu dia senang main tusuk gigi, suka dibawa sambil jalan ke mana-mana. lah .. kalo jatuh dan kecolok mata, gimana coba!!! jadi gua suka keki aja kalo ngelihat tusuk gigi bertebaran di mana2.
si Crystal sering gua ajarin kalo nemu tusuk gigi dibuang ke tong sampah. untung akhirnya dia nurut. kalo nemu tusuk gigi, dah gak dimain2in lagi, tapi langsung dia buang ke tong sampah. 2 hari lalu juga gua baru mungutin 3 tusuk gigi dan 1 buah cutton bud bekas pakai dekat sofa ruang tamu. itu termasuk kerjaan rutin gua dan si kecil tuh...
di samping itu, gua juga sering ngingetin si kecil, ada 5 barang penting yang gak boleh disentuh / dimainin:
1. api
2. air panas
3. pisau
4. obat
5. listrik
hehehe... kadang gua suruh dia yang nyebutin. mungkin dia belom ngerti sih. mungkin juga ngerti dikit. tapi kadang dia kalo lihat botol air panas, kalo diingetin, dia suka bilang, "air panas, gak boleh disentuh."
pernah suatu kali, gua habis ngupasin dan makan apel bareng dia. terus pisaunya masih tergeletak di meja ruang tamu, si kecil yang malah ngingetin gua, "mama, pisaunya ditaroh dulu."
aduh, sampai terharu deh gua, dan gua bilang ke dia, "aduh sayang, maaf yah..mama kelupaan. untung kamu ngingetin. gak boleh main pisau, berbahaya lho!" terus dia manggut-manggut.
terus dia suka buka tutup lemari dapur. tiap kali gua ingetin, "kalo mangkok dan piring kaca/porcelain gak boleh main yah. kalo mau main, main yang plastik aja." eh, untungnya dia lama-lama ngerti. jadi tiap kali kalo dia mulai buka lemari dapur, paling dia ambilin wadah2 plastik dan tutupnya, atau sendok2 dari plastik/melanin. kalo sendok porcelain, hampir gak pernah disentuh, juga mangkok piring yang dari kaca dan porcelain gak pernah dimainin.
alat-alat listrik, kipas angin, colokan listrik
kipas angin juga gua bungkus dg kasa anti nyamuk. nah, kalo dia mulai main2in kipas angin, suka dipencet2 tombol2nya, kalo kelihatan papa-nya, habis deh.. pasti tangannya dipukuli dg kencang. dulu-dulu pernah dipukulin dg kenceng, terus dia nangis dan gak berani nyentuh lagi. summer kali ini, mungkin dah lupa. jadi dia mulai main kipas angin lagi. maren tangannya dipukulin papanya. dia gak berani nangis, mungkin tau sendiri kalo dia salah... tapi matanya udah berkabut.
colokan listrik kita tutup dengan cover khusus yang bisa dibeli di toko perlengkapan bayi. bentuknya seperti colokan listrik, terbuat dari plastik.
air di kamar mandi, air untuk cuci mobil
ada satu hal lagi, di rumah kebiasaan kalo nyuci baju, air bekas bilasan ditampung untuk nyirem toilet. nampungnya di baskom gede. gua pernah baca ada toddler yang meninggal gara-gara kecemplung dalam baskom cuci mobil papanya, sementara papanya sedang nyuci mobil tapi gak nyadar. jadi gua juga cemas kalo di rumah ada baskom2 penuh berisi air. kadang pintu kamar mandi suka dibiarkan terbuka gitu aja. jadi gua juga suka ngingetin mertua soal risikonya dan untuk tak lupa nutup pintu kamar mandi, mengurangi risiko yang tidak diinginkanlah. apalagi si kecil sekarang dah mulai bisa buka pintu sendiri.
kalo perlu malah beli aja kancingan pintu dan dipasang di posisinya yang tinggi dan tak terjangkau.
pintu depan, akses keluar rumah, jendela, balkon
berhubung tinggal di apartemen dan di lantai 4, kita juga biasanya waspada jangan sampai si kecil buka pintu sendiri, takut jatuh di tangga. beberapa minggu lalu dia sudah bisa buka pintu depan sendiri, bikin gua kaget setengah mati juga. terus gua ingetin oma-nya kalo gua lagi ngantor, mesti perhatiin jangan sampai si kecil buka pintu depan sendiri.
kalo gak tinggal di apartemen juga kudu hati2. kalo sampai si kecil bisa buka pintu sendiri, terus keluar rumah sendiri, bisa-bisa ntar nyasar, lari ke jalan, mendekati kolam renang (buat yang rumahnya berkolam renang) atau diculik orang. yang kayak gini nih yang menakutkan. memang sebaiknya jangan biarkan si kecil sendirian untuk waktu yang terlalu lama.
Connor, putra dari Eric Clapton, gitaris kondang, yang baru berumur 5 tahun, jatuh dari balkon apartemennya di lantai 52 (kalo gak salah ingat nomer lantainya), meninggal tentunya. makanya dia bikin lagu Tears in Heaven.
balkon di rumah gua juga waktu itu si oma ngelihat Smarty bisa memasukkan kepalanya di sela-sela pilar balkon. langsung dikiterin pakai kabel, terus dibungkus lagi dengan kasa nyamuk.
makanan
ada beberapa jenis makanan yang kudu diperhatiin cara memberi makannya pada si kecil. misalnya anggur. Crystal suka sekali memasukkan tomat kecil atau anggur utuh ke mulutnya. bayangkan kalo sampai tertelan dan tersangkut di tenggorokan. jadi kalo makan anggur, biasanya dikupasin dulu kulitnya (biarpun udah dicuci, takut masih mengandung pestisida) dan dibelah dua sebelum dikasih ke dia. tapi dia suka protes atau malah nangis2. ujung2nya jadi suka ngambek/berantem dengan maknya. tapi untuk hal ini, gua gak bakal ngalah ke dia. sama halnya untuk makanan seperti kacang, cherry, permen, yang sejenisnyalah. untungnya sejak kecil, Crystal udah bisa membuang biji buah (yang kecil2), yang sebenarnya dimakan juga gapapa sih. misalnya biji buah semangka, biji buah delima. makanya sejak umur setahunan juga kita biarin aja makan delima, karena menurut kita cukup safe.
di China, sudah beberapa kali terdengar berita anak kecil meninggal gara-gara kesedak fruit jelly (agar2), yang biasanya dimakan dengan cara disedot dari wadah plastiknya. kalo memang mau memberi si kecil makan fruit jelly, gunakanlah sendok. jangan dibiarkan makan sendiri.
gua sebenarnya rada sebel sama orang-orang rumah, yang kadang naroh barang suka seenaknya. maksudnya, barang-barang yang maunya gak gampang digapai oleh kedua bocah cilik.
misal aja, permen dan coklat. pada dasarnya gua gak pengen si kecil makan terlalu banyak permen or coklat. tapi orang rumah yah gitu, kalo dah makan permen atau coklat, bungkusan gedenya suka ditaroh gitu aja. nah, kalo udah kegapai ama si kecil, pasti mau. kalo gua biasanya coklat atau permen selalu gua simpan di tempat2 yang tak terlihat.
yang lebih parah lagi, obat2an. juga suka ditaroh begitu aja di atas meja.
hari senin barusan ini, kedua bocah cilik itu ngambilin obat darah tinggi opanya. terus botol obatnya dibuka, dan dimakan satu per satu obatnya. habis dimakan, gak enak, terus dilepehin. terus ambil lagi, masukin ke mulut lagi. gua sih gak lihat, tapi diceritain. gua kaget setengah mati! obat-obatan gitu !!!
terus gua bilang, makanya obat-obatan ditaroh di tempat yang tinggi dong. terus mereka bilang, mau taroh di mana, kejangkau semua ama mereka. gua bilang, taroh di lemari kaca ruang makan dong.
jawabnya, "mereka bisa ngambil kursi dan buka sendiri lemarinya."
gua jawab lagi, rak yang paling atas kan gak kejangkau.
akhirnya semua obat2an gua pindahin ke 2 rak teratas lemari kaca yang di ruang makan.
gua malah disalahin karena terlalu banyak ngajarin si kecil ini itu. dulu si kecil suka main botol aqua, suka buka tutup tutup botolnya.
benda-benda dari gelas, benda-benda runcing dan tajam, air panas
si opa juga kalo dah pakai tusuk gigi atau cotton bud, suka digeletakin begitu aja. untung si Crystal dah mendingan. dulu dia senang main tusuk gigi, suka dibawa sambil jalan ke mana-mana. lah .. kalo jatuh dan kecolok mata, gimana coba!!! jadi gua suka keki aja kalo ngelihat tusuk gigi bertebaran di mana2.
si Crystal sering gua ajarin kalo nemu tusuk gigi dibuang ke tong sampah. untung akhirnya dia nurut. kalo nemu tusuk gigi, dah gak dimain2in lagi, tapi langsung dia buang ke tong sampah. 2 hari lalu juga gua baru mungutin 3 tusuk gigi dan 1 buah cutton bud bekas pakai dekat sofa ruang tamu. itu termasuk kerjaan rutin gua dan si kecil tuh...
di samping itu, gua juga sering ngingetin si kecil, ada 5 barang penting yang gak boleh disentuh / dimainin:
1. api
2. air panas
3. pisau
4. obat
5. listrik
hehehe... kadang gua suruh dia yang nyebutin. mungkin dia belom ngerti sih. mungkin juga ngerti dikit. tapi kadang dia kalo lihat botol air panas, kalo diingetin, dia suka bilang, "air panas, gak boleh disentuh."
pernah suatu kali, gua habis ngupasin dan makan apel bareng dia. terus pisaunya masih tergeletak di meja ruang tamu, si kecil yang malah ngingetin gua, "mama, pisaunya ditaroh dulu."
aduh, sampai terharu deh gua, dan gua bilang ke dia, "aduh sayang, maaf yah..mama kelupaan. untung kamu ngingetin. gak boleh main pisau, berbahaya lho!" terus dia manggut-manggut.
terus dia suka buka tutup lemari dapur. tiap kali gua ingetin, "kalo mangkok dan piring kaca/porcelain gak boleh main yah. kalo mau main, main yang plastik aja." eh, untungnya dia lama-lama ngerti. jadi tiap kali kalo dia mulai buka lemari dapur, paling dia ambilin wadah2 plastik dan tutupnya, atau sendok2 dari plastik/melanin. kalo sendok porcelain, hampir gak pernah disentuh, juga mangkok piring yang dari kaca dan porcelain gak pernah dimainin.
alat-alat listrik, kipas angin, colokan listrik
kipas angin juga gua bungkus dg kasa anti nyamuk. nah, kalo dia mulai main2in kipas angin, suka dipencet2 tombol2nya, kalo kelihatan papa-nya, habis deh.. pasti tangannya dipukuli dg kencang. dulu-dulu pernah dipukulin dg kenceng, terus dia nangis dan gak berani nyentuh lagi. summer kali ini, mungkin dah lupa. jadi dia mulai main kipas angin lagi. maren tangannya dipukulin papanya. dia gak berani nangis, mungkin tau sendiri kalo dia salah... tapi matanya udah berkabut.
colokan listrik kita tutup dengan cover khusus yang bisa dibeli di toko perlengkapan bayi. bentuknya seperti colokan listrik, terbuat dari plastik.
air di kamar mandi, air untuk cuci mobil
ada satu hal lagi, di rumah kebiasaan kalo nyuci baju, air bekas bilasan ditampung untuk nyirem toilet. nampungnya di baskom gede. gua pernah baca ada toddler yang meninggal gara-gara kecemplung dalam baskom cuci mobil papanya, sementara papanya sedang nyuci mobil tapi gak nyadar. jadi gua juga cemas kalo di rumah ada baskom2 penuh berisi air. kadang pintu kamar mandi suka dibiarkan terbuka gitu aja. jadi gua juga suka ngingetin mertua soal risikonya dan untuk tak lupa nutup pintu kamar mandi, mengurangi risiko yang tidak diinginkanlah. apalagi si kecil sekarang dah mulai bisa buka pintu sendiri.
kalo perlu malah beli aja kancingan pintu dan dipasang di posisinya yang tinggi dan tak terjangkau.
pintu depan, akses keluar rumah, jendela, balkon
berhubung tinggal di apartemen dan di lantai 4, kita juga biasanya waspada jangan sampai si kecil buka pintu sendiri, takut jatuh di tangga. beberapa minggu lalu dia sudah bisa buka pintu depan sendiri, bikin gua kaget setengah mati juga. terus gua ingetin oma-nya kalo gua lagi ngantor, mesti perhatiin jangan sampai si kecil buka pintu depan sendiri.
kalo gak tinggal di apartemen juga kudu hati2. kalo sampai si kecil bisa buka pintu sendiri, terus keluar rumah sendiri, bisa-bisa ntar nyasar, lari ke jalan, mendekati kolam renang (buat yang rumahnya berkolam renang) atau diculik orang. yang kayak gini nih yang menakutkan. memang sebaiknya jangan biarkan si kecil sendirian untuk waktu yang terlalu lama.
Connor, putra dari Eric Clapton, gitaris kondang, yang baru berumur 5 tahun, jatuh dari balkon apartemennya di lantai 52 (kalo gak salah ingat nomer lantainya), meninggal tentunya. makanya dia bikin lagu Tears in Heaven.
balkon di rumah gua juga waktu itu si oma ngelihat Smarty bisa memasukkan kepalanya di sela-sela pilar balkon. langsung dikiterin pakai kabel, terus dibungkus lagi dengan kasa nyamuk.
makanan
ada beberapa jenis makanan yang kudu diperhatiin cara memberi makannya pada si kecil. misalnya anggur. Crystal suka sekali memasukkan tomat kecil atau anggur utuh ke mulutnya. bayangkan kalo sampai tertelan dan tersangkut di tenggorokan. jadi kalo makan anggur, biasanya dikupasin dulu kulitnya (biarpun udah dicuci, takut masih mengandung pestisida) dan dibelah dua sebelum dikasih ke dia. tapi dia suka protes atau malah nangis2. ujung2nya jadi suka ngambek/berantem dengan maknya. tapi untuk hal ini, gua gak bakal ngalah ke dia. sama halnya untuk makanan seperti kacang, cherry, permen, yang sejenisnyalah. untungnya sejak kecil, Crystal udah bisa membuang biji buah (yang kecil2), yang sebenarnya dimakan juga gapapa sih. misalnya biji buah semangka, biji buah delima. makanya sejak umur setahunan juga kita biarin aja makan delima, karena menurut kita cukup safe.
di China, sudah beberapa kali terdengar berita anak kecil meninggal gara-gara kesedak fruit jelly (agar2), yang biasanya dimakan dengan cara disedot dari wadah plastiknya. kalo memang mau memberi si kecil makan fruit jelly, gunakanlah sendok. jangan dibiarkan makan sendiri.
Monday, May 28, 2007
good memory
i think Crystal has quite a good memory. once you teach her something, she could remember for quite a long time.
i remember telling her about the difference between boy and girl when pee, she still remembers it.
yesterday her grandpa asked her, "Jingjing, are you a boy or a girl?" she was playing at the living room table, responded with different answer: "Brother is a boy. Brother pees by standing up."
last night she made all of us laugh while we were at grandma's room watching tv. she was drinking some water, suddenly she said, "grandma doesn't have xiaojiji."
xiaojiji = little chicken, it's the way people call the genital of a little boy... =)
the other weekend, i took her to buy pomelo (jeruk purut). then we ate it in the living room around 5pm. i told her, "Jingjing, we don't eat all of this. we put it here... leave some for daddy. when daddy returns from the shop, ask daddy to eat pomelo. ok?" "OK!" she said.
after dinner around 7.30, her grandma also ate the pomelo and gave some to her. then, her grandma said, "ok, we dont eat this anymore. leave some slices for your daddy." she nodded.
near to 10pm, she was sitting on the potty, peeing. i was preparing milk for her. then her daddy came home. she stood up from the potty without pulling up her pants, went to take the pomelo in the living room and gave it to her daddy, saying: "daddy, eat pomelo."
another thing that her daddy and i was very surprised. yesterday, i dont remember what she and i was talking about, she pointed on the bed, near to the window, and said, "Jingjing broke daddy's glasses over there." she broke her daddy's glasses around 6 or 7 months ago on the bed. i think i'd ever mentioned once or twice to her before, so she could remember. but still for us it's quite surprising, our little girl could remember it.
she was also a good attentive lill girl. last nite, we were eating ice cream in grandma's room. she held the ice cream cup and spoon by herself. she took one spoon for herself, one for daddy and one for mom... till she finished eating it. after that, she went out to throw the ice cream cup into the trash bin, brought the spoon to the kitchen and went back to grandma's bedroom. that's already become her routine everytime we eat ice cream or fruit jelly together; throws the container into the trash bin and brings the spoon to kitchen.
one funny thing also from our little girl. one day, i ate a fruit jelly. i didnt want to let her eat too much, worried her tummy couldnt bear it 'coz that nite she had already eaten ice cream, apple and drank some fresh milk. so i didnt let her see me eating the jelly. but when i talked to her, she smelled the fruit jelly taste in my mouth, immediately saying, "eat fruit jelly! eat fruit jelly!"
when i told this to her daddy and grandma, they also laughed. they said, "you cannot lie to your lil girl." hehehehehe...! her grandma and her daddy also played this "fruit jelly game" to her and get same response, "eat fruit jelly... eat fruit jelly!"
edit: supposed to be : "you cannot hide something from your lill girl."
i remember telling her about the difference between boy and girl when pee, she still remembers it.
yesterday her grandpa asked her, "Jingjing, are you a boy or a girl?" she was playing at the living room table, responded with different answer: "Brother is a boy. Brother pees by standing up."
last night she made all of us laugh while we were at grandma's room watching tv. she was drinking some water, suddenly she said, "grandma doesn't have xiaojiji."
xiaojiji = little chicken, it's the way people call the genital of a little boy... =)
the other weekend, i took her to buy pomelo (jeruk purut). then we ate it in the living room around 5pm. i told her, "Jingjing, we don't eat all of this. we put it here... leave some for daddy. when daddy returns from the shop, ask daddy to eat pomelo. ok?" "OK!" she said.
after dinner around 7.30, her grandma also ate the pomelo and gave some to her. then, her grandma said, "ok, we dont eat this anymore. leave some slices for your daddy." she nodded.
near to 10pm, she was sitting on the potty, peeing. i was preparing milk for her. then her daddy came home. she stood up from the potty without pulling up her pants, went to take the pomelo in the living room and gave it to her daddy, saying: "daddy, eat pomelo."
another thing that her daddy and i was very surprised. yesterday, i dont remember what she and i was talking about, she pointed on the bed, near to the window, and said, "Jingjing broke daddy's glasses over there." she broke her daddy's glasses around 6 or 7 months ago on the bed. i think i'd ever mentioned once or twice to her before, so she could remember. but still for us it's quite surprising, our little girl could remember it.
she was also a good attentive lill girl. last nite, we were eating ice cream in grandma's room. she held the ice cream cup and spoon by herself. she took one spoon for herself, one for daddy and one for mom... till she finished eating it. after that, she went out to throw the ice cream cup into the trash bin, brought the spoon to the kitchen and went back to grandma's bedroom. that's already become her routine everytime we eat ice cream or fruit jelly together; throws the container into the trash bin and brings the spoon to kitchen.
one funny thing also from our little girl. one day, i ate a fruit jelly. i didnt want to let her eat too much, worried her tummy couldnt bear it 'coz that nite she had already eaten ice cream, apple and drank some fresh milk. so i didnt let her see me eating the jelly. but when i talked to her, she smelled the fruit jelly taste in my mouth, immediately saying, "eat fruit jelly! eat fruit jelly!"
when i told this to her daddy and grandma, they also laughed. they said, "you cannot lie to your lil girl." hehehehehe...! her grandma and her daddy also played this "fruit jelly game" to her and get same response, "eat fruit jelly... eat fruit jelly!"
edit: supposed to be : "you cannot hide something from your lill girl."
Friday, May 25, 2007
Saturday, May 19, 2007
pipis berdiri
sore ini omanya Crystal ngadu ke gua sambil ngomel2.
si Crystal seharian ini dah basah 2 atau 3 celana gara-gara pipis sambil berdiri, ngikutin kokonya yang sedang diajarin pipis sendiri sambil berdiri. repot...hihihih... tapi lucu banget!
omanya ngadu dia pipis sambil berdiri dan ngarahin ke tong sampah.
nah, pas gua dah pulang, si kecil mau pipis di pispot dengan posisi berdiri, terus buru-buru gua pegangi sambil nyuruh duduk. eh, gak mau dia sambil meronta-ronta. gua tetap gak ngasih pipis berdiri ntar jadi kebiasaan, terus kalo celana basah terus kan repot.
eh, ngambek dia sambil membaringkan diri di lantai dan nangis2... ada kali 5 menit, gua biarin aja. walaupun sebenarnya cemas juga, takut sakit perut karena lantai dingin. gua bilang, hayo kita jalan-jalan sembari gua ambil tas ngisi perlengkapan buat dia jalan2, isinya celana ganti, jaket kalo2 di luar dingin, tisu dan handuk buat lap kalo dia pipis. opanya pulang langsung digendong, tapi dia masih nangis2.
terus gua ambil alih gendong dia. akhirnya gua bilangi:
koko kan anak laki, jadi pipisnya berdiri. Jing-jing kan lihat kalo papa pipis juga berdiri. soalnya papa kan laki2. nah kalo mama dan oma kan kamu lihat, sama dengan kamu, kalo pipis duduk, soalnya kan kita kan perempuan.
kadang papanya kalo lagi gak ada orang di rumah, suka malas nutup pintu kamar mandi. kadang Crystal melongok ke kamar mandi kalo papanya lagi pipis. pengen tau kayaknya..hehehee...! dan kalo gua pipis ke kamar mandi, dia suka ngintilin, ikutan masuk, malah kadang suka ngambil tisu mau ngelapin .. heehehhe....
akhirnya dia berhenti nangis dan mengangguk. terus gua turunkan dari gendongan dan dia menuju pispot terus duduk dan pipis. setelah pipis, dia mengambil handuk yang memang sudah disediakan untuk lap sesudah pipis, dia pun ngelap sendiri. lucu deh !
si Crystal seharian ini dah basah 2 atau 3 celana gara-gara pipis sambil berdiri, ngikutin kokonya yang sedang diajarin pipis sendiri sambil berdiri. repot...hihihih... tapi lucu banget!
omanya ngadu dia pipis sambil berdiri dan ngarahin ke tong sampah.
nah, pas gua dah pulang, si kecil mau pipis di pispot dengan posisi berdiri, terus buru-buru gua pegangi sambil nyuruh duduk. eh, gak mau dia sambil meronta-ronta. gua tetap gak ngasih pipis berdiri ntar jadi kebiasaan, terus kalo celana basah terus kan repot.
eh, ngambek dia sambil membaringkan diri di lantai dan nangis2... ada kali 5 menit, gua biarin aja. walaupun sebenarnya cemas juga, takut sakit perut karena lantai dingin. gua bilang, hayo kita jalan-jalan sembari gua ambil tas ngisi perlengkapan buat dia jalan2, isinya celana ganti, jaket kalo2 di luar dingin, tisu dan handuk buat lap kalo dia pipis. opanya pulang langsung digendong, tapi dia masih nangis2.
terus gua ambil alih gendong dia. akhirnya gua bilangi:
koko kan anak laki, jadi pipisnya berdiri. Jing-jing kan lihat kalo papa pipis juga berdiri. soalnya papa kan laki2. nah kalo mama dan oma kan kamu lihat, sama dengan kamu, kalo pipis duduk, soalnya kan kita kan perempuan.
kadang papanya kalo lagi gak ada orang di rumah, suka malas nutup pintu kamar mandi. kadang Crystal melongok ke kamar mandi kalo papanya lagi pipis. pengen tau kayaknya..hehehee...! dan kalo gua pipis ke kamar mandi, dia suka ngintilin, ikutan masuk, malah kadang suka ngambil tisu mau ngelapin .. heehehhe....
akhirnya dia berhenti nangis dan mengangguk. terus gua turunkan dari gendongan dan dia menuju pispot terus duduk dan pipis. setelah pipis, dia mengambil handuk yang memang sudah disediakan untuk lap sesudah pipis, dia pun ngelap sendiri. lucu deh !
Friday, May 18, 2007
sedihnya jadi mak
menangis kueeenceengg !
belakangan ini si kecil kalo bangun lumayan pagi, pokoknya sebelum jam maknya berangkat kantor dia dah bangun. nah, kalo gitu repot deh ceritanya. tiap hari gua selalu berusaha bilang, mama mau ngantor yah hari ini. kamu kan dah gede, dah pinter, gak boleh nangis. ntar say bye bye dan bilang hati-hati di jalan ama mama. ntar sore mama pulang, beliin jelly, terus kita jalan-jalan.
jawabnya, "mama jangan ngantor!" atau "sama-sama ngantor aja, ntar beli jelly"
kata mak, "emang kamu bisa ngantor? bisa pakai komputer? sudah bisa baca dan nulis?"
terus dia mikir-mikir.
dibujuk-bujuk lagi, ujung-ujungnya tetap aja, "mama jangan ngantor."
kalo dah turun dari tempat tidur, ke mana pun maknya pergi, dikintilin sambil megangi celana maknya, gak mau lepas. ke WC, sikat gigi, dll. dikintilin terus. atau, "mama gendong" sambil kedua lengan diangkat dan diarahkan ke gua. kadang gua gendong, kadang gua gandeng.
kalo waktunya dah tiba, mau tak mau mesti tega. langsung kiss bentar, "mama ngantor ya, ntar sore pulang ajak kamu jalan2." terus gua langsung terbang ke pintu depan. saat itu, dia akan mengejarku sambil nangis kueeenceeeng banget dengan mulut terbuka amat sangat lebar. sungguh sedih dan tak tega menatap tampangnya yang lagi nangis gitu. kadang gua terpaku sejenak di balik pintu, mendengarkan tangisannya sambil dalam hati bilang, "maafkan mak, sayangku."
sampai di bawah pun masih kedengaran suara tangisnya yang kenceng.
tukang jual penganan tepung bakar yg tiap hari nangkring di pagar depan blok apartemen kami menatap ke jendela lantai 4 sambil senyum-senyum maklum.
night training and growing up girl
sejak minggu lalu udah kira-kira 5 malam gua gak pakaiin diaper. tengah malam, jam 3 pagi, jam 6 pagi dan jam 7 pagi gua gendong untuk pipis. secara keseluruhan, cukup sukses lah. tampangnya lagi pipis sambil tidur lucu banget. menggemaskan. kadang pipisnya separoh-separoh. terus gua panggil-panggil sambil bilang, "pipis nak..pipis nak..", dia pipis lagi, terus stop lagi. gitu seterusnya sampai 3 atau 4 kali. baru bener-bener tuntas pipisnya.
tapi ada 2 kali kecelakaan, waktu mau digendong pipis, eh celananya sudah basah duluan. untung kita pakai alas di tempat tidur. jadi tinggal gantiin celananya aja.
3 malam lalu, gua lelah banget sepulang kerja, gara-gara malam sebelumnya kurang tidur. terus habis jam makan malam 7.30pm, gua langsung masuk kamar dan tidur. sama papanya, pintu kamar ditutup. awal-awal masih kedengaran Crystal nyari-nyari, "mama mana?" dan dia pengen buka pintu kamar. terus oleh orang rumah dibilangi, "mama ngantor." ada-ada aja. masak malam2 masih ngantor.
gua baru bener2 tertidur mungkin jam 8 lewat. tengah malam baru kebangun. ternyata si kecil dah tidur bareng oma opanya. besoknya dapat cerita, kalo malam-malam saat mau tidur, waktu ditanya, mama di mana, jawabnya, "mama di kamar lagi tidur."
lho...ternyata dia tau mamanya ada dan lagi tidur di kamar! terus diajak tidur sama opa omanya dia mau. biasanya kalo ada maknya, dia gak mau tidur dengan orang lain.
saat tidur dengan oma opanya pun dia sendiri minta dipakaiin diaper. kalo ama gua, dia selalu menolak pakai diaper.
semalam, dia bilang sendiri pengen tidur dengan oma opa. terus gua gendong ke kamar oma opa dan gua tinggal di sana, dia oke-oke aja tuh. tapi begitu udah jam 11-an, tau-tau dia kabur balik ke kamar, sambil tertawa-tawa dikejar-kejar opanya. dia bilang, gak mau tidur dengan opa oma, maunya tidur ama mama.
belakangan ini si kecil kalo bangun lumayan pagi, pokoknya sebelum jam maknya berangkat kantor dia dah bangun. nah, kalo gitu repot deh ceritanya. tiap hari gua selalu berusaha bilang, mama mau ngantor yah hari ini. kamu kan dah gede, dah pinter, gak boleh nangis. ntar say bye bye dan bilang hati-hati di jalan ama mama. ntar sore mama pulang, beliin jelly, terus kita jalan-jalan.
jawabnya, "mama jangan ngantor!" atau "sama-sama ngantor aja, ntar beli jelly"
kata mak, "emang kamu bisa ngantor? bisa pakai komputer? sudah bisa baca dan nulis?"
terus dia mikir-mikir.
dibujuk-bujuk lagi, ujung-ujungnya tetap aja, "mama jangan ngantor."
kalo dah turun dari tempat tidur, ke mana pun maknya pergi, dikintilin sambil megangi celana maknya, gak mau lepas. ke WC, sikat gigi, dll. dikintilin terus. atau, "mama gendong" sambil kedua lengan diangkat dan diarahkan ke gua. kadang gua gendong, kadang gua gandeng.
kalo waktunya dah tiba, mau tak mau mesti tega. langsung kiss bentar, "mama ngantor ya, ntar sore pulang ajak kamu jalan2." terus gua langsung terbang ke pintu depan. saat itu, dia akan mengejarku sambil nangis kueeenceeeng banget dengan mulut terbuka amat sangat lebar. sungguh sedih dan tak tega menatap tampangnya yang lagi nangis gitu. kadang gua terpaku sejenak di balik pintu, mendengarkan tangisannya sambil dalam hati bilang, "maafkan mak, sayangku."
sampai di bawah pun masih kedengaran suara tangisnya yang kenceng.
tukang jual penganan tepung bakar yg tiap hari nangkring di pagar depan blok apartemen kami menatap ke jendela lantai 4 sambil senyum-senyum maklum.
night training and growing up girl
sejak minggu lalu udah kira-kira 5 malam gua gak pakaiin diaper. tengah malam, jam 3 pagi, jam 6 pagi dan jam 7 pagi gua gendong untuk pipis. secara keseluruhan, cukup sukses lah. tampangnya lagi pipis sambil tidur lucu banget. menggemaskan. kadang pipisnya separoh-separoh. terus gua panggil-panggil sambil bilang, "pipis nak..pipis nak..", dia pipis lagi, terus stop lagi. gitu seterusnya sampai 3 atau 4 kali. baru bener-bener tuntas pipisnya.
tapi ada 2 kali kecelakaan, waktu mau digendong pipis, eh celananya sudah basah duluan. untung kita pakai alas di tempat tidur. jadi tinggal gantiin celananya aja.
3 malam lalu, gua lelah banget sepulang kerja, gara-gara malam sebelumnya kurang tidur. terus habis jam makan malam 7.30pm, gua langsung masuk kamar dan tidur. sama papanya, pintu kamar ditutup. awal-awal masih kedengaran Crystal nyari-nyari, "mama mana?" dan dia pengen buka pintu kamar. terus oleh orang rumah dibilangi, "mama ngantor." ada-ada aja. masak malam2 masih ngantor.
gua baru bener2 tertidur mungkin jam 8 lewat. tengah malam baru kebangun. ternyata si kecil dah tidur bareng oma opanya. besoknya dapat cerita, kalo malam-malam saat mau tidur, waktu ditanya, mama di mana, jawabnya, "mama di kamar lagi tidur."
lho...ternyata dia tau mamanya ada dan lagi tidur di kamar! terus diajak tidur sama opa omanya dia mau. biasanya kalo ada maknya, dia gak mau tidur dengan orang lain.
saat tidur dengan oma opanya pun dia sendiri minta dipakaiin diaper. kalo ama gua, dia selalu menolak pakai diaper.
semalam, dia bilang sendiri pengen tidur dengan oma opa. terus gua gendong ke kamar oma opa dan gua tinggal di sana, dia oke-oke aja tuh. tapi begitu udah jam 11-an, tau-tau dia kabur balik ke kamar, sambil tertawa-tawa dikejar-kejar opanya. dia bilang, gak mau tidur dengan opa oma, maunya tidur ama mama.
Friday, May 11, 2007
telling the time
Crystal is 1 year 10 months 11 days
this few days, everytime during dinner, i ask Crystal what time it is. she will look at the clock and say, half pass seven. yes, most of the time, we dine around 7.30pm.
i think she has learnt that 7.30 is dinner time.
yesterday, on 7.15 i ask her:
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now ?
Crys : 7 o'clock.
mom : it's 7.15
1 minute later:
mom : Jing-jing, what time is it?
Crys : 7.15 (daddy and grandma heard it and laughed)
on 7.30, i asked her again
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now?
Crys : 6 pass 7.
mom : no. it's 7.30 . 6 means half.
Crys : 6 pass 7
mom: no. it's half pass seven
Crys : half pass seven
after 10pm
mom : Jing-jing, what time is it now?
Crys : 3 pass 10
mom : no. it's 15 pass 10.
Crys : 15 pass 10.
another 15 minutes went by.
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now?
Crys : 6 pass 10
mom : no. it's half pass 10.
Crys : (playing with our new TV carton box) half pass 10... it's already time to sleep.
(mom, dad & grandma laughed)
while she was around 4 months old, i often asked her, "what time is it now?" she would find and look at the clock in our living room. she started to differ the numbers 0-9 when she was around 14 months. she learnt from the playing mattress, which is quite popular in china.
this few days, everytime during dinner, i ask Crystal what time it is. she will look at the clock and say, half pass seven. yes, most of the time, we dine around 7.30pm.
i think she has learnt that 7.30 is dinner time.
yesterday, on 7.15 i ask her:
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now ?
Crys : 7 o'clock.
mom : it's 7.15
1 minute later:
mom : Jing-jing, what time is it?
Crys : 7.15 (daddy and grandma heard it and laughed)
on 7.30, i asked her again
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now?
Crys : 6 pass 7.
mom : no. it's 7.30 . 6 means half.
Crys : 6 pass 7
mom: no. it's half pass seven
Crys : half pass seven
after 10pm
mom : Jing-jing, what time is it now?
Crys : 3 pass 10
mom : no. it's 15 pass 10.
Crys : 15 pass 10.
another 15 minutes went by.
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now?
Crys : 6 pass 10
mom : no. it's half pass 10.
Crys : (playing with our new TV carton box) half pass 10... it's already time to sleep.
(mom, dad & grandma laughed)
while she was around 4 months old, i often asked her, "what time is it now?" she would find and look at the clock in our living room. she started to differ the numbers 0-9 when she was around 14 months. she learnt from the playing mattress, which is quite popular in china.
Thursday, May 10, 2007
otak babi
puas banget ........!!!!
akhirnya tercapai juga cita-cita gua makan otak babi setelah ngidam bertahun2.
he-eh.. maksudnya, sejak kuliah dan kerja di jakarta, tinggal jauh dari emak, emang dah susah nemu 'otak babi'.
dulu kalo di rumah, sekali2 mak suka tim otak babi buat gua. emang gua yang paling doyan di rumah. dimakan bersama kecap maggi.
pas tinggal di china sini, pernah beberapa kali ke pasar, tempat jual daging babi, tapi gak pernah nemu yg jual otak babi. soalnya katanya otak babi biasanya dah dibeli resto / rumah makan. biasanya paling gampang nemu di resto yang jualan "huo-guo" (itu lho, cara makannya berupa kuah panas, terus semua makanan mentah dicelup dan direbus di dalamnya)
sebenarnya sih depan rumah dari dulu gua tau ada jualan otak babi yang ditim dg herbal: tian-ma dan gou-ji-jiao. rumah makannya punya orang hok-kian. tapi tiap kali ke situ, dah habis aja atau lagi gak ada.
nah, 2 malam lalu gua beli sup-tim-ayamnya, krn otak babinya dah gak ada. murah, semangkuk kecil (300cc) cuman 5 yuan. terus gua titip pesen ke lao-ban-niang-nya buat nyisain satu porsi otak babi buat gua besoknya (laoban = boss, laobanniang = boss cewek/istri boss).
nah begitulah. jadi maren sore sepulang kantor, jam 6.15pm, gua langsung mampir dan dapatlah si otak babi yang telah lama diidam-idamkan, dengan harga 4 yuan (sama, porsi 300 cc).
itung-itung, kayaknya dah lebih 10 tahun lho gua gak makan otak babi. jadi puas banget dah! yummy sekali! rasanya mirip sih dengan otak ayam / bebek /angsa / sapi.
di daftar menunya ditulis:
tian ma zhu nao tang (bu nao yang shen)
sup otak babi dengan herbal tian-ma
gua bingung juga nerjemahi bu-nao yang shen. yang jelas maksudnya baik untuk otak dan memberi ketenangan. repose of mind (?)
sugesti kali yah... sejak 2 hari lalu, gua pusing2 terus (mungkin krn flu juga).
pas lagi makan otak babinya juga masih pusing2. tapi setelahnya, pas di rumah, kira-kira jam 7.30 suami pulang dan nanya gimana pusing2nya. ternyata gua dah nggak pusing lagi.
sugesti kali yah... ;-)
hehehe... sorenya suami sempat becanda di telpon bilang, "jangan kebanyakan makan otak babinya yah? ntar sapa tau calon bayi kita punya otak babi kan repot (maksudnya: bodoh/bego)." hahaha...!
akhirnya tercapai juga cita-cita gua makan otak babi setelah ngidam bertahun2.
he-eh.. maksudnya, sejak kuliah dan kerja di jakarta, tinggal jauh dari emak, emang dah susah nemu 'otak babi'.
dulu kalo di rumah, sekali2 mak suka tim otak babi buat gua. emang gua yang paling doyan di rumah. dimakan bersama kecap maggi.
pas tinggal di china sini, pernah beberapa kali ke pasar, tempat jual daging babi, tapi gak pernah nemu yg jual otak babi. soalnya katanya otak babi biasanya dah dibeli resto / rumah makan. biasanya paling gampang nemu di resto yang jualan "huo-guo" (itu lho, cara makannya berupa kuah panas, terus semua makanan mentah dicelup dan direbus di dalamnya)
sebenarnya sih depan rumah dari dulu gua tau ada jualan otak babi yang ditim dg herbal: tian-ma dan gou-ji-jiao. rumah makannya punya orang hok-kian. tapi tiap kali ke situ, dah habis aja atau lagi gak ada.
nah, 2 malam lalu gua beli sup-tim-ayamnya, krn otak babinya dah gak ada. murah, semangkuk kecil (300cc) cuman 5 yuan. terus gua titip pesen ke lao-ban-niang-nya buat nyisain satu porsi otak babi buat gua besoknya (laoban = boss, laobanniang = boss cewek/istri boss).
nah begitulah. jadi maren sore sepulang kantor, jam 6.15pm, gua langsung mampir dan dapatlah si otak babi yang telah lama diidam-idamkan, dengan harga 4 yuan (sama, porsi 300 cc).
itung-itung, kayaknya dah lebih 10 tahun lho gua gak makan otak babi. jadi puas banget dah! yummy sekali! rasanya mirip sih dengan otak ayam / bebek /angsa / sapi.
di daftar menunya ditulis:
tian ma zhu nao tang (bu nao yang shen)
sup otak babi dengan herbal tian-ma
gua bingung juga nerjemahi bu-nao yang shen. yang jelas maksudnya baik untuk otak dan memberi ketenangan. repose of mind (?)
sugesti kali yah... sejak 2 hari lalu, gua pusing2 terus (mungkin krn flu juga).
pas lagi makan otak babinya juga masih pusing2. tapi setelahnya, pas di rumah, kira-kira jam 7.30 suami pulang dan nanya gimana pusing2nya. ternyata gua dah nggak pusing lagi.
sugesti kali yah... ;-)
hehehe... sorenya suami sempat becanda di telpon bilang, "jangan kebanyakan makan otak babinya yah? ntar sapa tau calon bayi kita punya otak babi kan repot (maksudnya: bodoh/bego)." hahaha...!
Wednesday, May 09, 2007
3 bulan
oh ya, kalo itungannya gua dah masuk 3 bulan.
biasanya itungannya dari hari pertama haid terakhir.
so far i feel so great .. despite the flu dan bosen ama makanan rumah.
gak pakai acara morning sickness. (enak kan? hehe!)
yang penting asal habis makan gak langsung minum, nungguin 10 menitan.
terus, kalo soal ngidam..rasanya tiap hari sih ngidam makanan enak. hehehe... belom puas ama pempek, sate padang, dan makanan2 indo nih!
baru maren gua bilang ke suami, kayaknya mirip kehamilan pertama, doyannya ama pangsit kuah; dimakan dg cuka dan cabe.
note: pangsit ama suikiao (shuijiao) itu beda lho. beda di kulit pembungkusnya.
terus gua bilang juga ke suami, wah .. dg hamil gini jadi ada kesempatan makan pizza hut...hahaha! soalnya kita jarang makan ke pizza hut, paling banyak setahun sekali atau 2 kali. pizza hut di sini lebih mahal dibanding kalo di jakarta.
oh...oh.. satu-satunya keluhan, mungkin juga karena 2 hari terakhir flu, jadi rada sesak napas.
Gejala awal kehamilan
katanya sih ada beberapa gejala awal kehamilan, tapi beda-beda di tiap orang :
* morning sickness (alias mual-mual) di 3 bulan pertama. kalo gua kali ini boleh dibilang gak ngalami.
* bentar-bentar dah pengen pipis. karena rahim mulai menekan ureter. dulu pas kehamilan pertama, batuk dikit atau bersin, susah sekali ngontrol supaya air seninya gak leak-out (terutama pas kehamilan makin besar).
* mimisan (kalo di gua awal2 kehamilan upilnya sempat berupa darah kering. hamil yang pertama juga gitu. tapi gak sampe mimisan. dan sekarang udah nggak)
* gampang ngantuk (kalo yang ini iya.. kalo dah habis makan malam, bawaannya dah mulai ngantuk. jadwal rutinnya sih biasanya nemeni Crystal dulu jalan-jalan ke taman dekat komplek. balik sekitar jam 9. nah habis itu nemeni dia main-main sambil baring-baring di tempat tidur. kadang terus guanya ketiduran.
* badan pegel-pegel. wah, maren pulang indo 2 minggu, si Crystal sering banget minta gendong. untung so far waktu itu fit aja. kadang-kadang doang pinggang rada pegel. waktu itu juga udah mulai curiga sih, soalnya haidnya terlambat. tapi belom test aja.
* kram
makin ke belakang, kalo kurang kalsium, bisa gampang kram. jadi pas kehamilan dah masuk 4 bulan, sebaiknya mulai mengkonsumsi tablet kalsium tiap hari. kalo kekurangan kalsium, si baby akan ngambil cadangan kalsium di tulang / gigi kita. ada teman kantor yang sehabis kelahiran anak pertama, giginya tanggal satu.
* lebih gampang sesak napas. kadang kerasa sesak napas. apalagi 2-3 hari ini kena flu.
* gak nafsu makan. teman kantor ada juga yang lagi hamil 2 bulan. badannya pegel-pegel, kadang mual, gak nafsu makan. gua sempat gak nafsu makan minggu lalu .. bosen ama makanan rumah. kadang pagi-pagi habis bangun tidur, berburu pangsit. malam-malam, 2 jam sehabis makan malam, berburu mie sayur. katanya tiap lapar kudu makan. soalnya begitu kita lapar, si baby juga ikutan lapar. terus suka berburu jerut purut. hehehe... !
Makan apa yah ?
sebenarnya apa aja boleh dimakan, yang penting merata. sayur, buah, daging. kalo gua biasanya minum susu at least 2 atau 3 gelas sehari. terus kalo laper, diusahakan makan sesuatu, ntah biscuit, roti, apel...apa aja. kalo gak doyan susu, yoghurt bagus tuh...katanya malah lebih bagus dari susu.
sebaiknya jangan minum teh, kopi atau coklat. teh itu bisa merusak gizi dari makanan yang dimakan. tapi kalo pun mau, minum yang gak terlalu pekat. terus jangan langsung minum teh setelah makan.
kalo kopi dan coklat katanya menurunkan daya serap si baby terhadap kalsium, yang sangat penting untuk pembentukan tulang dan gigi si baby.
alkohol juga gak boleh yah..! takut merusak jaringan kali yah... ah.. gua gak tau persis penjelasan ilmiahnya. pokoknya katanya gak boleh.
banyak-banyak mengkonsumsi kaldu ayam, sop tulang, udang (berikut kulitnya), karena kaya kalsium. sayuran hijau, sumber zat besi, untuk nambah darah. yang paling bagus katanya "spinach", yang kalo di indonesia agak salah kaprah, disebut bayam. sebenarnya spinach itu beda ama bayam. tapi sayur bayam juga bagus dan kaya zat besi.
banyak mengkonsumsi kacang-kacangan, sumber vitamin B.
oh ya, 3 bulan pertama kudu mengkonsumi Folic Acid (asam folat), katanya bagus untuk pembentukan otak.
ada satu makanan lagi yang katanya bagus untuk nambah darah. kurma. bisa yang kering ataupun yang segar kalo bisa diperoleh. katanya, 1 buah kurma gizinya setara 7 buah apel. kalo di china, buah kurma gampang ditemuin. terutama yang kering, banyak dijual di supermarket. kalo yg segar, mesti nunggu musimnya. kalo gak salah sekitar juni-agustus. udah rada lupa.
pas kehamilan pertama, tiap minggu gua rutin makan kurma kering. tiap kali test darah, kata dokter hasilnya selalu bagus.
walnut juga bagus ..katanya sih... bagus untuk pembentukan otak si janin. gua gak tau penjelasan ilmiahnya sih.
oh ya, nekad juga yah...sampai sekarang gua belom check up ke dokter. hehehe!
bukannya cuek, tapi so far belom ada keluhan berarti. mungkin rencana minggu depan aja baru
ke dokter. di sini gak kayak di indo, tiap datang ke dokter langsung USG. katanya gak baik untuk si janin kalo sering2 USG. kalo di China, USG cuman 3 atau 4 kali. 1 kali di bulan ke 4. satu kali sekitar bulan ke 7. dan satu kali lagi saat udah check-in mau bersalin. kecuali mungkin ada kasus khusus, yang mesti dipantau. mungkin USG bisa lebih dari 3 kali.
satu lagi, di china sini, pas USG, kita-kita gak dibolehin ngelihat screen, untuk merahasiakan jenis kelamin si janin.
mencegah kemungkinan ada yg pengen gugurin kalo misal si anak itu perempuan, dan yang bersangkutan pengen anak laki. lagi-lagi karena berhubungan sama "one child policy".
lain-lain :
* yah, seperti kata orang2 tua, selama hamil jangan ngangkat/mendorong benda2 berat. tapi buat yang hamil kedua, gendong anak yang pertama yang masih balita, masih ok kok. dengan catatan si anak pertama bukan jumbo size lho. kalo anak pertama beratnya sampai 30kg, yah.. jangan digendonglah. anak pertamaku saat hamil kedua ini beratnya sekitar 11-12kg.
* jangan makan nenas muda dalam jumlah banyak saat kehamilan di bulan2 pertama, katanya bisa memicu keguguran.
* jangan over dosis mengkonsumsi merica (jangan terlalu pedas), gua pernah dibilangi, ada bumil yang over dosis mengkonsumsi merica terus mengalami keguguran. (sori .. gak tau penjelasan ilmiah).
* kata nyokap, jangan makan pisang ambon. aduuuh.. sori gak tau penjelasannya apa. aku sih nunut aja. pisang jenis lain boleh.
* kalo jalan jauh dan kecapean, angkatlah betis/paha sejajar dengan pinggang saat duduk/beristirahat. sanggah dengan kursi. kalo di kantor, bisa sanggah dengan kardus mungkin. katanya sih bisa mencegah varises.
* ada tips dari seorang guru jaman dulu, katanya istrinya saat kehamilan mulai gede, sering melakukan gerakan jongkok-berdiri-jongkok. sehingga saat melahirkan gampang dan cepat. gua juga ngelakuin hal ini. ada yg bilang sering2 jalan jauh, ngepel, naik turun tangga. namun semua ini kembali ke kondisi fisik masing2 bumil. ada bumil yang gak boleh terlalu capek, mesti bedrest, tapi ada bumil yang ok-ok aja, fit terus.
biasanya itungannya dari hari pertama haid terakhir.
so far i feel so great .. despite the flu dan bosen ama makanan rumah.
gak pakai acara morning sickness. (enak kan? hehe!)
yang penting asal habis makan gak langsung minum, nungguin 10 menitan.
terus, kalo soal ngidam..rasanya tiap hari sih ngidam makanan enak. hehehe... belom puas ama pempek, sate padang, dan makanan2 indo nih!
baru maren gua bilang ke suami, kayaknya mirip kehamilan pertama, doyannya ama pangsit kuah; dimakan dg cuka dan cabe.
note: pangsit ama suikiao (shuijiao) itu beda lho. beda di kulit pembungkusnya.
terus gua bilang juga ke suami, wah .. dg hamil gini jadi ada kesempatan makan pizza hut...hahaha! soalnya kita jarang makan ke pizza hut, paling banyak setahun sekali atau 2 kali. pizza hut di sini lebih mahal dibanding kalo di jakarta.
oh...oh.. satu-satunya keluhan, mungkin juga karena 2 hari terakhir flu, jadi rada sesak napas.
Gejala awal kehamilan
katanya sih ada beberapa gejala awal kehamilan, tapi beda-beda di tiap orang :
* morning sickness (alias mual-mual) di 3 bulan pertama. kalo gua kali ini boleh dibilang gak ngalami.
* bentar-bentar dah pengen pipis. karena rahim mulai menekan ureter. dulu pas kehamilan pertama, batuk dikit atau bersin, susah sekali ngontrol supaya air seninya gak leak-out (terutama pas kehamilan makin besar).
* mimisan (kalo di gua awal2 kehamilan upilnya sempat berupa darah kering. hamil yang pertama juga gitu. tapi gak sampe mimisan. dan sekarang udah nggak)
* gampang ngantuk (kalo yang ini iya.. kalo dah habis makan malam, bawaannya dah mulai ngantuk. jadwal rutinnya sih biasanya nemeni Crystal dulu jalan-jalan ke taman dekat komplek. balik sekitar jam 9. nah habis itu nemeni dia main-main sambil baring-baring di tempat tidur. kadang terus guanya ketiduran.
* badan pegel-pegel. wah, maren pulang indo 2 minggu, si Crystal sering banget minta gendong. untung so far waktu itu fit aja. kadang-kadang doang pinggang rada pegel. waktu itu juga udah mulai curiga sih, soalnya haidnya terlambat. tapi belom test aja.
* kram
makin ke belakang, kalo kurang kalsium, bisa gampang kram. jadi pas kehamilan dah masuk 4 bulan, sebaiknya mulai mengkonsumsi tablet kalsium tiap hari. kalo kekurangan kalsium, si baby akan ngambil cadangan kalsium di tulang / gigi kita. ada teman kantor yang sehabis kelahiran anak pertama, giginya tanggal satu.
* lebih gampang sesak napas. kadang kerasa sesak napas. apalagi 2-3 hari ini kena flu.
* gak nafsu makan. teman kantor ada juga yang lagi hamil 2 bulan. badannya pegel-pegel, kadang mual, gak nafsu makan. gua sempat gak nafsu makan minggu lalu .. bosen ama makanan rumah. kadang pagi-pagi habis bangun tidur, berburu pangsit. malam-malam, 2 jam sehabis makan malam, berburu mie sayur. katanya tiap lapar kudu makan. soalnya begitu kita lapar, si baby juga ikutan lapar. terus suka berburu jerut purut. hehehe... !
Makan apa yah ?
sebenarnya apa aja boleh dimakan, yang penting merata. sayur, buah, daging. kalo gua biasanya minum susu at least 2 atau 3 gelas sehari. terus kalo laper, diusahakan makan sesuatu, ntah biscuit, roti, apel...apa aja. kalo gak doyan susu, yoghurt bagus tuh...katanya malah lebih bagus dari susu.
sebaiknya jangan minum teh, kopi atau coklat. teh itu bisa merusak gizi dari makanan yang dimakan. tapi kalo pun mau, minum yang gak terlalu pekat. terus jangan langsung minum teh setelah makan.
kalo kopi dan coklat katanya menurunkan daya serap si baby terhadap kalsium, yang sangat penting untuk pembentukan tulang dan gigi si baby.
alkohol juga gak boleh yah..! takut merusak jaringan kali yah... ah.. gua gak tau persis penjelasan ilmiahnya. pokoknya katanya gak boleh.
banyak-banyak mengkonsumsi kaldu ayam, sop tulang, udang (berikut kulitnya), karena kaya kalsium. sayuran hijau, sumber zat besi, untuk nambah darah. yang paling bagus katanya "spinach", yang kalo di indonesia agak salah kaprah, disebut bayam. sebenarnya spinach itu beda ama bayam. tapi sayur bayam juga bagus dan kaya zat besi.
banyak mengkonsumsi kacang-kacangan, sumber vitamin B.
oh ya, 3 bulan pertama kudu mengkonsumi Folic Acid (asam folat), katanya bagus untuk pembentukan otak.
ada satu makanan lagi yang katanya bagus untuk nambah darah. kurma. bisa yang kering ataupun yang segar kalo bisa diperoleh. katanya, 1 buah kurma gizinya setara 7 buah apel. kalo di china, buah kurma gampang ditemuin. terutama yang kering, banyak dijual di supermarket. kalo yg segar, mesti nunggu musimnya. kalo gak salah sekitar juni-agustus. udah rada lupa.
pas kehamilan pertama, tiap minggu gua rutin makan kurma kering. tiap kali test darah, kata dokter hasilnya selalu bagus.
walnut juga bagus ..katanya sih... bagus untuk pembentukan otak si janin. gua gak tau penjelasan ilmiahnya sih.
oh ya, nekad juga yah...sampai sekarang gua belom check up ke dokter. hehehe!
bukannya cuek, tapi so far belom ada keluhan berarti. mungkin rencana minggu depan aja baru
ke dokter. di sini gak kayak di indo, tiap datang ke dokter langsung USG. katanya gak baik untuk si janin kalo sering2 USG. kalo di China, USG cuman 3 atau 4 kali. 1 kali di bulan ke 4. satu kali sekitar bulan ke 7. dan satu kali lagi saat udah check-in mau bersalin. kecuali mungkin ada kasus khusus, yang mesti dipantau. mungkin USG bisa lebih dari 3 kali.
satu lagi, di china sini, pas USG, kita-kita gak dibolehin ngelihat screen, untuk merahasiakan jenis kelamin si janin.
mencegah kemungkinan ada yg pengen gugurin kalo misal si anak itu perempuan, dan yang bersangkutan pengen anak laki. lagi-lagi karena berhubungan sama "one child policy".
lain-lain :
* yah, seperti kata orang2 tua, selama hamil jangan ngangkat/mendorong benda2 berat. tapi buat yang hamil kedua, gendong anak yang pertama yang masih balita, masih ok kok. dengan catatan si anak pertama bukan jumbo size lho. kalo anak pertama beratnya sampai 30kg, yah.. jangan digendonglah. anak pertamaku saat hamil kedua ini beratnya sekitar 11-12kg.
* jangan makan nenas muda dalam jumlah banyak saat kehamilan di bulan2 pertama, katanya bisa memicu keguguran.
* jangan over dosis mengkonsumsi merica (jangan terlalu pedas), gua pernah dibilangi, ada bumil yang over dosis mengkonsumsi merica terus mengalami keguguran. (sori .. gak tau penjelasan ilmiah).
* kata nyokap, jangan makan pisang ambon. aduuuh.. sori gak tau penjelasannya apa. aku sih nunut aja. pisang jenis lain boleh.
* kalo jalan jauh dan kecapean, angkatlah betis/paha sejajar dengan pinggang saat duduk/beristirahat. sanggah dengan kursi. kalo di kantor, bisa sanggah dengan kardus mungkin. katanya sih bisa mencegah varises.
* ada tips dari seorang guru jaman dulu, katanya istrinya saat kehamilan mulai gede, sering melakukan gerakan jongkok-berdiri-jongkok. sehingga saat melahirkan gampang dan cepat. gua juga ngelakuin hal ini. ada yg bilang sering2 jalan jauh, ngepel, naik turun tangga. namun semua ini kembali ke kondisi fisik masing2 bumil. ada bumil yang gak boleh terlalu capek, mesti bedrest, tapi ada bumil yang ok-ok aja, fit terus.
* saat usia kehamilan 4~5 bulan, sering2 nungging .. maksudnya ambil posisi menyembah (seperti sedang sembahyang / bersujud), pantat menungging lebih tinggi dari kepala kedua lengan menjulur lurus ke depan melewati kepala. katanya sih posisi ini bisa merangsang kepala bayi turun ke bawah.
* boleh tuh ikutan kelas senam hamil. berenang juga boleh. kalo gua sih yoga sendiri aja di rumah waktu kehamilan pertama. jurus2nya dapat dari hasil browsing di internet. dengar kata yoga jangan langsung merasa serem .. gak menakutkan kok gerak2annya. gak ada gerakan akrobatik. benar2 gerakan biasa; yang gak punya dasar yoga pun bisa melakukannya tanpa kesulitan. bisa juga lihat di sini, ada gambarnya yang gampang diikutin, tapi tulisannya mandarin.
* boleh tuh ikutan kelas senam hamil. berenang juga boleh. kalo gua sih yoga sendiri aja di rumah waktu kehamilan pertama. jurus2nya dapat dari hasil browsing di internet. dengar kata yoga jangan langsung merasa serem .. gak menakutkan kok gerak2annya. gak ada gerakan akrobatik. benar2 gerakan biasa; yang gak punya dasar yoga pun bisa melakukannya tanpa kesulitan. bisa juga lihat di sini, ada gambarnya yang gampang diikutin, tapi tulisannya mandarin.
* check this out: week-by-week guide to Pregnancy
Liburan 1-7 May 2007
Liburan Hari Buruh
Di China ada 3 minggu libur penting.
* Spring Festival (which is kalo di indo disebut IMLEK or Sincia).
* Libur Hari Buruh 1 May
* Libur Hari Nasional 1 Oktober
Cara liburnya biasanya diatur 7 hari berturutan. tujuannya sih untuk meningkatkan pariwisata domestik, biar orang2 cukup waktu untuk wisata.
nah, 7 hari berturutan itu termasuk di dalamnya hari Sabtu dan Minggu. Terus yang 2 hari mesti diganti dg hari kerja di hari Sabtu dan atau Minggu di minggu sebelum atau sesudahnya. jadi yang bener-bener efektif disebut "libur" yah sebenarnya jatahnya cuman 3 hari.
Masih soal libur .. enaknya lagi kalo jadi perempuan di China, pas International Women's Day, 8 Maret, kita-kita yang perempuan dapat jatah libur setengah hari (4 jam kerja). terus dari perserikatan buruhnya kita dapat sedikit ampao..hahaha... kalo 3 tahun lalu, kita yang perempuan, dinner bareng. setelah dinner pun, masih kebagian ampao yg kalo dirupiahin sekitar 80 ribu rp. lumayan bisa beli berkilo-kilo stroberi (suka banyak dan murah di bulan februari - maret). sekilo stroberi kalo dirupiahin kira2 5-8 ribu rp.
Libur hari buruh tahun ini kita di Hefei aja. gak keluar kota. paling ngajakin Crystal jalan2 ke taman2 kota aja. kita maren ajakin dia ke "Taman Judge Bao" dan "Taman Bunga Apricot". gratis, gak pake karcis masuk. kecuali misal mau masuk ke museum Judge Bao, baru bayar.
Taman Judge Bao ada sungainya (atau bentuknya lebih mirip danau). terus bisa naik kapal2an. kalo yang bermotor, bayarnya 30 yuan. Ada juga mainan bola gede yang bisa dimasukin orang terus terapung di atas air.
Taman Bunga Apricot itu kayak dufan, selain taman buat nyantai, fasilitas olah raga (gratis juga) di area sesudah pintu masuk, ada sungai/danau buatannya, ada niagara, kincir raksasa, kora-kora, dsbnya. masuknya sih gratis. cuman naik sekali, bayarnya 10 yuan. bukan model karcis terusan seperti di dufan.
Toilet-toilet umumnya lumayan lah.. dah bersihan dan lebih terawat dibanding jaman beberapa tahun lalu. enaknya di China sini, pemerintah udah banyak menggalakkan toilet umum gratis. jadi banyakan toilet umum di taman2 gratis. ada toilet2 umum (bukan di taman2) yang bayar 0.3 yuan (kira2 350 rp). tapi banyakan sekarang udah gratis. wah, kalo di indo, sekali masuk toilet bisa gopek atau seribu yah ...! waktu gua ke tangkuban perahu, bayarnya 1000.
hasil dari liburan seminggu maren, gua bukannya nambah berat badan, malah turun berat badan nyaris 1.5 kg. 2 hari terakhir sempat pilek dan gak nafsu makan, mag gua juga lagi gak beres 2 hari terakhir itu. pilek gara-gara sebenarnya cuaca cukup hangat, jadi pas bawa si kecil jalan2 ke taman dekat rumah, gua cuman pakai baju lengan pendek tanpa jaket luaran, taunya anginnya lumayan kenceng.
gak nafsu makannya gara2 bosen ama makanan rumah.
jadi sempat ngeloyor ke luar pagi-pagi atau malam-malam nyari pangsit atau mie sayur.
Almost successful
oh ya, another good news for me. hehe..!
Crystal selama liburan seminggu full ini sudah bisa pipis atau pup sendiri ke pispot. otomatis seharian gak basah celana. kalo main di atas tempat tidur juga kalo pipis dia ngomong.
seneng deh! kalo gua ketiduran, dia neriakin ke gua, "pipis.. pipis...!" gua langsung meloncat bangun.
kadang gua suka bilangin, "jangan pipis di tempat tidur yah.. ntar mesti cuci, jemur, kan repot."
ntar dia akan ngulangi persis apa yang gua omongi ke dia.
habis pipis juga, dia mulai suka ngelap sendiri. tadinya masih dilap-in. tapi lama-lama dia pengen ngelakuin sendiri.
New words
banyak kata-kata baru yang bisa diucapkan Crystal. walaupun kita sama-sama tau anak kecil belajar ngomong itu kecepatannya luar biasa, tapi tetap aja menakjubkan tiap dengerin dia ngucapin kalimat atau hal-hal baru.
misal:
* Ini nih .. Jing-jing anterin kacamata untuk papa
* Saya lihat-lihat dulu
* Nenek mengukur tekanan darah
* Jingjing ngantor di Indonesia. dapat banyak uang. kasih mama, papa, nenek dan kakek. Beli permen, beli baju, beli topi, beli sepatu.
* kalo ngajak dia salaman, dia akan bilang, "nihao..nihao... (apa kabar?) .. saya Liu Hui Han."
selain itu, dia sudah bisa pakai sepatu sendiri. dan mulai suka belajar pakai sendiri celana dalam dan celana panjang. pernah suatu kali, dia mengenakan celana dalamnya yang belom dimasukin ke lemari, dipakainya di luar celana panjangnya. tapi yang menjengkelkan, dia suka melepas sendiri sepatu dan kaus kakinya, padahal lantai masih dingin buat nyeker.
ada lagi, dia itu paling susah kalo dibeliin sepatu dan topi. selalu menolak, bagaimanapun lucunya modelnya. akhirnya nemu juga sepatu hello kitty yang nyaris persis sama dg sepatu dia summer tahun lalu, cuman beda warna. setelah dibujuk2, akhirnya mau juga.
dan sekali-sekalinya di supermarket, dia suka sama sebuah topi. pas dipakaiin di kepalanya, tumben-tumbennya, ga mau dilepas lagi. terus bercermin segala di samping counter topi sambil senyum-senyum. dasar ... !
sayang liburan ini kamera lagi dipinjem teman buat jalan2 ke thailand, singapore dan malaysia. jadi gak bisa motretin acara jalan2nya.
Di China ada 3 minggu libur penting.
* Spring Festival (which is kalo di indo disebut IMLEK or Sincia).
* Libur Hari Buruh 1 May
* Libur Hari Nasional 1 Oktober
Cara liburnya biasanya diatur 7 hari berturutan. tujuannya sih untuk meningkatkan pariwisata domestik, biar orang2 cukup waktu untuk wisata.
nah, 7 hari berturutan itu termasuk di dalamnya hari Sabtu dan Minggu. Terus yang 2 hari mesti diganti dg hari kerja di hari Sabtu dan atau Minggu di minggu sebelum atau sesudahnya. jadi yang bener-bener efektif disebut "libur" yah sebenarnya jatahnya cuman 3 hari.
Masih soal libur .. enaknya lagi kalo jadi perempuan di China, pas International Women's Day, 8 Maret, kita-kita yang perempuan dapat jatah libur setengah hari (4 jam kerja). terus dari perserikatan buruhnya kita dapat sedikit ampao..hahaha... kalo 3 tahun lalu, kita yang perempuan, dinner bareng. setelah dinner pun, masih kebagian ampao yg kalo dirupiahin sekitar 80 ribu rp. lumayan bisa beli berkilo-kilo stroberi (suka banyak dan murah di bulan februari - maret). sekilo stroberi kalo dirupiahin kira2 5-8 ribu rp.
Libur hari buruh tahun ini kita di Hefei aja. gak keluar kota. paling ngajakin Crystal jalan2 ke taman2 kota aja. kita maren ajakin dia ke "Taman Judge Bao" dan "Taman Bunga Apricot". gratis, gak pake karcis masuk. kecuali misal mau masuk ke museum Judge Bao, baru bayar.
Taman Judge Bao ada sungainya (atau bentuknya lebih mirip danau). terus bisa naik kapal2an. kalo yang bermotor, bayarnya 30 yuan. Ada juga mainan bola gede yang bisa dimasukin orang terus terapung di atas air.
Taman Bunga Apricot itu kayak dufan, selain taman buat nyantai, fasilitas olah raga (gratis juga) di area sesudah pintu masuk, ada sungai/danau buatannya, ada niagara, kincir raksasa, kora-kora, dsbnya. masuknya sih gratis. cuman naik sekali, bayarnya 10 yuan. bukan model karcis terusan seperti di dufan.
Toilet-toilet umumnya lumayan lah.. dah bersihan dan lebih terawat dibanding jaman beberapa tahun lalu. enaknya di China sini, pemerintah udah banyak menggalakkan toilet umum gratis. jadi banyakan toilet umum di taman2 gratis. ada toilet2 umum (bukan di taman2) yang bayar 0.3 yuan (kira2 350 rp). tapi banyakan sekarang udah gratis. wah, kalo di indo, sekali masuk toilet bisa gopek atau seribu yah ...! waktu gua ke tangkuban perahu, bayarnya 1000.
hasil dari liburan seminggu maren, gua bukannya nambah berat badan, malah turun berat badan nyaris 1.5 kg. 2 hari terakhir sempat pilek dan gak nafsu makan, mag gua juga lagi gak beres 2 hari terakhir itu. pilek gara-gara sebenarnya cuaca cukup hangat, jadi pas bawa si kecil jalan2 ke taman dekat rumah, gua cuman pakai baju lengan pendek tanpa jaket luaran, taunya anginnya lumayan kenceng.
gak nafsu makannya gara2 bosen ama makanan rumah.
jadi sempat ngeloyor ke luar pagi-pagi atau malam-malam nyari pangsit atau mie sayur.
Almost successful
oh ya, another good news for me. hehe..!
Crystal selama liburan seminggu full ini sudah bisa pipis atau pup sendiri ke pispot. otomatis seharian gak basah celana. kalo main di atas tempat tidur juga kalo pipis dia ngomong.
seneng deh! kalo gua ketiduran, dia neriakin ke gua, "pipis.. pipis...!" gua langsung meloncat bangun.
kadang gua suka bilangin, "jangan pipis di tempat tidur yah.. ntar mesti cuci, jemur, kan repot."
ntar dia akan ngulangi persis apa yang gua omongi ke dia.
habis pipis juga, dia mulai suka ngelap sendiri. tadinya masih dilap-in. tapi lama-lama dia pengen ngelakuin sendiri.
New words
banyak kata-kata baru yang bisa diucapkan Crystal. walaupun kita sama-sama tau anak kecil belajar ngomong itu kecepatannya luar biasa, tapi tetap aja menakjubkan tiap dengerin dia ngucapin kalimat atau hal-hal baru.
misal:
* Ini nih .. Jing-jing anterin kacamata untuk papa
* Saya lihat-lihat dulu
* Nenek mengukur tekanan darah
* Jingjing ngantor di Indonesia. dapat banyak uang. kasih mama, papa, nenek dan kakek. Beli permen, beli baju, beli topi, beli sepatu.
* kalo ngajak dia salaman, dia akan bilang, "nihao..nihao... (apa kabar?) .. saya Liu Hui Han."
selain itu, dia sudah bisa pakai sepatu sendiri. dan mulai suka belajar pakai sendiri celana dalam dan celana panjang. pernah suatu kali, dia mengenakan celana dalamnya yang belom dimasukin ke lemari, dipakainya di luar celana panjangnya. tapi yang menjengkelkan, dia suka melepas sendiri sepatu dan kaus kakinya, padahal lantai masih dingin buat nyeker.
ada lagi, dia itu paling susah kalo dibeliin sepatu dan topi. selalu menolak, bagaimanapun lucunya modelnya. akhirnya nemu juga sepatu hello kitty yang nyaris persis sama dg sepatu dia summer tahun lalu, cuman beda warna. setelah dibujuk2, akhirnya mau juga.
dan sekali-sekalinya di supermarket, dia suka sama sebuah topi. pas dipakaiin di kepalanya, tumben-tumbennya, ga mau dilepas lagi. terus bercermin segala di samping counter topi sambil senyum-senyum. dasar ... !
sayang liburan ini kamera lagi dipinjem teman buat jalan2 ke thailand, singapore dan malaysia. jadi gak bisa motretin acara jalan2nya.
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
blog itu tempat curhat yaa...
tempat curhat
tiap kali kalo berasa tertekan atau stress .. paling enak memang nulis di blog.
bisa curhat, ngomel atau nyerocos sepuas2nya.
toh orang rumah gak ngerti. soalnya nulisnya pakai bahasa indo. hehehe !
selain itu, kadang suka curhat via email ke hanna or henny.
maklum .. di sini gak ada teman yang bener2 teman.
paling curhat ke teman kantor aja, itupun gak all-out.
hubungan mak mertua dan menantu
nah ini dia nih..topik hari ini.
kayaknya di mana-mana hubungan mom and daughter-in-law itu susah dilakoni yah.
pasti ada friksi sedikit banyak; apalagi kalo tinggal serumah.
kalo gua list, untuk kasus umum dan kasus gua mungkin ada beberapa faktor:
1. beda/gap generasi: biasanya beda umur at least 20 tahun, kalo gua dg mak mertu beda 26 tahun.
2. beda pendidikan: mak mertuku gak menyelesaikan SD-nya. oh ya, tapi sering tuh dia nyeletuk ngomongi gua, sarjana S2, gak bisa apa2... pokoknya yang sejenis itu lah. walaupun dg nada bercanda.
3. beda culture: biarpun sama-sama orang chinese, tapi gua tumbuh di kultur orang indonesia, tinggal di kota kecil, terus pindah ke kota besar krn kuliah dan kerja. sementara mak mertua tinggal dan besar di kampung, baru pindah ke kota beberapa tahun setelah menikah. jadi kolot dan masih tahyulan banget. tapi paling gak mau atau malah bisa tersinggung dibilang tahyul, alias gak ngaku tahyul. contoh paling sederhana, gak boleh nyebut kata "mimpi" di pagi hari dan gak boleh ngebahas mimpi. soalnya katanya ntar seharian bakal ditimpal kesialan. masuk akalnya di mana coba?! beda kultur inilah yg banyak mempengaruhi cara hidup. misal kalo gua ngasih kado ke orang, gua senangnya harganya dicopot aja. yg penting kan bukan harganya. nah kalo di sini, justru harganya gak boleh dicopot, malah bon pembeliannya sekalian ditaroh di dalam. biar ketauan harganya berapa. terus kalo ada kado dari orang, dicatet sampai detil, terus mesti dibales dg harga yang kurang lebih sama. memang ada baiknya sih. tapi bikin hidup jadi lelah.
4. beda hobby / kegemaran: pernah gua dan suami ajak dia nyobain pizza hut, terus pulang dia muntah2. dia nyalahin si pizza. padahal sebenarnya adalah waktu itu dia udah laper, terus sebelum makan, perut kosong, dia minum coca cola pakai es. sementara magnya itu gak bagus. langsung masuk angin. terus dia bilang, "makanan elo, kita2 gak makan."
5. beda agama / kepercayaan: dia gak punya agama, ngakunya gak percaya. tapi kadang2 percaya ama "fu" (Buddha), jadi gak konsisten. ajaran kristen soal kasih pasti gak terlalu bisa diterima sama dia sepenuhnya, contoh yg simple: bila ditampar pipi kirimu berikan pipi kananmu. wah, bisa diketawain ama dia deh.
6. beda karakter, beda pemikiran: namanya juga beda orang, pasti karakter/pemikiran beda lah. repotnya, para mak mertua itu biasanya punya kecenderungan merasa dia lebih tua, dia lebih benar. apa yang dia lakukan, katakan, atau dia pikirkan adalah pasti lebih benar. kita2 orang muda tau apa sih? mak gua juga gitu kok ke ipar gua. sering gua ingetin jangan terlalu cerewet dan membesar2kan hal kecil. yah gitu deh.. tetap merasa dia lebih tau dan pasti lebih bener. dan hal ini sering membuat yang jadi menantu merasa tertekan / stress krn dituntut menjadi seperti si ibu mertua. kasus gua, repotnya mak mertua gua suka bawel. jadi satu hal bisa diulang2 ngomongnya. paling gua cuman bisa sabar...sabar...nahan diri. jangan dilawan. kalo dia memang bener, ikutin aja. tapi kalo dia gak bener atau gua gak sreg dg pemikiran dia, diem aja. gak usah dibantah. tapi juga gak usah dijalani seperti maunya dia. ngapain maksa diri ngelakuin hal yg lo gak percaya bakal ok. biasanya kalo di gua, hal ini banyak menyangkut soal parenting. gimana cara mengasuh anak. kalo dia ngoceh2 terus...paling gua diem aja. tapi tetap ngejalani apa yg gua percaya bener. misal aja, gua mau masak air, anak gua pengen nutupin tutup ceretnya, yah gua kasih aja dia nutup. yang penting kan si kecil happy, toh gak berbahaya. eh, gua diomelin!
gua kasih anak gua naik kiddy ride, eh, dia bawel.. bilang ngabisin duit. duit 2 yuan (kira2 2 ribu rupiah) kalo beli sayur dapat sekantong .. sambil ditunjukin tentengan sayur bayem yang baru dia beli. terus diumumi ke semua orang. pusing gak sih ...!
terus dah spring begini, suhu mulai naik. gua gak ngasih anak gua pakai baju terlalu banyak. yang jelas gua bisa ngira2 takerannya kapan anak gua kedinginan atau kepanasan. dia ngotot kudu ngasih pakai baju yg banyak ke anak gua. maksudnya baik sih, takut anak gua masuk angin. tapi takerannya badannya sendiri yg memang belakangan dia gak terlalu fit, jadi sering merasa kedinginan. sementara anak kecil itu gampang kepanasan dan keringatan. gua diem ajalah, daripada ntar malah jadi berantem. paling gua bilang, iya, ntar kalo dia kedinginan, gua tambahin bajunya. lha, pernah mak mertua gua cerita sendiri, waktu gua di kantor, Crystal pernah minta dipakaiin vest krn kedinginan! pas mak mertua gua pegang tangannya, memang dingin. tapi kalo kepanasan, dia buka sendiri vest-nya, gak mau pakai.
wah, masih banyak lagi deh friksi-friksinya kalo keseharian 24 jam ketemu terus.
maren gua libur seminggu full, dari tgl 1-7 May. gak terlalu ke mana2. paling bawa anak gua main2 ke taman2 tertentu. atau bawa jalan di komplek dekat rumah. selebih dari itu, yah di rumah. stress juga... dibawelin setiap saat.
mana suaranya menggelegar. gua suka males/feel annoyed denger orang ngomong tereak-tereak.
tadi pagi tuh, sumbernya kenapa gua jadi curhat panjang gini.
anak gua ngeluarin mainan yg pakai hand-drive gitu deh dari kamar.. terus langsung deh mau direbut ama si Smarty (koko sepupunya). terus mertua gua bilang, "kan sudah dibilang jangan dikeluarin."
gua nyambung, " mana gua tau. si Jing-jing kan mau, jadi yah gua keluarin."
eh, ternyata dia tuh lagi ngomong ke anak gua, yang gua pikir dia ngomong ke gua.
langsung gua kena damprat, dia bilang gua suka membantah apa yang dia omong... bla..bla..bla..
gua bilang, gua kan gak tau kalo dia bukan lagi ngomong ke gua.
tetap aja dia nyerocos ngomelin gua. dan semua orang lagi ada, pak mertu, neneknya suami, abangnya suami. habis tuh gua diemi aja lah. sabar..sabar...namanya juga orang tua.
tapi .. bete...bete.... bete euy...!
untung .. untung... untung gua kerja yah. kalo gak, gak kebayang gua mesti 24 jam sehari tinggal di rumah. dulu awal2 gua baru nikah, 3 bulan pertama belom dpt kerja. gua stress berat. situasinya miriplah.
adik bungsunya yang bantuin ngerawat si kecil pernah suatu kali ngomong ke gua bahwa kakaknya sendiri ngaku ke dia waktu gua belom kerja awal2 gua di sini, dia memang suka "ngerjain" gua.
pantesan, masa-masa itu gua bawaannya stress banget kalo di rumah.
bisa dimaklumi, dia takut gua nganggur seumur hidup dan jadi 'beban' buat anaknya (suami gua).
yah, gitulah... curhat panjang lebar soal mak mertu dan menantu.
kuncinya cuman satu.. dan gampang-gampang susah untuk dilakoni...
sabar..sabar..ngalah..ngalah...
gak mungkin kita merubah orang yg memang sudah begitu adanya.
dengan menjadi lebih sabar, friksi-friksi yang sebenarnya gak perlu ada bisa dihindari.
gua juga selalu berusaha belajar sabar...sabar... !
tiap kali kalo berasa tertekan atau stress .. paling enak memang nulis di blog.
bisa curhat, ngomel atau nyerocos sepuas2nya.
toh orang rumah gak ngerti. soalnya nulisnya pakai bahasa indo. hehehe !
selain itu, kadang suka curhat via email ke hanna or henny.
maklum .. di sini gak ada teman yang bener2 teman.
paling curhat ke teman kantor aja, itupun gak all-out.
hubungan mak mertua dan menantu
nah ini dia nih..topik hari ini.
kayaknya di mana-mana hubungan mom and daughter-in-law itu susah dilakoni yah.
pasti ada friksi sedikit banyak; apalagi kalo tinggal serumah.
kalo gua list, untuk kasus umum dan kasus gua mungkin ada beberapa faktor:
1. beda/gap generasi: biasanya beda umur at least 20 tahun, kalo gua dg mak mertu beda 26 tahun.
2. beda pendidikan: mak mertuku gak menyelesaikan SD-nya. oh ya, tapi sering tuh dia nyeletuk ngomongi gua, sarjana S2, gak bisa apa2... pokoknya yang sejenis itu lah. walaupun dg nada bercanda.
3. beda culture: biarpun sama-sama orang chinese, tapi gua tumbuh di kultur orang indonesia, tinggal di kota kecil, terus pindah ke kota besar krn kuliah dan kerja. sementara mak mertua tinggal dan besar di kampung, baru pindah ke kota beberapa tahun setelah menikah. jadi kolot dan masih tahyulan banget. tapi paling gak mau atau malah bisa tersinggung dibilang tahyul, alias gak ngaku tahyul. contoh paling sederhana, gak boleh nyebut kata "mimpi" di pagi hari dan gak boleh ngebahas mimpi. soalnya katanya ntar seharian bakal ditimpal kesialan. masuk akalnya di mana coba?! beda kultur inilah yg banyak mempengaruhi cara hidup. misal kalo gua ngasih kado ke orang, gua senangnya harganya dicopot aja. yg penting kan bukan harganya. nah kalo di sini, justru harganya gak boleh dicopot, malah bon pembeliannya sekalian ditaroh di dalam. biar ketauan harganya berapa. terus kalo ada kado dari orang, dicatet sampai detil, terus mesti dibales dg harga yang kurang lebih sama. memang ada baiknya sih. tapi bikin hidup jadi lelah.
4. beda hobby / kegemaran: pernah gua dan suami ajak dia nyobain pizza hut, terus pulang dia muntah2. dia nyalahin si pizza. padahal sebenarnya adalah waktu itu dia udah laper, terus sebelum makan, perut kosong, dia minum coca cola pakai es. sementara magnya itu gak bagus. langsung masuk angin. terus dia bilang, "makanan elo, kita2 gak makan."
5. beda agama / kepercayaan: dia gak punya agama, ngakunya gak percaya. tapi kadang2 percaya ama "fu" (Buddha), jadi gak konsisten. ajaran kristen soal kasih pasti gak terlalu bisa diterima sama dia sepenuhnya, contoh yg simple: bila ditampar pipi kirimu berikan pipi kananmu. wah, bisa diketawain ama dia deh.
6. beda karakter, beda pemikiran: namanya juga beda orang, pasti karakter/pemikiran beda lah. repotnya, para mak mertua itu biasanya punya kecenderungan merasa dia lebih tua, dia lebih benar. apa yang dia lakukan, katakan, atau dia pikirkan adalah pasti lebih benar. kita2 orang muda tau apa sih? mak gua juga gitu kok ke ipar gua. sering gua ingetin jangan terlalu cerewet dan membesar2kan hal kecil. yah gitu deh.. tetap merasa dia lebih tau dan pasti lebih bener. dan hal ini sering membuat yang jadi menantu merasa tertekan / stress krn dituntut menjadi seperti si ibu mertua. kasus gua, repotnya mak mertua gua suka bawel. jadi satu hal bisa diulang2 ngomongnya. paling gua cuman bisa sabar...sabar...nahan diri. jangan dilawan. kalo dia memang bener, ikutin aja. tapi kalo dia gak bener atau gua gak sreg dg pemikiran dia, diem aja. gak usah dibantah. tapi juga gak usah dijalani seperti maunya dia. ngapain maksa diri ngelakuin hal yg lo gak percaya bakal ok. biasanya kalo di gua, hal ini banyak menyangkut soal parenting. gimana cara mengasuh anak. kalo dia ngoceh2 terus...paling gua diem aja. tapi tetap ngejalani apa yg gua percaya bener. misal aja, gua mau masak air, anak gua pengen nutupin tutup ceretnya, yah gua kasih aja dia nutup. yang penting kan si kecil happy, toh gak berbahaya. eh, gua diomelin!
gua kasih anak gua naik kiddy ride, eh, dia bawel.. bilang ngabisin duit. duit 2 yuan (kira2 2 ribu rupiah) kalo beli sayur dapat sekantong .. sambil ditunjukin tentengan sayur bayem yang baru dia beli. terus diumumi ke semua orang. pusing gak sih ...!
terus dah spring begini, suhu mulai naik. gua gak ngasih anak gua pakai baju terlalu banyak. yang jelas gua bisa ngira2 takerannya kapan anak gua kedinginan atau kepanasan. dia ngotot kudu ngasih pakai baju yg banyak ke anak gua. maksudnya baik sih, takut anak gua masuk angin. tapi takerannya badannya sendiri yg memang belakangan dia gak terlalu fit, jadi sering merasa kedinginan. sementara anak kecil itu gampang kepanasan dan keringatan. gua diem ajalah, daripada ntar malah jadi berantem. paling gua bilang, iya, ntar kalo dia kedinginan, gua tambahin bajunya. lha, pernah mak mertua gua cerita sendiri, waktu gua di kantor, Crystal pernah minta dipakaiin vest krn kedinginan! pas mak mertua gua pegang tangannya, memang dingin. tapi kalo kepanasan, dia buka sendiri vest-nya, gak mau pakai.
wah, masih banyak lagi deh friksi-friksinya kalo keseharian 24 jam ketemu terus.
maren gua libur seminggu full, dari tgl 1-7 May. gak terlalu ke mana2. paling bawa anak gua main2 ke taman2 tertentu. atau bawa jalan di komplek dekat rumah. selebih dari itu, yah di rumah. stress juga... dibawelin setiap saat.
mana suaranya menggelegar. gua suka males/feel annoyed denger orang ngomong tereak-tereak.
tadi pagi tuh, sumbernya kenapa gua jadi curhat panjang gini.
anak gua ngeluarin mainan yg pakai hand-drive gitu deh dari kamar.. terus langsung deh mau direbut ama si Smarty (koko sepupunya). terus mertua gua bilang, "kan sudah dibilang jangan dikeluarin."
gua nyambung, " mana gua tau. si Jing-jing kan mau, jadi yah gua keluarin."
eh, ternyata dia tuh lagi ngomong ke anak gua, yang gua pikir dia ngomong ke gua.
langsung gua kena damprat, dia bilang gua suka membantah apa yang dia omong... bla..bla..bla..
gua bilang, gua kan gak tau kalo dia bukan lagi ngomong ke gua.
tetap aja dia nyerocos ngomelin gua. dan semua orang lagi ada, pak mertu, neneknya suami, abangnya suami. habis tuh gua diemi aja lah. sabar..sabar...namanya juga orang tua.
tapi .. bete...bete.... bete euy...!
untung .. untung... untung gua kerja yah. kalo gak, gak kebayang gua mesti 24 jam sehari tinggal di rumah. dulu awal2 gua baru nikah, 3 bulan pertama belom dpt kerja. gua stress berat. situasinya miriplah.
adik bungsunya yang bantuin ngerawat si kecil pernah suatu kali ngomong ke gua bahwa kakaknya sendiri ngaku ke dia waktu gua belom kerja awal2 gua di sini, dia memang suka "ngerjain" gua.
pantesan, masa-masa itu gua bawaannya stress banget kalo di rumah.
bisa dimaklumi, dia takut gua nganggur seumur hidup dan jadi 'beban' buat anaknya (suami gua).
yah, gitulah... curhat panjang lebar soal mak mertu dan menantu.
kuncinya cuman satu.. dan gampang-gampang susah untuk dilakoni...
sabar..sabar..ngalah..ngalah...
gak mungkin kita merubah orang yg memang sudah begitu adanya.
dengan menjadi lebih sabar, friksi-friksi yang sebenarnya gak perlu ada bisa dihindari.
gua juga selalu berusaha belajar sabar...sabar... !
Monday, April 30, 2007
potty training
Crystal is 22 months today
since Crystal could sit well, and especially when she started to walk, 11.5 months, if i was at home, i'd try as much to let her sit on potty when pee or poop.
also i often told her:
"Jing-jing, if you want to pee or poop, tell mama. OK? or if you want, you can go and pee at toilet. or you can sit on potty by yourself."
i think it's about time for her now.
she is more than half way to success for this potty training.
sometimes if she wants to pee, she sits on the potty by herself.
sometimes i just remind her by saying, "Jing-jing, go and sit on potty before you pee on your pants."
many kiddy pants in china are having a hole on the bottom area.
so, she wouldnt have to take off her pants. she can just sit on the potty and pee.
actually i have let her wear a kiddy panty. but her grandma is not so patient to let her wear it. she doesnt want to let her wear it.
sometimes Crystal will tell us by saying, "niao niao." (means: pee).
but still .. sometimes she says "niao niao" after she has already pee. lol !
last nite, around 9pm, i let her play puzzles on bed. few minutes later, i fell aslept 'coz i was awfully sleepy.
on 9.30pm, in my sleep, i heard her saying to me, "niao niao..niao niao..."
i found out she was standing besides our bed, talking to me, pointing her pee on the floor.
her pants were wet. lol !
she had got down from the bed. she just had pee before reaching the potty.
blamed mama for falling a sleep !
on 10pm, she told me she wanted to poop. so she sat on potty with me sat in front of her, accompanying her.
here was the sweetest thing she did while we sat together waiting for her to poop;
she said she wanted to kiss my eyes. so i let her do it. my dear lill one, mommy's enjoying your kissing mommy's eyes very much !!! and i also kissed her eyes.
Smarty doesn't want to use potty
On contrary, Smarty, the boy of my in-laws, never wants to sit on potty or toilet.
So anyone in the house should carry up this 18kgs boy whenever he poops, with extra bonus: the smell comes up from the basin where he poops.
They never let him have potty training .. never !
He is now, 2 years 8 months; maybe a little bit late for starting a potty training.
'They' here includes his own parents and my mother and father-in-law.
They just simply say, he doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet.
Yes .. of course he doesn't want, 'coz they never let him do from the very beginning.
So, please do carry him all the time if he wants to poop, and you all will surely get your bonus of course.. lol.
They never listen to my advise regarding some parenting stuffs. They think they know more perhaps. Whatever..!
But they often finds out Crystal can do this or that earlier compares to her brother.
Then they would start to teach similar thing to Smarty.
Same case with eating with a spoon.
I have a little argument (not quarrel) with my husband regarding potty training last nite.
My husband doesn't believe that Smarty doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet because of no potty training on him.
My husband said, it's just a boy's nature. A girl is easier to squat when pee or sit on potty, because of the nature that she is a girl.
Whatever-lah .. the potty training I did for Crystal has brought good result.. as i said, more than half way to success.
since Crystal could sit well, and especially when she started to walk, 11.5 months, if i was at home, i'd try as much to let her sit on potty when pee or poop.
also i often told her:
"Jing-jing, if you want to pee or poop, tell mama. OK? or if you want, you can go and pee at toilet. or you can sit on potty by yourself."
i think it's about time for her now.
she is more than half way to success for this potty training.
sometimes if she wants to pee, she sits on the potty by herself.
sometimes i just remind her by saying, "Jing-jing, go and sit on potty before you pee on your pants."
many kiddy pants in china are having a hole on the bottom area.
so, she wouldnt have to take off her pants. she can just sit on the potty and pee.
actually i have let her wear a kiddy panty. but her grandma is not so patient to let her wear it. she doesnt want to let her wear it.
sometimes Crystal will tell us by saying, "niao niao." (means: pee).
but still .. sometimes she says "niao niao" after she has already pee. lol !
last nite, around 9pm, i let her play puzzles on bed. few minutes later, i fell aslept 'coz i was awfully sleepy.
on 9.30pm, in my sleep, i heard her saying to me, "niao niao..niao niao..."
i found out she was standing besides our bed, talking to me, pointing her pee on the floor.
her pants were wet. lol !
she had got down from the bed. she just had pee before reaching the potty.
blamed mama for falling a sleep !
on 10pm, she told me she wanted to poop. so she sat on potty with me sat in front of her, accompanying her.
here was the sweetest thing she did while we sat together waiting for her to poop;
she said she wanted to kiss my eyes. so i let her do it. my dear lill one, mommy's enjoying your kissing mommy's eyes very much !!! and i also kissed her eyes.
Smarty doesn't want to use potty
On contrary, Smarty, the boy of my in-laws, never wants to sit on potty or toilet.
So anyone in the house should carry up this 18kgs boy whenever he poops, with extra bonus: the smell comes up from the basin where he poops.
They never let him have potty training .. never !
He is now, 2 years 8 months; maybe a little bit late for starting a potty training.
'They' here includes his own parents and my mother and father-in-law.
They just simply say, he doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet.
Yes .. of course he doesn't want, 'coz they never let him do from the very beginning.
So, please do carry him all the time if he wants to poop, and you all will surely get your bonus of course.. lol.
They never listen to my advise regarding some parenting stuffs. They think they know more perhaps. Whatever..!
But they often finds out Crystal can do this or that earlier compares to her brother.
Then they would start to teach similar thing to Smarty.
Same case with eating with a spoon.
I have a little argument (not quarrel) with my husband regarding potty training last nite.
My husband doesn't believe that Smarty doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet because of no potty training on him.
My husband said, it's just a boy's nature. A girl is easier to squat when pee or sit on potty, because of the nature that she is a girl.
Whatever-lah .. the potty training I did for Crystal has brought good result.. as i said, more than half way to success.
Saturday, April 28, 2007
funny fact about math
From a strictly mathematical viewpoint it goes like this:
What makes 100%?
What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?
Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?
We have all been to those meetings where someone wants you to give more than 100%!!!
How about achieving 103%?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help you answer these questions:
If:
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
Then:
H-A-R-D-W-O-R-K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
and,
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%
but,
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
And,
B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T
2+21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%
And look how far ass kissing will take you:
A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G
1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%
So, one can conclude with mathematical certainity that:
While Hardwork and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, Bullshit and Ass Kissing will put you over the top!!!
a ton of people who practice this and get places in this world!
from:
http://sunrisenmoon.blogs.friendster.com/my_blog/2006/02/the_real_truth_.html
What makes 100%?
What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?
Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?
We have all been to those meetings where someone wants you to give more than 100%!!!
How about achieving 103%?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help you answer these questions:
If:
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
Then:
H-A-R-D-W-O-R-K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
and,
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%
but,
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
And,
B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T
2+21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%
And look how far ass kissing will take you:
A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G
1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%
So, one can conclude with mathematical certainity that:
While Hardwork and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, Bullshit and Ass Kissing will put you over the top!!!
a ton of people who practice this and get places in this world!
from:
http://sunrisenmoon.blogs.friendster.com/my_blog/2006/02/the_real_truth_.html
husband store
A lady enters a "husband store".
there's a sign written on the door:
our store has 6 floors.
you can only go up and cannot return to the lower floor.
you will find an exit on each floor after you've picked what you need.
On the first floor the sign reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
She continues to the second floor. The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012th to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
there's a sign written on the door:
our store has 6 floors.
you can only go up and cannot return to the lower floor.
you will find an exit on each floor after you've picked what you need.
On the first floor the sign reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
She continues to the second floor. The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012th to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
Friday, April 27, 2007
bener2 pengen nangis !
sebel ama pemerintah china!
setelah nanya sana-sini, ke pihak berwenang .. ternyata aku tidak boleh melahirkan di china.
kalo melahirkan di china, suamiku akan kehilangan pekerjaannya, karena punya 2 anak status WNC. anak yang lahir di sini otomatis jadi WNC, karena salah satu orang tuanya WNC.
jadi aku harus balik dan melahirkan di indo. supaya si anak bisa berstatus WNI.
NO OTHER CHOICE, NO OTHER WAY !
kebayang bagaimana repotnya nanti.
atau pilihan kedua, menggugurkan si janin !
bener2 pengen nangis !
setelah nanya sana-sini, ke pihak berwenang .. ternyata aku tidak boleh melahirkan di china.
kalo melahirkan di china, suamiku akan kehilangan pekerjaannya, karena punya 2 anak status WNC. anak yang lahir di sini otomatis jadi WNC, karena salah satu orang tuanya WNC.
jadi aku harus balik dan melahirkan di indo. supaya si anak bisa berstatus WNI.
NO OTHER CHOICE, NO OTHER WAY !
kebayang bagaimana repotnya nanti.
atau pilihan kedua, menggugurkan si janin !
bener2 pengen nangis !
Thursday, April 26, 2007
got angry with mama
while playing on the bed after dinner, Crystal scratched mama's face with a plastic part of a pen. Mama didn't let her. She got angry and insisted. so mama beat her hand coz she kept insisting. after that she cried.
daddy came and said that he would take her out for a walk. she stopped crying. and said to daddy, "don't play with mama. play with daddy."
hahaha... made daddy and mama laughing.
few hours later, when it's about bed time, again similar thing happened on the bed.
Crystal got angry again.
Crys : Beat mama..beat mama.. Mama .. go to work!
Dad : (work on the computer, laughing)
G'ma: (just come in, hear it and laughing too)
Mom: OK, mama goes to work. Mama doesn't want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom : Hey ... didnt you ask mama to go to work just now ?
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom: Mama goes to work, mama doesnt want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : want Jing-jing.
Mom: dont want Jing-jing
Crys : eeh.. want Jing-jing, mama dont go to work.
Mom: (smiling) Ok, want Jing-jing. come here and hug mama.
yesterday evening, Crystal was playing with daddy's drawer key.
Grandpa said with hard tone, "dont play with it. gun-dan!"
Crystal cried bcoz of that.
during dinner, when we talked about this, Crystal also joined the conversation:
Crys : Jingjing went to grandma grandpa's bedroom.
Mom: oh.. what did you get ?
Crys: Got a key
Mom: what did Grandpa say to you?
Crys: gun dan
(everybody laughed)
Mom: and what did you do? did you cry? how did you cry?
Crys : eeh...eeh...
Dad : Jingjing, here is what gun-dan means ... (daddy got an egg and rolled it on the table)
gun = rolling
dan = egg
gun dan = go out (Chinese colloquial)
daddy came and said that he would take her out for a walk. she stopped crying. and said to daddy, "don't play with mama. play with daddy."
hahaha... made daddy and mama laughing.
few hours later, when it's about bed time, again similar thing happened on the bed.
Crystal got angry again.
Crys : Beat mama..beat mama.. Mama .. go to work!
Dad : (work on the computer, laughing)
G'ma: (just come in, hear it and laughing too)
Mom: OK, mama goes to work. Mama doesn't want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom : Hey ... didnt you ask mama to go to work just now ?
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom: Mama goes to work, mama doesnt want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : want Jing-jing.
Mom: dont want Jing-jing
Crys : eeh.. want Jing-jing, mama dont go to work.
Mom: (smiling) Ok, want Jing-jing. come here and hug mama.
yesterday evening, Crystal was playing with daddy's drawer key.
Grandpa said with hard tone, "dont play with it. gun-dan!"
Crystal cried bcoz of that.
during dinner, when we talked about this, Crystal also joined the conversation:
Crys : Jingjing went to grandma grandpa's bedroom.
Mom: oh.. what did you get ?
Crys: Got a key
Mom: what did Grandpa say to you?
Crys: gun dan
(everybody laughed)
Mom: and what did you do? did you cry? how did you cry?
Crys : eeh...eeh...
Dad : Jingjing, here is what gun-dan means ... (daddy got an egg and rolled it on the table)
gun = rolling
dan = egg
gun dan = go out (Chinese colloquial)
Friday, April 20, 2007
one child policy in China
by one child policy regulation in China, normally a Chinese couple is only allowed to have 1 child.
several exception i've ever heard:
* both the husband and wife are from the minority folk. the majority is "HAN". the minority are such as Xinjiang, Zhang, Chaoxian, etc. there are total 55 minority folks (thribes) in China.
* both the husband and wife are single-child in their own families.
* farmers whose first kid is a daughter.
* either the husband or wife is a foreigner.
previously, we got info that we could have 2 kids with Chinese nationality. but we needed to wait for another 3 years for the second one. but it was a mis-informatiton we got. another version we got was, if we wanted to have 2 children, both of the children must have foreign nationality (which is Indonesia).
the latest version, which is the correct version so far is:
we can have 2 children, if first one has Chinese nationality, then the second one cannot have the Chinese nationality, and cannot change it also in the future. if the second has the Chinese nationality, my husband will get fired from his job, which he works for the government (China Telecom). for this second kid, we dont have to wait for 3 years or so.
Thank God ! i really feel in such great relief now.
last few days i was in most stressfull condition ever, worried .. by the law that i must abort my second baby. if it happened, and i got no choice, i would plan to have my second baby in Indonesia.
and here is the great news...
i am now 9 weeks pregnant. and i feel great now!
actually it is out of our plan, out of the calculation, it happened during my infertile period; which was around the 20th day (from the first day of my period).
never rely on calculation by "fertility period" if you dont plan to get pregnant. lol ... !
several exception i've ever heard:
* both the husband and wife are from the minority folk. the majority is "HAN". the minority are such as Xinjiang, Zhang, Chaoxian, etc. there are total 55 minority folks (thribes) in China.
* both the husband and wife are single-child in their own families.
* farmers whose first kid is a daughter.
* either the husband or wife is a foreigner.
previously, we got info that we could have 2 kids with Chinese nationality. but we needed to wait for another 3 years for the second one. but it was a mis-informatiton we got. another version we got was, if we wanted to have 2 children, both of the children must have foreign nationality (which is Indonesia).
the latest version, which is the correct version so far is:
we can have 2 children, if first one has Chinese nationality, then the second one cannot have the Chinese nationality, and cannot change it also in the future. if the second has the Chinese nationality, my husband will get fired from his job, which he works for the government (China Telecom). for this second kid, we dont have to wait for 3 years or so.
Thank God ! i really feel in such great relief now.
last few days i was in most stressfull condition ever, worried .. by the law that i must abort my second baby. if it happened, and i got no choice, i would plan to have my second baby in Indonesia.
and here is the great news...
i am now 9 weeks pregnant. and i feel great now!
actually it is out of our plan, out of the calculation, it happened during my infertile period; which was around the 20th day (from the first day of my period).
never rely on calculation by "fertility period" if you dont plan to get pregnant. lol ... !
Monday, April 16, 2007
most difficult moment ever ...
this is the most difficult moment EVER in my life.
i dont know what to do, cause it seems that i won't have any choice.
i dont know what to do, cause it seems that i won't have any choice.
Sunday, April 15, 2007
diarrhea and brown sugar
we arrived at home on 11.30pm yesterday.
fyuuuh... awfully tired in and out ...!
'coz we travelled by train from Shanghai to Hefei.
it took us 7 hours sitting on the train.. fyuuuhh... again !
of course we kept Crystal being as convenient as possible, including when she wanted to sleep. at the beginning she slept on my arms and thighs. later on i couldn't stand it anymore, and i put her on the seat. thank goodness ... she slept soundly still. she got a little fever and cough before leaving Jakarta, blamed us on letting her drank coconut ice few days before.
she got well once we arrived at home. while today, i got diarrhea.
i took 2 tablets of diarrhea medicine, but i didn't work out. i still went to toilet 3 times and it's getting worse.
my father-in-law asked me to drink brown-sugar-water.
put around 2 table spoons of brown sugar into a glass of hot water (around 200ml).
voila... it worked ! and for the whole nite i only went to toilet once.
today is Lin's lunar bday.
we have some bday cake .. no... no... i didn't bake for sure, it's from the bakery.
we also got a nice surprise today. a very nice surprise !!!
well ... though we have thought we would get it. tell you later on.
fyuuuh... awfully tired in and out ...!
'coz we travelled by train from Shanghai to Hefei.
it took us 7 hours sitting on the train.. fyuuuhh... again !
of course we kept Crystal being as convenient as possible, including when she wanted to sleep. at the beginning she slept on my arms and thighs. later on i couldn't stand it anymore, and i put her on the seat. thank goodness ... she slept soundly still. she got a little fever and cough before leaving Jakarta, blamed us on letting her drank coconut ice few days before.
she got well once we arrived at home. while today, i got diarrhea.
i took 2 tablets of diarrhea medicine, but i didn't work out. i still went to toilet 3 times and it's getting worse.
my father-in-law asked me to drink brown-sugar-water.
put around 2 table spoons of brown sugar into a glass of hot water (around 200ml).
voila... it worked ! and for the whole nite i only went to toilet once.
today is Lin's lunar bday.
we have some bday cake .. no... no... i didn't bake for sure, it's from the bakery.
we also got a nice surprise today. a very nice surprise !!!
well ... though we have thought we would get it. tell you later on.
Sunday, April 01, 2007
flight to Jakarta
on 30-Mar-07 we took night train from Hefei to Shanghai.
left hefei on 8.15pm. arrived at Shanghai the next morning on 5am.
Crystal was being nice on the way. as i learnt from Lisa, who prepared 15 gifts for her Fino on the flight; i brought a puzzle for Crystal; but no 15 gifts. lol.
so she played puzzle on the bed or wandered around on the train. she also loved to climb the bed stairs. there're 6 beds in a block. 3 on the left and 3 on the right.
luckily, we got 2 lowest level beds. otherwise, i couldn't imagine how troublesome it would be.
after arriving in Shanghai, we had some breakfast at a resto besides the railway station. actually we could take the airport bus, with only RMB 18/person. but consider our flight was on 10.10am, so we took taxi, which cost us about RMB 170.
ghosh... our flight was canceled. it's said that Jusuf Kalla was in Shanghai, on his way to Egypt (or somewhere in the middle east country). the plane would be used as back-up for him. damn !
so we were all hanging around waiting for news regarding our flight.
our flight was transfered to Singapore Airline, schedule on 00.05am the next day.
so we all went to hotel for a rest.
on 9pm, we went to the airport again.
i was told that Garuda had mistakenly booked Crystal flight on the 08.30am flight. i just needed to inform the person-in-charge during check in. so we queued. around 11.10pm, we got trouble, we couldnt check in due to Crystal was not booked at the same flight with us. those stupid persons couldnt change her flight to the same flight with us in the booking system, even she was infant, which meant she didn't need a seat.
at the end, we couldnt get into this flight.
they re-booked us for the next morning flight.
ghosh .. in the middle of the night, we returned again to the hotel.
woke up 5.30 the next morning and went to airport again.
finally, we flied with SQ on 8.30am to Singapore.
luckily, SQ services was quite nice, the seat was also more comfortable (if compared to Garuda).
Crystal also got some toy from the stewardess.
Thank God, she was not giving us any trouble during the flight.
she played puzzled, played with spoon, fork, bread jam, butter, cup, etc.
The only problem was she didn't sleep --while i was quite sleepy-- and never stopped bugging me .... hahahaa... !
walking in the plane, going into the first class area, sometimes saying she wanted to pee while actually i put diaper on her. so once in a while i took her to toilet for pee in her diaper. lol !
when the plane were about to land, she fell asleep. at that time, unfortunately ... i couldnt sleep anymore.
we arrived at Singapore on around 1.30pm.
waiting for the next flight with Garuda to Jakarta on around 4.30pm.
Crystal was sleeping on my arms, for about 1.5 hours.
we ate some Hainan chicken rice at a resto in Changi airport.
hmmm... the taste was quite ok .. especially the "saus cabe" ... very tasty!
finally ..
in Jakarta, my cousin sister (Eny), her daughter (Jasselynn) and my youngest brother came to pick us.
what a tiring day !!!
Pudong Airport (31-Mar-07)
Shanghai Airline Hotel, 31-Mar-07
Changi Airport, 1-April-07
left hefei on 8.15pm. arrived at Shanghai the next morning on 5am.
Crystal was being nice on the way. as i learnt from Lisa, who prepared 15 gifts for her Fino on the flight; i brought a puzzle for Crystal; but no 15 gifts. lol.
so she played puzzle on the bed or wandered around on the train. she also loved to climb the bed stairs. there're 6 beds in a block. 3 on the left and 3 on the right.
luckily, we got 2 lowest level beds. otherwise, i couldn't imagine how troublesome it would be.
after arriving in Shanghai, we had some breakfast at a resto besides the railway station. actually we could take the airport bus, with only RMB 18/person. but consider our flight was on 10.10am, so we took taxi, which cost us about RMB 170.
ghosh... our flight was canceled. it's said that Jusuf Kalla was in Shanghai, on his way to Egypt (or somewhere in the middle east country). the plane would be used as back-up for him. damn !
so we were all hanging around waiting for news regarding our flight.
our flight was transfered to Singapore Airline, schedule on 00.05am the next day.
so we all went to hotel for a rest.
on 9pm, we went to the airport again.
i was told that Garuda had mistakenly booked Crystal flight on the 08.30am flight. i just needed to inform the person-in-charge during check in. so we queued. around 11.10pm, we got trouble, we couldnt check in due to Crystal was not booked at the same flight with us. those stupid persons couldnt change her flight to the same flight with us in the booking system, even she was infant, which meant she didn't need a seat.
at the end, we couldnt get into this flight.
they re-booked us for the next morning flight.
ghosh .. in the middle of the night, we returned again to the hotel.
woke up 5.30 the next morning and went to airport again.
finally, we flied with SQ on 8.30am to Singapore.
luckily, SQ services was quite nice, the seat was also more comfortable (if compared to Garuda).
Crystal also got some toy from the stewardess.
Thank God, she was not giving us any trouble during the flight.
she played puzzled, played with spoon, fork, bread jam, butter, cup, etc.
The only problem was she didn't sleep --while i was quite sleepy-- and never stopped bugging me .... hahahaa... !
walking in the plane, going into the first class area, sometimes saying she wanted to pee while actually i put diaper on her. so once in a while i took her to toilet for pee in her diaper. lol !
when the plane were about to land, she fell asleep. at that time, unfortunately ... i couldnt sleep anymore.
we arrived at Singapore on around 1.30pm.
waiting for the next flight with Garuda to Jakarta on around 4.30pm.
Crystal was sleeping on my arms, for about 1.5 hours.
we ate some Hainan chicken rice at a resto in Changi airport.
hmmm... the taste was quite ok .. especially the "saus cabe" ... very tasty!
finally ..
in Jakarta, my cousin sister (Eny), her daughter (Jasselynn) and my youngest brother came to pick us.
what a tiring day !!!
Pudong Airport (31-Mar-07)
Shanghai Airline Hotel, 31-Mar-07
Changi Airport, 1-April-07
Thursday, March 29, 2007
persiapan mudik
ternyata bloggernya bisa dibuka lagi. jadi masih nyempetin nulis sedikit catetan.
persiapan mudik repot juga...dari pesan tiket sampai belanja oleh2.
TIKET
maklum, maunya cari tiket harga termurah. akhirnya dapat tiket discount, mesti balik dalam 14 hari. cocok banget, soalnya kerjaan kantorku dan kantor suami sama2 gak bisa ditinggal terlalu lama. kalo kerjaanku, gak bisa ditinggal karena aku kawatir gak ke-handle dg baik.
kalo suami, pertimbangannya, kalo lebih dari sekian hari (lupa berapa hari), bonusnya bisa hilang. dan bonusnya itu separoh dari gaji.
tiket discount Garuda pulang pergi Shanghai-Jakarta harganya US$500/RMB 3845 (all in, udah termasuk tax, fuel charge dan sebagainya). karena tiketnya special discount, tiket untuk Crystal (infant) bukan yang seharusnya 10% untuk anak di bawah 2 tahun, tapi kena 20% (aturan internalnya Garuda). jadi harga tiketnya si kecil mayan juga... RMB 3310 (US$430).
tiket Jakarta-Jambi juga dah dapat: Rp 338,000/adult, Rp 68,000/infant.
jadi rada tenang sekarang.
untuk Hefei-Shanghai, kita naik kereta malam. jadi bisa tidur di kereta. ada tempat tidurnya dan ber-AC. biar irit ... hehehe! kebetulan schedulenya juga pas dg jadwal terbangnya.
BELANJA OLEH2
repot juga yah kalo punya sodara sekompi. bayangi makku total ada 11 bersodara (1 orang dah meninggal) dan babe 8 bersodara (ada 1 juga yang dah meninggal). masing2 oom dan tante punya anak 3-6 orang. dan 50%-nya dah married dan punya anak 1-3 orang. kalo didaftar kira2 kayak gini statistiknya:
oom dan tante = 25 orang (termasuk pasangannya)
sepupu = 28 orang (gak termasuk pasangannya)
ponakan = 30 orang (estimasi aja..soalnya gak ada update yg pasti).
maren mertua gua belanja chinese teh (Huangshan Maofeng, Huoshan Huangya, Lu An Guapian, Longjing) nyaris total mencapai 8 kg. packingnya dalam bentuk kalengan. total 1 kardus ukuran sedang. itu pun gak semua tante/oom dapat jatah. kalo yg tinggal di luar jambi / jakarta, udh gak dijatahin .. hehehehe..! gua sendiri belanja cemilan2 khas chinese di carrefour, plus belanja sedikit baju/celana untuk ponakan, sodara dan bonyok. total 1 koper gede. hehehee...!
oh ya, untungnya bokap mertua banyak channel nih. beli chinese teanya itu nyari teman "seperjuangan" waktu di tentara kelautan dulu, yang kebetulan punya adik yang buka toko chinese teh. uuh... discountnya gila-gilaan. bayangi aja, harga normal pasaran (udah gak bisa ditawar) untuk Huangshan Maofeng adalah RMB 480/kg. nah, bokap mertua gua itu bisa beli dg harga RMB 160/kg (udah modalnya doang).
sebenarnya pusing juga, belom mikirin oleh-oleh untuk teman2 dekat, yang kayaknya udah gak muat lagi, alias mesti di-skip kayaknya...! =( soalnya masih mesti bawa koper baju dan menggendong si kecil, kalo dia gak mau jalan repot juga kan... gua dah nyari semacam tali buat gendong bayi gitu. (apa yah namanya?) biar tangan gua bisa bebas narik koper.. gak nemu euiii... adanya yang rada belibet gitu... gak ringkes. akhirnya gak jadi beli.
di samping belanja oleh2, kudu belanja baju-baju tropikal untuk si kecil, soalnya banyak baju kala summer tahun lalu dah agak kekecilan. repot juga belanja buat si kecil .. baju-baju, sepatu untuk summer belom launching di toko2. ujungnya, gua cuman dapat 1 buah rok terusan. akhirnya coba bongkar2 baju-baju tahun lalu. yah... beli di indo aja deh, solusi termudah.
repotnya lagi.. pas gua nyoba-nyoba topi buat si kecil, semua ditolak ama dia. juga sepatu, nemu satu di stok lama yang punya toko, terlalu ngepas banget, gak ada ukuran yang gedean dikit. takut gak nyaman di kaki, udah gitu, dia juga menolak, protes-protes terus pas dicobaiin ke kakinya. emang paling pusing kalo beli sepatu buat dia. solusi terbaik adalah nyari yang persis sama dg model yang dia pakai saat ini. tapi di toko gak ada yang sama persis. toko tempat gua beli tahun lalu kebetulan dah tutup, dan buka tempat mandi untuk baby.
di rumah ada beberapa pasang sepatu yang dibeliin, dia gak mau pakai. setiap kali dipakaikan ke kakinya, nangis2, ngomel dan protes, dan dilepasin sendiri ama dia. puyeeengggg...!
PASSPORT
sempat nyaris batal rencana pulang bawa anak dan suami. soalnya sempat passport suami gak diloloskan dg alasan yang gak jelas dan gak penting banget. tapi akhirnya dg bantuan sodara / oom yang di kepolisian, akhirnya jadi juga paspornya 2 bulan lalu. fyuuuh....!
SINGAPORE dan BALI
tadinya sempat mikir mampir dulu 2 hari di singapore, soalnya kebetulan gua ada customer visit ke singapore. udah nyiapin uang jaminannya segala. warga PRC yang apply visa singapore mesti bayar jaminan RMB 5100/orang, dewasa maupun anak kecil idem. eh.. pas lagi mau urus2 visa via agent, ditolak, karena katanya maknya orang asing, agent gak bisa urus visanya, mesti urus sendiri ke konsulat singapore yang di shanghai. cari info di website, katanya sih warga PRC yang mampir di singapore gak lebih dari 96 jam, bisa visa free. tapi ada syarat ini itunya, yang akhirnya males juga ngecek lebih jauh, lagian takut kalo bermasalah pas di sononya .. malah repot.
yah sutralah... akhirnya mutusin gak mampir ke singapore, tapi langsung beli tiket ke jakarta.
ternyata mau "keluar negri" itu repotnya juga minta ampun yah!
sempat nimbang mau ajak suami jalan2 ke bali, udah contact guide segala. tapi sutralah..takut si kecil gak kuat fisiknya, kecapean jalan jauh, akhirnya ditunda untuk beberapa tahun aja lagi.
GAK SABARAN
oke deh... dari segala pernak-pernik persiapan mudik di atas, gua paling gak sabaran pengen cepat2 menikmati pempek, sate padang, siomai, ayam bakar, ikan bakar, sambal terasi, sayur asem, gado-gado, martabak, bakso, ... kuetiaw/bihun goreng.... nyammm....nyamm....nyammm... ! jangan kata gua di china sini, tempat asal kuetiaw dan sodara2nya; kuetiaw, bihun goreng atau bakmi terenak tetap aja dari indo. hahahahaa!
persiapan mudik repot juga...dari pesan tiket sampai belanja oleh2.
TIKET
maklum, maunya cari tiket harga termurah. akhirnya dapat tiket discount, mesti balik dalam 14 hari. cocok banget, soalnya kerjaan kantorku dan kantor suami sama2 gak bisa ditinggal terlalu lama. kalo kerjaanku, gak bisa ditinggal karena aku kawatir gak ke-handle dg baik.
kalo suami, pertimbangannya, kalo lebih dari sekian hari (lupa berapa hari), bonusnya bisa hilang. dan bonusnya itu separoh dari gaji.
tiket discount Garuda pulang pergi Shanghai-Jakarta harganya US$500/RMB 3845 (all in, udah termasuk tax, fuel charge dan sebagainya). karena tiketnya special discount, tiket untuk Crystal (infant) bukan yang seharusnya 10% untuk anak di bawah 2 tahun, tapi kena 20% (aturan internalnya Garuda). jadi harga tiketnya si kecil mayan juga... RMB 3310 (US$430).
tiket Jakarta-Jambi juga dah dapat: Rp 338,000/adult, Rp 68,000/infant.
jadi rada tenang sekarang.
untuk Hefei-Shanghai, kita naik kereta malam. jadi bisa tidur di kereta. ada tempat tidurnya dan ber-AC. biar irit ... hehehe! kebetulan schedulenya juga pas dg jadwal terbangnya.
BELANJA OLEH2
repot juga yah kalo punya sodara sekompi. bayangi makku total ada 11 bersodara (1 orang dah meninggal) dan babe 8 bersodara (ada 1 juga yang dah meninggal). masing2 oom dan tante punya anak 3-6 orang. dan 50%-nya dah married dan punya anak 1-3 orang. kalo didaftar kira2 kayak gini statistiknya:
oom dan tante = 25 orang (termasuk pasangannya)
sepupu = 28 orang (gak termasuk pasangannya)
ponakan = 30 orang (estimasi aja..soalnya gak ada update yg pasti).
maren mertua gua belanja chinese teh (Huangshan Maofeng, Huoshan Huangya, Lu An Guapian, Longjing) nyaris total mencapai 8 kg. packingnya dalam bentuk kalengan. total 1 kardus ukuran sedang. itu pun gak semua tante/oom dapat jatah. kalo yg tinggal di luar jambi / jakarta, udh gak dijatahin .. hehehehe..! gua sendiri belanja cemilan2 khas chinese di carrefour, plus belanja sedikit baju/celana untuk ponakan, sodara dan bonyok. total 1 koper gede. hehehee...!
oh ya, untungnya bokap mertua banyak channel nih. beli chinese teanya itu nyari teman "seperjuangan" waktu di tentara kelautan dulu, yang kebetulan punya adik yang buka toko chinese teh. uuh... discountnya gila-gilaan. bayangi aja, harga normal pasaran (udah gak bisa ditawar) untuk Huangshan Maofeng adalah RMB 480/kg. nah, bokap mertua gua itu bisa beli dg harga RMB 160/kg (udah modalnya doang).
sebenarnya pusing juga, belom mikirin oleh-oleh untuk teman2 dekat, yang kayaknya udah gak muat lagi, alias mesti di-skip kayaknya...! =( soalnya masih mesti bawa koper baju dan menggendong si kecil, kalo dia gak mau jalan repot juga kan... gua dah nyari semacam tali buat gendong bayi gitu. (apa yah namanya?) biar tangan gua bisa bebas narik koper.. gak nemu euiii... adanya yang rada belibet gitu... gak ringkes. akhirnya gak jadi beli.
di samping belanja oleh2, kudu belanja baju-baju tropikal untuk si kecil, soalnya banyak baju kala summer tahun lalu dah agak kekecilan. repot juga belanja buat si kecil .. baju-baju, sepatu untuk summer belom launching di toko2. ujungnya, gua cuman dapat 1 buah rok terusan. akhirnya coba bongkar2 baju-baju tahun lalu. yah... beli di indo aja deh, solusi termudah.
repotnya lagi.. pas gua nyoba-nyoba topi buat si kecil, semua ditolak ama dia. juga sepatu, nemu satu di stok lama yang punya toko, terlalu ngepas banget, gak ada ukuran yang gedean dikit. takut gak nyaman di kaki, udah gitu, dia juga menolak, protes-protes terus pas dicobaiin ke kakinya. emang paling pusing kalo beli sepatu buat dia. solusi terbaik adalah nyari yang persis sama dg model yang dia pakai saat ini. tapi di toko gak ada yang sama persis. toko tempat gua beli tahun lalu kebetulan dah tutup, dan buka tempat mandi untuk baby.
di rumah ada beberapa pasang sepatu yang dibeliin, dia gak mau pakai. setiap kali dipakaikan ke kakinya, nangis2, ngomel dan protes, dan dilepasin sendiri ama dia. puyeeengggg...!
PASSPORT
sempat nyaris batal rencana pulang bawa anak dan suami. soalnya sempat passport suami gak diloloskan dg alasan yang gak jelas dan gak penting banget. tapi akhirnya dg bantuan sodara / oom yang di kepolisian, akhirnya jadi juga paspornya 2 bulan lalu. fyuuuh....!
SINGAPORE dan BALI
tadinya sempat mikir mampir dulu 2 hari di singapore, soalnya kebetulan gua ada customer visit ke singapore. udah nyiapin uang jaminannya segala. warga PRC yang apply visa singapore mesti bayar jaminan RMB 5100/orang, dewasa maupun anak kecil idem. eh.. pas lagi mau urus2 visa via agent, ditolak, karena katanya maknya orang asing, agent gak bisa urus visanya, mesti urus sendiri ke konsulat singapore yang di shanghai. cari info di website, katanya sih warga PRC yang mampir di singapore gak lebih dari 96 jam, bisa visa free. tapi ada syarat ini itunya, yang akhirnya males juga ngecek lebih jauh, lagian takut kalo bermasalah pas di sononya .. malah repot.
yah sutralah... akhirnya mutusin gak mampir ke singapore, tapi langsung beli tiket ke jakarta.
ternyata mau "keluar negri" itu repotnya juga minta ampun yah!
sempat nimbang mau ajak suami jalan2 ke bali, udah contact guide segala. tapi sutralah..takut si kecil gak kuat fisiknya, kecapean jalan jauh, akhirnya ditunda untuk beberapa tahun aja lagi.
GAK SABARAN
oke deh... dari segala pernak-pernik persiapan mudik di atas, gua paling gak sabaran pengen cepat2 menikmati pempek, sate padang, siomai, ayam bakar, ikan bakar, sambal terasi, sayur asem, gado-gado, martabak, bakso, ... kuetiaw/bihun goreng.... nyammm....nyamm....nyammm... ! jangan kata gua di china sini, tempat asal kuetiaw dan sodara2nya; kuetiaw, bihun goreng atau bakmi terenak tetap aja dari indo. hahahahaa!
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