this was the second time i was out of town. it was for 2 days and 1 night to Shanghai and Ninghai (13 & 14 March) while Lin also had to be out of town two for 3 days (13 - 15 Mar). this was her first nite without mommy and daddy at home.
before falling asleep in my hotel room, i watched her short videos on my mobile until 11.30pm. missed her so at that time! her granny said she woke up twice between midnite and morning.
her 3rd upper-front-left cutting tooth was coming out on 14-Mar-06.
Crystal didn't eat much yesterday, probably she felt uncomfortable with her new tooth. but today she could eat more as Lin told me when i called at lunch time.
she makes a lot of improvement these days. if i teach her something, she can quickly absorb it. for example, it took not more than one hour to let her differ red umbrella and blue umbrella. she also knows red santa clauss and blue santa clauss which i hang on the window.
i taught her "comb" and "combing hair". sometimes if she wants, if i ask her to comb my hair, she will raise her hand that holds a comb to comb my hair. she now can point out people nose, mouth, and eye that is if she wants, bcoz sometimes she doesn't want if she is paying attention on other thing.she also knows big duck and small duckling.i also took her to the balcony, and pointed the moon and stars to her.
but she is slow in studying with "pictures". we have an "animals poster". i think it's more difficult for her bcoz pictures are not "real".
Thursday, March 16, 2006
Wednesday, March 08, 2006
brave for needle, afraid of water!
lill Crystal had measles immunization this morning.
all the lill kids in the room were crying after the injection.
again our brave baby girl didn't cry, though she almost cried,
but i manipulated her, asking her where the lamp was ... lol!
but zuueiiiick ... she is terribly afraid of water!
since it's winter, we don't bathe her everyday, worry she might get a flu.
everytime we bathe her, she will cry outloud, no way to calm her!
she will only stop after we dress her and carry her in our arms
then she falls asleep.... zzzzz....zzzz....!
all the lill kids in the room were crying after the injection.
again our brave baby girl didn't cry, though she almost cried,
but i manipulated her, asking her where the lamp was ... lol!
but zuueiiiick ... she is terribly afraid of water!
since it's winter, we don't bathe her everyday, worry she might get a flu.
everytime we bathe her, she will cry outloud, no way to calm her!
she will only stop after we dress her and carry her in our arms
then she falls asleep.... zzzzz....zzzz....!
Monday, March 06, 2006
clapping hands
since few months back i've been teaching crystal to clap hands and say: "clap your hands...clap your hands". holding her two hands and clap them. still do the same e'night when i wash her. she wears too much cloth during winter, uneasy to move around or clap hands. however, now she begins to seem like clapping hands .. no clapping voice, of course!
i've been also teaching her to blink eyes, and she just can do it lately in her 8th month. while my friend's baby could do it in his 6th month. well...i comfort myself, every baby is unique and meets her own physical milestones at her own pace. it's true!
i've been also teaching her to blink eyes, and she just can do it lately in her 8th month. while my friend's baby could do it in his 6th month. well...i comfort myself, every baby is unique and meets her own physical milestones at her own pace. it's true!
Sunday, March 05, 2006
knows her shoes
in the morning i was telling her "shoes.. shoes..". later on in the afternoon, when i said "shoes..shoes ..where are your shoes?" She looked at her shoes attentively and dangled her feet.lill crystal met our neighboor's baby girl, Peng-Peng (who is 15 days older than her), in the balconies of our apartment. the neighboor's baby waved to us, means hello ... but crystal didn't respond. long after few minutes, crystal began to respond and also waved her hand to her lill friend. quite amazing and fun!
Tuesday, February 28, 2006
8 months old
Crystal is 8 months old now.
her 7th month development :
* she can recognize members of the family and many things in the house, such as lamp, AC, tv, santa clause, wind-bell, chinese poster (with 'fu' letter on it), clock, key, fish lampion, our wedding picture, aloe, duckling, phone, bag.
* she can pronounce words like: mama, papa, nai-nai (means grandma and milk), ce-ce (older sister), ba, da, ta, fa, sa, na. if we call her name, sometimes she will answer by saying, "e...!" or if we talk to her, she sometimes answers "e..." as if she could understand.
* i enjoy singing to her. if i sing "old mac donald had a farm" ... she begins to kick her legs, and if i continue "old mac donald had some sheep ... e a e a o... baba here..baba there..." she would say "ba ...ba....ba...." happily (sometimes she says "da...da....da.." instead of 'ba'). and if i sing a new chinese song, which i am not familiar with the text, so i sing "na...na...na..." she also begins to say "na...na...na...".
there is another song she likes... "doctor john..doctor john...coming doctor john, doctor john, doctor john, wake up now. happy happy yeah..yeah... happy ye..ye.." Hahahahaha.... she likes this song which is often played by a barber shop across the street.
* she can now sit more steadily. but she still cannot roll over now due to too much cloth she wears during winter !!! she could wave bye-bye since last end January.
* she also becomes picky for people, cries when seeing a 'stranger-to-her' in our house.
* she enjoys dropping object and looking at it. if we pick it up and give to her, she will drop it again and again.
her 7th month development :
* she can recognize members of the family and many things in the house, such as lamp, AC, tv, santa clause, wind-bell, chinese poster (with 'fu' letter on it), clock, key, fish lampion, our wedding picture, aloe, duckling, phone, bag.
* she can pronounce words like: mama, papa, nai-nai (means grandma and milk), ce-ce (older sister), ba, da, ta, fa, sa, na. if we call her name, sometimes she will answer by saying, "e...!" or if we talk to her, she sometimes answers "e..." as if she could understand.
* i enjoy singing to her. if i sing "old mac donald had a farm" ... she begins to kick her legs, and if i continue "old mac donald had some sheep ... e a e a o... baba here..baba there..." she would say "ba ...ba....ba...." happily (sometimes she says "da...da....da.." instead of 'ba'). and if i sing a new chinese song, which i am not familiar with the text, so i sing "na...na...na..." she also begins to say "na...na...na...".
there is another song she likes... "doctor john..doctor john...coming doctor john, doctor john, doctor john, wake up now. happy happy yeah..yeah... happy ye..ye.." Hahahahaha.... she likes this song which is often played by a barber shop across the street.
* she can now sit more steadily. but she still cannot roll over now due to too much cloth she wears during winter !!! she could wave bye-bye since last end January.
* she also becomes picky for people, cries when seeing a 'stranger-to-her' in our house.
* she enjoys dropping object and looking at it. if we pick it up and give to her, she will drop it again and again.
Thursday, February 09, 2006
jagoan pilih kasih
Aku sebel sama bokap mertua!
Mau dibilang pilih kasih, yah… memang jelas2 banget pilih kasih! Dia fans berat banget sama cucu pertamanya, cowok, umurnya skrg 17 bulan. Sejak umur 4 bulan, sampai sekarang, bokap mertua gua super sibuk dan heboh nyiapin makanan ini itu buat dia. Udang... sayur.... telor ...daging... wortel... segala macam. Begitu giliran baby-ku, dia kayaknya gak terlalu pedulian. Menantu pertamanya sama sekali gak pernah musingi anaknya makan apa.Sudah dipikirin dan disiapkan oleh mertua.
Okehlah, wajar .... namanya juga cucu pertama, bolehlah lebih heboh. Tapi keterlaluannya, dia boleh dibilang gak pernah nyiapin makanan untuk putriku. Padahal putriku dah umur 7 bulan sekarang. Dah boleh makanan banyak jenis makanan.
Dari hasil test darah, babyku kurang Fe dan Zn. Gimana enggak, makanannya (selain susu) cuman bubur atau nasi dan telor. Aku sekarang kerja, hanya memungkinkan pulang rumah jam 6.30 sore. Kadang aku sempatin untuk memasak bubur wortel untuk si kecil. Atau kadang diberi makan buah.
Kemaren malam, dia habis ngantarin tamu yang mau pulang ke bawah. Setelah dia balik, di pintu depan ada cucu pertamanya dan aku menggendong putri kecilku. Begitu masuk pintu, dia menyapa dan tertawa pada cucu pertamanya. Sementara putriku, pas melihat kakeknya datang, dia tertawa senang(mungkin hendak menyambut atau dikira bakal diajak main oleh kakeknya) sambil aku ajarkan pada putriku, ”Yeye ... yeye ....” (artinya kakek) tapi kakeknya menoleh pun tidak ke arah putriku. Dan putriku pun berhenti tertawa. Aku yang merasa gondok !!!!
Wah, bisa panjang ceritanya kalo udah mau ngomong soal bokap mertua gua yang pilih kasih. Dia memang lebih sayang ke anak laki pertamanya, daripada ke anak laki keduanya (suamiku). Dengan begitu, kayaknya juga dia lebih gimana gitu... ama menantu pertamanya, dan pada cucu pertamanya.
Pernah sekali, menantu pertama mau cuci piring, Bokap mertua langsung heboh bilang, ”lo jangan cuci piring.. lo jangan cuci piring. Ntar biar gua aja yang nyuci. Lo jaga anak lo aja.“Setelah makan malam usai, bokap mertua kura-kura dalam perahu... nonton tipi.Akhirnya suami gua yang mau turun tangan buat nyuci. Nyokap mertua gua langsung nyahuti dg suara agak dikerasi, ”lo gak usah nyuci, biar bokap lo yang nyuci aja.” nah, kalo si mak mertua lebih sayang ke anak bungsunya.
Selama winter, iparku beserta anak mereka tinggal di rumah kami. Karena mertua yang jaga cucu. kalo pagi malam mesti dibawa pulang, udara luar terlalu dingin. Nah.. di rumah, urutan nyuci piring paling banyak (kalo anggota udah lengkap) pertama adalah suami gua, kedua adalah gua. Dan menantu pertama ada di urutan terakhir tentunya. Sekali si menantu pertama nyuci piring, bokap mertua gua langsung heboh... nyiapin air hangat untuk nyuci piring.
Menantu pertama kayaknya paling gak selera kalo harus pulang kampung. Udah dua kali imlek, aku yang pulang kampung. Dan bokap mertua merasa amat sangat perlu untuk menjelaskan ke sanak famili dan khalayak ramai, bahwa menantu pertama gak bisa datang kali ini karena flu berat. Yah... begitulah 'keluarga baru'-ku di sini.
Monday, February 06, 2006
Crystal in the water
During winter, we don’t bathe our little Crystal everyday. Probably it makes her a little bit afraid every time we bathe her. One time, she was so afraid that she could move up her bath basin (which is one-third full with water) with one hand !!!
So these days, every time i wash her at night, i will put her legs in the warm water. And she would kick her little legs madly in the wash basin. Same thing if i put her hands in the water. the water will be all over the wooden floor, an extra job for me to wipe it!
If only i could take her to swimming pool ... sighhhhh ... sighhhh... ! In hospital, when she swam for the first time of her life, she cried so loudly. She was only 3 days old at that time.
So these days, every time i wash her at night, i will put her legs in the warm water. And she would kick her little legs madly in the wash basin. Same thing if i put her hands in the water. the water will be all over the wooden floor, an extra job for me to wipe it!
If only i could take her to swimming pool ... sighhhhh ... sighhhh... ! In hospital, when she swam for the first time of her life, she cried so loudly. She was only 3 days old at that time.
Saturday, February 04, 2006
milk ... milk ...
There is one thing which i think is very amazing happening since these few days.
If our little Crystal is hungry, she will say “nai… nai…” the Chinese of “millk” (!)
Probably this is unconsciously, but there are many times for the same thing to happen.
Since she was within 1 month old, every time i feed or breastfeed her, i will always say: “my little baby is drinking milk” (in Chinese)
does this really have effect on her pronouncing the word “nai…nai…” ?
hopefully so!
What i’ve been doing since the day she was brought home from hospital is talking to her or telling her things in our home, such as TV, lamp, phone, aircon, key, animals pictures, plant, etc. During Chinese new year, when we brought her to village, i pointed chicken, duck and cows to her. She would laugh everytime i woof, quack, moo…. or producing other animals sounds. Hen and dog are her favorite.
If our little Crystal is hungry, she will say “nai… nai…” the Chinese of “millk” (!)
Probably this is unconsciously, but there are many times for the same thing to happen.
Since she was within 1 month old, every time i feed or breastfeed her, i will always say: “my little baby is drinking milk” (in Chinese)
does this really have effect on her pronouncing the word “nai…nai…” ?
hopefully so!
What i’ve been doing since the day she was brought home from hospital is talking to her or telling her things in our home, such as TV, lamp, phone, aircon, key, animals pictures, plant, etc. During Chinese new year, when we brought her to village, i pointed chicken, duck and cows to her. She would laugh everytime i woof, quack, moo…. or producing other animals sounds. Hen and dog are her favorite.
try and try again
Suddenly i remember a friend today, Papank,
who died in Sept 1996 just after he graduated.
He ever wrote:
if you try and you fail, don't give up... just try again.
if you fail again, just try and do it again.
if you fail and fail again ..
keep trying and trying again until you succeed.
bcoz once you stop trying then all you've done in the past
will become NOTHING and totally lose its meaning
who died in Sept 1996 just after he graduated.
He ever wrote:
if you try and you fail, don't give up... just try again.
if you fail again, just try and do it again.
if you fail and fail again ..
keep trying and trying again until you succeed.
bcoz once you stop trying then all you've done in the past
will become NOTHING and totally lose its meaning
Thursday, February 02, 2006
2nd tooth
the second tooth is coming out now,
on the lower gum, just on the right side of the first tooth.
sometimes i wonder, is it hurting her?
but seems she is not complaining.
5 days ago i met our neighbour whose baby girl is 15-day older than our baby.
she said she worried so much that her baby's tooth was not growing out.
i told her not to worry since every baby has its own grown path.
even though i myself was anxious too,
impatient to welcome her first tooth.
my father told Chunlin by phone that
i was toothing in my 4-month old.
Wow...!!! i just knew it!
on the lower gum, just on the right side of the first tooth.
sometimes i wonder, is it hurting her?
but seems she is not complaining.
5 days ago i met our neighbour whose baby girl is 15-day older than our baby.
she said she worried so much that her baby's tooth was not growing out.
i told her not to worry since every baby has its own grown path.
even though i myself was anxious too,
impatient to welcome her first tooth.
my father told Chunlin by phone that
i was toothing in my 4-month old.
Wow...!!! i just knew it!
first time back to hometown
this is first time Crystal is back for hometown.
everybody loves her, and ... hahaha ... she got a lot of "hong-bao" (ampao).
which is Chinese tradition of giving money in a red envelope.
for Hefei tradition, if some elder people see the baby for the first time, they need to give hongbao, also if the kid/baby visits for the first time, they also should give hongbao. but surely, we (or my parents-in-law) need to 'return' in the future for the children / grandchildren of these people with hongbao too with either similar or more amount of money. fyuuuhhh ... a tiring tradition... 'coz my parents-in-law require me to remember every amount in every hongbao. i even cannot remember all the relatives we visit, bcoz some people are also new to me. this uncle, that auntie, this grandma...that grandpa... ! i would faint !
everybody loves her, and ... hahaha ... she got a lot of "hong-bao" (ampao).
which is Chinese tradition of giving money in a red envelope.
for Hefei tradition, if some elder people see the baby for the first time, they need to give hongbao, also if the kid/baby visits for the first time, they also should give hongbao. but surely, we (or my parents-in-law) need to 'return' in the future for the children / grandchildren of these people with hongbao too with either similar or more amount of money. fyuuuhhh ... a tiring tradition... 'coz my parents-in-law require me to remember every amount in every hongbao. i even cannot remember all the relatives we visit, bcoz some people are also new to me. this uncle, that auntie, this grandma...that grandpa... ! i would faint !
Sunday, January 29, 2006
Thursday, January 19, 2006
sayang si tante
dua minggu gak ketemu oma-nya,
Jing-jing waktu digendong, agak merengek gak mau.
terus matanya melototin oma-nya.
mungkin mencoba mengenali.
tapi sama 'oma tante'-nya yg juga 2 minggu gak ketemu, dia mau.
malah ketawa senang.
soalnya begitu lahir, dia kebanyakan dimomong selain olehku,
juga oleh 'oma tante'.
omanya sendiri harus jagain abang sepupunya Jing-jing
yang kebetulan cuman lebih gede 10 bulan dari Jing-jing.
oma-tante juga memang lebih bisa ngajakin maen.
sehari-hari kalo aku ngantor, dia juga
memang lebih banyak digendong oma-tante.
soalnya oma-nya sendiri punya sakit pinggang.
kalo udah jam aku pulang kantor,
Jing-jing juga mulai merengek-rengek, agak susah dibujuk.
tapi begitu aku nongol di rumah, dia akan senyum atau ketawa senang.
anak kecil emang lucu yah!
mereka punya preferensi juga.
siapa yang lebih sering jaga dia, dia mau.
Jing-jing waktu digendong, agak merengek gak mau.
terus matanya melototin oma-nya.
mungkin mencoba mengenali.
tapi sama 'oma tante'-nya yg juga 2 minggu gak ketemu, dia mau.
malah ketawa senang.
soalnya begitu lahir, dia kebanyakan dimomong selain olehku,
juga oleh 'oma tante'.
omanya sendiri harus jagain abang sepupunya Jing-jing
yang kebetulan cuman lebih gede 10 bulan dari Jing-jing.
oma-tante juga memang lebih bisa ngajakin maen.
sehari-hari kalo aku ngantor, dia juga
memang lebih banyak digendong oma-tante.
soalnya oma-nya sendiri punya sakit pinggang.
kalo udah jam aku pulang kantor,
Jing-jing juga mulai merengek-rengek, agak susah dibujuk.
tapi begitu aku nongol di rumah, dia akan senyum atau ketawa senang.
anak kecil emang lucu yah!
mereka punya preferensi juga.
siapa yang lebih sering jaga dia, dia mau.
lill chomper
She started biting me when i fed her!
When I shout "ouw...ouw...!" she turned her head immediately, looked at me and naughty smile was on her face. she might think i was playing with her. so she began biting again. I pulled her off and told her again and again that she shouldn't do it everytime. and i couldn't help smiling when seeing the smile was still on her tiny naughty face.
When I shout "ouw...ouw...!" she turned her head immediately, looked at me and naughty smile was on her face. she might think i was playing with her. so she began biting again. I pulled her off and told her again and again that she shouldn't do it everytime. and i couldn't help smiling when seeing the smile was still on her tiny naughty face.
Monday, January 16, 2006
ayah mak mertu meninggal
ayah dari mak mertua meninggal sekitar jam 8 malam.
meninggal di usia 77 tahun.
sebelumnya sudah mengidap parkinson disease.
beberapa hari gak mau dan gak bisa makan atau minum.
kadang-kadang bisa disuapin sedikit-sedikit.
sehingga aku harus cuti 2 hari (tgl 17 dan 18) dan menjaga jing-jing.
untungnya ada Hai Yan, adik sepupu Linny yang ikut bantu jaga
selama mertua dan tante bungsu suami gak di rumah,
pulang kampung menjaga ayah mereka.
meninggal di usia 77 tahun.
sebelumnya sudah mengidap parkinson disease.
beberapa hari gak mau dan gak bisa makan atau minum.
kadang-kadang bisa disuapin sedikit-sedikit.
sehingga aku harus cuti 2 hari (tgl 17 dan 18) dan menjaga jing-jing.
untungnya ada Hai Yan, adik sepupu Linny yang ikut bantu jaga
selama mertua dan tante bungsu suami gak di rumah,
pulang kampung menjaga ayah mereka.
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
first tooth
i became a little bit anxious since little Cyrstal was not toothing 'til her 6 months.
i kept examining her gum everyday.
today i found a tiny white ovals in her formerly soft and toothless mouth. on the lower gum. finally! when she opens up wide, I can see her tooth gleaming. she likes to touch her teeth with her tounge. probably it's itchy. i can also see the sign of soon-will-be the second tooth just right beside the first one.
i kept examining her gum everyday.
today i found a tiny white ovals in her formerly soft and toothless mouth. on the lower gum. finally! when she opens up wide, I can see her tooth gleaming. she likes to touch her teeth with her tounge. probably it's itchy. i can also see the sign of soon-will-be the second tooth just right beside the first one.
picture was taken in jan-2006
Thursday, January 05, 2006
fever, cough and flu
Jing-jing demam, batuk dan pilek. jam 2 pagi batuk-batuk dan memuntahkan sedikit ASI yang dia minum. jam 5 pagi hal sama terulang. demamnya 38.6 celcius. suntikan imunisasi yang kemaren memang bisa menyebabkan demam, paling lama bisa demam sampai 3 hari.
mungkin ketika dibawa ke tempat check up dan ke tempat imunisasi, angin di luaran dingin, akhirnya dia kena pilek dan batuk.
jadi orang tua rasanya sedih sekali melihat wajah lemasnya karena sakit. juga sedih waktu mendengar suara batuknya yang lemah.
wah, ternyata nyuapin obat ke dia juga susah. dia berontak, nangis-nangis dan 'aksi tutup mulut'. walaupun obatnya terasa manis !
pinter juga, gak mau minum obat, mulutnya dikunci rapat2 dan kepalanya digeleng-geleng. akhirnya kepalanya mesti ditahan dan mulutnya mesti agak sedikit dipaksa untuk dibuka. begitu dia berteriak (nangis) obatnya langsung dituang ke mulutnya.
awal2nya masih bisa ditipu2 dikit dengan kita pura2 makan dengan sendok yang berisi obat. sehingga dia buka mulut begitu sendok itu disodorin ke dia (soalnya dia mupeng kalo lihat orang lain makan). tapi begitu kerasa rasa asing di lidahnya, obatnya sebagian langsung ngalir keluar dari mulutnya. nakal!
mungkin ketika dibawa ke tempat check up dan ke tempat imunisasi, angin di luaran dingin, akhirnya dia kena pilek dan batuk.
jadi orang tua rasanya sedih sekali melihat wajah lemasnya karena sakit. juga sedih waktu mendengar suara batuknya yang lemah.
wah, ternyata nyuapin obat ke dia juga susah. dia berontak, nangis-nangis dan 'aksi tutup mulut'. walaupun obatnya terasa manis !
pinter juga, gak mau minum obat, mulutnya dikunci rapat2 dan kepalanya digeleng-geleng. akhirnya kepalanya mesti ditahan dan mulutnya mesti agak sedikit dipaksa untuk dibuka. begitu dia berteriak (nangis) obatnya langsung dituang ke mulutnya.
awal2nya masih bisa ditipu2 dikit dengan kita pura2 makan dengan sendok yang berisi obat. sehingga dia buka mulut begitu sendok itu disodorin ke dia (soalnya dia mupeng kalo lihat orang lain makan). tapi begitu kerasa rasa asing di lidahnya, obatnya sebagian langsung ngalir keluar dari mulutnya. nakal!
Wednesday, January 04, 2006
immunization, brave baby girl
Jing-jing dibawa medical check up.
tingginya 72 cm, beratnya sekitar 8.2 kg.
gak bisa persis tau sih beratnya, soalnya sekarang musim dingin, dia pakai baju juga berlapis-lapis. yang jelas si kecil gak masuk kategori ndut. dia cenderung langsing dan panjang.
Mungkin karena ASI-ku gak banyak. Apa boleh buat, memang begitulah adanya. Setelah check up, dia diambil darah di jari manis, nangis ee...ee.. sekitar 5 detik. Tapi setelah diajak main / dialihkan perhatiannya, dia berhenti nangis. Ada baby girl sepantaran dia, umur 6 bulan juga, diambil darah juga, nangisnya lebih kenceng dan lebih lama.
Habis medical check up, dia dibawa untuk suntik imunisasi. Wah, hebat !!!! dia gak nangis sama sekali ! Kuncinya, waktu mau disuntik, diajak maen / ngobrol oleh papanya. Lagi-lagi perhatiannya dialihkan. Dia malah senyum ke papanya. Dan si dokter menancapkan jarumnya memang agak cepat, jadi mungkin rasa sakitnya hanya sekejap, mungkin juga nyaris gak kerasa. Malah dia ngelihatin obat yang sedang dialirkan lewat jarum suntik ke lengan kanannya. Ada ibu-bu yang terheran-heran dan bilang, ”iiih.... bao-bao itu gak nangis, lucunya !!!! lihat, dia malah mandangi jarum suntik.”
Aku dan suami juga sempat takjub dan geli. Waktu dua kali suntik di depan dia juga gak nangis karena diajak maen sama opanya. Tapi suntikan yang sebelum ini, dia nangis hampir setengah menit, gak mempan diajak maen.
Aku dan suami berkesimpulan, memang supaya anak kecil gak nangis waktu disuntik, mesti dialihin perhatiannya. tapi mungkin dengan bertambahnya umur, dia mungkin akan makin takut. ada anak kecil yang belum masuk ke ruang suntik aja, udah nangis-nangis heboh ... gak mau disuntik.
tingginya 72 cm, beratnya sekitar 8.2 kg.
gak bisa persis tau sih beratnya, soalnya sekarang musim dingin, dia pakai baju juga berlapis-lapis. yang jelas si kecil gak masuk kategori ndut. dia cenderung langsing dan panjang.
Mungkin karena ASI-ku gak banyak. Apa boleh buat, memang begitulah adanya. Setelah check up, dia diambil darah di jari manis, nangis ee...ee.. sekitar 5 detik. Tapi setelah diajak main / dialihkan perhatiannya, dia berhenti nangis. Ada baby girl sepantaran dia, umur 6 bulan juga, diambil darah juga, nangisnya lebih kenceng dan lebih lama.
Habis medical check up, dia dibawa untuk suntik imunisasi. Wah, hebat !!!! dia gak nangis sama sekali ! Kuncinya, waktu mau disuntik, diajak maen / ngobrol oleh papanya. Lagi-lagi perhatiannya dialihkan. Dia malah senyum ke papanya. Dan si dokter menancapkan jarumnya memang agak cepat, jadi mungkin rasa sakitnya hanya sekejap, mungkin juga nyaris gak kerasa. Malah dia ngelihatin obat yang sedang dialirkan lewat jarum suntik ke lengan kanannya. Ada ibu-bu yang terheran-heran dan bilang, ”iiih.... bao-bao itu gak nangis, lucunya !!!! lihat, dia malah mandangi jarum suntik.”
Aku dan suami juga sempat takjub dan geli. Waktu dua kali suntik di depan dia juga gak nangis karena diajak maen sama opanya. Tapi suntikan yang sebelum ini, dia nangis hampir setengah menit, gak mempan diajak maen.
Aku dan suami berkesimpulan, memang supaya anak kecil gak nangis waktu disuntik, mesti dialihin perhatiannya. tapi mungkin dengan bertambahnya umur, dia mungkin akan makin takut. ada anak kecil yang belum masuk ke ruang suntik aja, udah nangis-nangis heboh ... gak mau disuntik.
Monday, January 02, 2006
32
32!
gak punya wish macam-macam.
just want to stay healthy, happy and to be a better me!
kado terindah kali ini adalah kehadiran si kecil,
buah hati kami.
our sweet lovely little girl,
our sweet angel.
she is the best thing ..ever.. in my life.
yang lain-lain gak terlalu banyak yang istimewa.
semua berlalu biasa-biasa aja.
tetapi mulai kontak lagi dengan anak-anak tuakou.
terima kasih untuk teknologi yang namanya email.
kerjaan... tambah banyak aja.
karena Green Guo yang pegang sales/marketing kena pecat.
jadi kebagian merangkap kerjaannya dia.
lebih baik gitu, soalnya sebelumnya kerjaan nyantai abis.
sampai melanggar idealisme pribadi:
"dilarang ng-email pribadi atau browsing
yang gak ada hubungan dengan urusan kantor.
kecuali jika benar2 penting dan gak bisa ditunda lagi."
bulan May headquarter tadinya malah mutusin mau pindahin operasi
dari Hefei ke Guangzhou awal tahun 2006.
males banget... !!! berarti harus cari kerjaan baru lagi.
keajaiban terjadi.. tiba2 mulai bulan May,
tiap bulan kita profit.
hihihi... Linny bercanda bilang, aku yang membawa
keberuntungan ke perusahaan.
keadaan membaik begitu aku datang.
waktu aku cuti hamil, order sempat sepi lagi.
tapi begitu aku ngantor lagi,
eh... grafik meningkat lagi.
makanya si Lin bisa bercanda begitu.
akhirnya 1 Nov 2005 (ultahnya Rika) diputuskan
gak jadi pindah, malah akan investasi mesin baru.
setelah itu, langsung kerasa, work load langsung meningkat tajam.
langsung sibuk dengan budget, berhubung dah akhir tahun.
terus order-order baru dan besar mulai datang.
dan Mr. Ren akhirnya disahkan jadi GM,
sekaligus merangkap GM di dan ditransfer ke Guangzhou.
katanya sih sebulan cuman akan stay seminggu di Hefei.
asik... punya kans naik jabatan nih..huahahaha...! ngimpi boleh dong!
30 Oktober 2005 kita pindah rumah ke Jing Feng Yuan.
terasa lebih nyaman karena dua kali lebih besar dari pada
rumah yang di Wuhu Road.
cuman, kita2 jadi kehilangan keindahan "River Ying Park".
enaknya di China, pemerintah cukup memperhatikan fasum/fasos
misalnya dengan membuat taman2 untuk publik, dan gratis!
juga jadi kangen dengan keindahan
Wuhu Road dengan deretan pohon oak di kiri kanan jalan
yang ujung pohonnya bertemu membentuk 'kubah' alam.
apalagi pada saat kita pindah, Wuhu Road baru aja habis renovasi.
dan jadi makin indah! kabel-kabel listrik sudah diinstal di bawah tanah.
juga jadi kangen dengan dentang jam di "Big Clock Tower" (Da Zhong Lou).
aku menyukai dentang bel kala jam 7 pagi, judulnya "Dong Fang Hong" (red in the east).
juga jadi kangen ama asinan ala hefei yang dijual di Tong Cheng Road.
dan 'sate ala hefei' yang dijual di samping Inspection Bureau.
gak punya wish macam-macam.
just want to stay healthy, happy and to be a better me!
kado terindah kali ini adalah kehadiran si kecil,
buah hati kami.
our sweet lovely little girl,
our sweet angel.
she is the best thing ..ever.. in my life.
yang lain-lain gak terlalu banyak yang istimewa.
semua berlalu biasa-biasa aja.
tetapi mulai kontak lagi dengan anak-anak tuakou.
terima kasih untuk teknologi yang namanya email.
kerjaan... tambah banyak aja.
karena Green Guo yang pegang sales/marketing kena pecat.
jadi kebagian merangkap kerjaannya dia.
lebih baik gitu, soalnya sebelumnya kerjaan nyantai abis.
sampai melanggar idealisme pribadi:
"dilarang ng-email pribadi atau browsing
yang gak ada hubungan dengan urusan kantor.
kecuali jika benar2 penting dan gak bisa ditunda lagi."
bulan May headquarter tadinya malah mutusin mau pindahin operasi
dari Hefei ke Guangzhou awal tahun 2006.
males banget... !!! berarti harus cari kerjaan baru lagi.
keajaiban terjadi.. tiba2 mulai bulan May,
tiap bulan kita profit.
hihihi... Linny bercanda bilang, aku yang membawa
keberuntungan ke perusahaan.
keadaan membaik begitu aku datang.
waktu aku cuti hamil, order sempat sepi lagi.
tapi begitu aku ngantor lagi,
eh... grafik meningkat lagi.
makanya si Lin bisa bercanda begitu.
akhirnya 1 Nov 2005 (ultahnya Rika) diputuskan
gak jadi pindah, malah akan investasi mesin baru.
setelah itu, langsung kerasa, work load langsung meningkat tajam.
langsung sibuk dengan budget, berhubung dah akhir tahun.
terus order-order baru dan besar mulai datang.
dan Mr. Ren akhirnya disahkan jadi GM,
sekaligus merangkap GM di dan ditransfer ke Guangzhou.
katanya sih sebulan cuman akan stay seminggu di Hefei.
asik... punya kans naik jabatan nih..huahahaha...! ngimpi boleh dong!
30 Oktober 2005 kita pindah rumah ke Jing Feng Yuan.
terasa lebih nyaman karena dua kali lebih besar dari pada
rumah yang di Wuhu Road.
cuman, kita2 jadi kehilangan keindahan "River Ying Park".
enaknya di China, pemerintah cukup memperhatikan fasum/fasos
misalnya dengan membuat taman2 untuk publik, dan gratis!
juga jadi kangen dengan keindahan
Wuhu Road dengan deretan pohon oak di kiri kanan jalan
yang ujung pohonnya bertemu membentuk 'kubah' alam.
apalagi pada saat kita pindah, Wuhu Road baru aja habis renovasi.
dan jadi makin indah! kabel-kabel listrik sudah diinstal di bawah tanah.
juga jadi kangen dengan dentang jam di "Big Clock Tower" (Da Zhong Lou).
aku menyukai dentang bel kala jam 7 pagi, judulnya "Dong Fang Hong" (red in the east).
juga jadi kangen ama asinan ala hefei yang dijual di Tong Cheng Road.
dan 'sate ala hefei' yang dijual di samping Inspection Bureau.
Friday, December 02, 2005
Si Kecil demam
Maren ketika pulang kerja, pas kugendong, kerasa si kecil demam. Malam demamnya sampe 39.1 celcius. Berkali2 tidur sebentar terus kebangun. Boleh dibilang sepanjang malam aku gak tidur dan menggendongnya, membiarkan dia tidur dalam gendonganku. Ini pertama kalinya si kecil sakit dan rewel saat tidur. Sebelum-sebelumnya dia selalu tidur dengan tenang, hanya bangun untuk nyusu 2 kali. Habis itu tidur lagi sampai pagi. Akhirnya dikasih obat penurun demam.
Paginya demamnya turun 37.8. Sore jam 2.30 kami bawa ke rumah sakit. Mengecewakan ... aku merasa dokter cuman cek ala kadarnya, bahkan si kecil umurnya berapa aja dia gak nanya. Kesimpulannya, flu ringan. Terus diberi obat yang menurut kami dosisnya tinggi. Akhirnya si kecil gak kami beri obat dari dokter. Kami pikir dia masih terlalu kecil sebisa mungkin jangan diberi terlalu banyak obat, apalagi yang dosisnya tinggi. Kami malah lebih prefer cara-cara tradisional.
Akhirnya sekitar jam 5 sore, kami beri lagi obat penurun panas yang diminum malam sebelumnya. Menjelang sore, suhu badannya udah normal kembali. Lega!!!
Benar kata Mas Hedi (teman kuliah di mm), saat anak sakit, rasanya sedih sekali, dan maunya sakitnya pindah ke kita aja, biar kita orang dewasa yang nanggung sakitnya. Memandangi wajah dan tubuh mungilnya saat kugendong, aku merasakan hal yang persis sama dengan kata-kata di atas.
Wednesday, November 30, 2005
mertua yg bikin stress !
sebel banget kalo udah menyangkut soal feeding the baby.
makmertu super bawel. tiap hari mengulang kata2 yang sama.
sampai kupingku makin hari makin tebal.
berkali2 juga kubilangi, aku tau.. aku tau... udah tau... !
capek hati!
ditambah lagi pak mertu komennya bikin sakit ati.
emang gua yg jadi ibu mau nipu babyku dengan air?
lapar gak dikasih makan?! Sudah sinting kali gua?!
sementara bilangnya si kecil panas dalam
kebanyakan minum susu formula (pagi aku ngantor),
harus banyak minum air.
semalam si kecil nuaangis minta ampun.
seisi rumah, 3 orang bersuara bersama-sama... bla..bla…bla…. !
belom lagi ditambah si kecil yang nangis dengan suara kenceng.
aku stress !!!!
akhirnya saking kesal dan saking gak tahannya,
aku bilang ke lin dengan suara lantang, “udah … jangan bicara lagi!”
kupikir juga akhirnya memang dia lapar. tapi pas mau di-breastfeed, dia gak mau.
begitu diberi susu formula, sampe di mulutnya, si kecil minum 2 teguk.
habis itu, gak mau lagi dan nangis lagi …. setelah dimomong2, pelan-pelan matanya pun terpejam.
ternyata rewel pengen tidur! (aku dah sempat curiga hal ini)
sebenarnya juga mungkin gara-gara tadinya dia lagi asik menggerogoti mainan plastik, terus aku singkirin.
habis itu, si kecil langsung ngamuk dan nangis kenceng!
dan pakmertu yang berdiri di sampingku waktu ngasih minum susu,
akhirnya speechless melihat si kecil ternyata bukan lapar, tapi pengen tidur!
aku kesal banget, hal ini bukan terjadi cuma sekali.
kalo mau bombastis.. hal ini udah beratus2 kali (gak bombastis: berkali2)
makmertu lagi .. pake ngomong ke suami,
dia gak percaya dengan breast milk ku,
sekarang dia gak terlalu masalah/peduli kalo misal si kecil gak di-breastfeed,
mungkin secara gak langsung bilang, ”lebih baik diberi formula, daripada kelaparan oleh asi”.
aku merasa ‘dituduh’ menelantarkan si kecil, gimana aku gak tersinggung !!!!
tapi kalo aku lagi ada, berkali-kali dia bilang,
”kasihan si kecil, belom sampai 5 bulan udah gak dapat asi”.
capek ngedengerin statement dia berulang2. aa sih maunya?!
aku sebel banget! sampai pengen bertereak dg suara sekencang2nya:
urusan apa dia! babyku mau dibreastfeed atau mau diberi formula, itu urusanku dan keputusanku sendiri.
gak usah ambil peduli dan gak usah terlalu nyampurin sampai detail gitu.
aku bener2 stress berat!
kalo ada yg bisa dijambak-jambak, rasanya mau menjambak-jambak.
makmertu super bawel. tiap hari mengulang kata2 yang sama.
sampai kupingku makin hari makin tebal.
berkali2 juga kubilangi, aku tau.. aku tau... udah tau... !
capek hati!
ditambah lagi pak mertu komennya bikin sakit ati.
emang gua yg jadi ibu mau nipu babyku dengan air?
lapar gak dikasih makan?! Sudah sinting kali gua?!
sementara bilangnya si kecil panas dalam
kebanyakan minum susu formula (pagi aku ngantor),
harus banyak minum air.
semalam si kecil nuaangis minta ampun.
seisi rumah, 3 orang bersuara bersama-sama... bla..bla…bla…. !
belom lagi ditambah si kecil yang nangis dengan suara kenceng.
aku stress !!!!
akhirnya saking kesal dan saking gak tahannya,
aku bilang ke lin dengan suara lantang, “udah … jangan bicara lagi!”
kupikir juga akhirnya memang dia lapar. tapi pas mau di-breastfeed, dia gak mau.
begitu diberi susu formula, sampe di mulutnya, si kecil minum 2 teguk.
habis itu, gak mau lagi dan nangis lagi …. setelah dimomong2, pelan-pelan matanya pun terpejam.
ternyata rewel pengen tidur! (aku dah sempat curiga hal ini)
sebenarnya juga mungkin gara-gara tadinya dia lagi asik menggerogoti mainan plastik, terus aku singkirin.
habis itu, si kecil langsung ngamuk dan nangis kenceng!
dan pakmertu yang berdiri di sampingku waktu ngasih minum susu,
akhirnya speechless melihat si kecil ternyata bukan lapar, tapi pengen tidur!
aku kesal banget, hal ini bukan terjadi cuma sekali.
kalo mau bombastis.. hal ini udah beratus2 kali (gak bombastis: berkali2)
makmertu lagi .. pake ngomong ke suami,
dia gak percaya dengan breast milk ku,
sekarang dia gak terlalu masalah/peduli kalo misal si kecil gak di-breastfeed,
mungkin secara gak langsung bilang, ”lebih baik diberi formula, daripada kelaparan oleh asi”.
aku merasa ‘dituduh’ menelantarkan si kecil, gimana aku gak tersinggung !!!!
tapi kalo aku lagi ada, berkali-kali dia bilang,
”kasihan si kecil, belom sampai 5 bulan udah gak dapat asi”.
capek ngedengerin statement dia berulang2. aa sih maunya?!
aku sebel banget! sampai pengen bertereak dg suara sekencang2nya:
urusan apa dia! babyku mau dibreastfeed atau mau diberi formula, itu urusanku dan keputusanku sendiri.
gak usah ambil peduli dan gak usah terlalu nyampurin sampai detail gitu.
aku bener2 stress berat!
kalo ada yg bisa dijambak-jambak, rasanya mau menjambak-jambak.
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
si rakus
si kecil sejak umur 4 bulan mulai dikasih kuning telor rebus.
hmm...rakus juga. mula2 cuman makan sebiji.
skrg maunya 2 biji. kalo satu, dia merengek kurang.
jadi bertanya2 juga, boleh gak sih dikasih 2, apa gak kebanyakan kolesterolnya? memang rakus... kemaren adik bungsu mak mertu menggendongnya sambil makan siang. matanya bolak balik ngikutin gerakan sendok si tante. waktu sendok disodorin di depan wajahnya, lidahnya langsung melet-melet keluar, panjang lagi! mungkin mulai kenal rasa selain susu, dan merasa antusias karenanya.
senangnya jadi emak, waktu gua pulang, dia dalam gendongan mak mertu, dia tertawa senang begitu melihatku! aduh... nak... luluh hatiku !
hmm...rakus juga. mula2 cuman makan sebiji.
skrg maunya 2 biji. kalo satu, dia merengek kurang.
jadi bertanya2 juga, boleh gak sih dikasih 2, apa gak kebanyakan kolesterolnya? memang rakus... kemaren adik bungsu mak mertu menggendongnya sambil makan siang. matanya bolak balik ngikutin gerakan sendok si tante. waktu sendok disodorin di depan wajahnya, lidahnya langsung melet-melet keluar, panjang lagi! mungkin mulai kenal rasa selain susu, dan merasa antusias karenanya.
senangnya jadi emak, waktu gua pulang, dia dalam gendongan mak mertu, dia tertawa senang begitu melihatku! aduh... nak... luluh hatiku !
Wednesday, November 16, 2005
sakit nyaaakkk... !
pagi ini si putri nenas (yg udah dipangkas rambut nenasnya dan mulai tumbuh 2cm) diantar omanya imunisasi. beda dengan suntikan2 sebelumnya yg cuman merengek sekian detik, bahkan pernah sekali dia gak nangis sama sekali(!), sekarang dia udah 'kenal' rasa sakit. kata omanya, nuangisnya kueeenceng buaaanget !!!! kecian si kecil ...! sama tante hendoel mau di-bao-bao.
Tuesday, August 16, 2005
i love you more each day
gak bosen-bosen rasanya ngelihatin wajah dan tingkah lakunya.terutama ngelihatin pas lagi tidur, lagi ngulet, dan lagi pengen pup.lucu.... dan makin dilihat makin sayang!
Monday, August 15, 2005
sucking fingers
Crystal begins to suck her fingers.We can't help laughing to see her expression when doing it today and to listen to the sucking voice!
Sucking fingers is a way of self-pacifying.
Thursday, August 11, 2005
42-day med check up
today my little love one is 42 days old.
took her out for med check up.
the doctor was surprised and said that her body was quite long;
58 cm and 4.9 kg (she was 50cm and 3.25 kg on the day she was born).
she was calm on the way, and during the check up.
last time, when 1 month old and had injection,
she only cried a little (not more than 5 seconds),
then fell asleep.
Wednesday, August 10, 2005
Balik Badan
Ajaib.... si kecil dah bisa balik badan! normally katanya sih .. 3 bulan bisa balik badan, 6 bulan bisa duduk, 9 bulan bisa merangkak.
Kedua kakinya diangkat tinggi (jadi kayak bola), terus badannya + tangannya dibalik ke samping.lucu !
Kedua kakinya diangkat tinggi (jadi kayak bola), terus badannya + tangannya dibalik ke samping.lucu !
Tuesday, July 05, 2005
labor process
wanna share my labor process here for those who havent had the labor experience.
my due date was 23-June-05. i was late a week than my due date.
how i felt so impatient to hold my little baby. i planned to get an injection to stimulate my constraction if it's over a week than due date.
4am 29-Jun-05
luckily, i found some blood (mucus) while i went to toilet, looks like some thick slippery brown discharge. but i still couldnt feel the constraction and my water (amniotic fluid) hadnt broken. my mom said, every woman could have different sign for labor. some women probably never experience mucus plug, for others, it may occur just before labor, or any time in the last month of pregnancy.
while some women will experience the leaking of amniotic fluid before labor. It can be difficult to tell the difference between leaking of urine and amniotic fluid. A good way to check is to recline in bed for an hour after emptying your bladder. If upon arising, fluid trickles out, it is most likely amniotic fluid. Regardless, it is always best to have this checked out.
09.30am 29-Jun-05
on 09.30, after taking a bath and getting ready, my mother-in-law accompanied me to the hospital, which was only 20 minutes by walking. however, it was hot summer day, so we took the bus, for 2 shelters.
when i checked in, there's a mom-to-be that had had her amniotic fluid leaking. i could see from her wet gown. i heard that her baby's head was not in the right position for normal labor. so she was advised to have the C-section.
i got a room for two. my roomate checked in one hour before me. she got the mucus a day before.
after checking in, i went thru some routine check, blood pressure check, USG, heart check, urine test, etc. etc. the result was ok and normal. i felt quite confident and ready for the labor. the supervisor of the labor division (Doctor Lu 吕主任) told me that my baby will be about 3.25kg.
11.30am 29-Jun-05
i felt the constraction after lunch. just before i thought if i still couldnt feel the constraction, i would ask for some stimulating injection. the nurse told me if i felt the constraction once every 5 minutes, i must inform any of them, which i would go into the labor room.
1 pm 29-Jun-05
my roomate began to feel the constraction every 5 minutes. seems that she couldnt manage the pain. so she went into the labor room. the doctor said that she got 2cm opening. while everytime i felt the constraction, which was around 25 minutes, it was not so hurting, so i just took a deep breath.
as info i got from my sister-in-law (Mery), in total the opening was 10 in scale (about 10cm). here was Mery's advice to me:
when you have early opening （1-8 cm), do not use any energy to push. just bear it, take a deep breath, to save your energy. you can begin to push while the opening was between 8-10. otherwise, you may loose energy before it's needed.
so during the 'waiting' time, we played poker, call "80 score". because there were only my roomate's mom-in-law, my mom-in-law, and my husband, need one more people to start the poker.
4.30pm 29-Jun-05
my constraction period was near to every 15 minutes. Lin accompanied me to climb up and down the stairs. hehehe... it's said that it could help to accelerate the labor process. is it true?
11pm 29-Jun-05
my constraction period intensified to every 5-7 minutes. i hadnt report to the nurse. i thought i still could manage the pain. for every constraction, i took a deep breath and humming "Hey Jude" and Ming Yue Ji Shi You (明月几时有--- i didnt know the lyrics, so just humming...). the nite went by.
07am 30-Jun-05
i went to toilet for the "nature's call number one". it's advised that before the labor, it's better you could finish all your "poop", to avoid you might need to poop on the bed. it's very awful if you've got to!
8.30am 30-Jun-05
A nurse came for checking up. i told her i began to feel the constraction every 5 minutes, 'coz she asked me the period of constraction. then came a doctor, who put her hand into my vagina. she said, i got opening of 6. then they brought me to labor room.
though it's said to be the best maternity hospital in town, it doesnt supply any labor dress for you. i just wore my own dress. finally i asked for a blanket to cover my leg, 'coz it's cold inside (because of the AC).
the doctor didnt accompany fully. sometimes she went into the doctor room, which was viewable from my bed.
10am 30-Jun-05
i still tried to take deep breath and singing (humming). according to the doctor, my constraction speed was low. finally she gave me some infusion to stimulate my constraction. probably the doctor didnt want to wait for too long time.
when my opening was 8, the doctor (her family name is Zhou) said that i could now use my energy to push. she said use the energy to push as hard as i could when there was constraction. for me, it's better to push then to bear the constraction with deep breath. because at the end, it's already much easier to push if i could feel the constraction.
i could feel a lot of fluid flew out. i couldnt see what the fluid looked like. was it blood or amniotic fluid? i didnt know, i couldnt see it.
the doctor told me that my water hadnt broken. she told me that she would break it with a kind of injection needle. it hurt a little bit.
during some period of time, the doctor would check the baby heart beat. normally it's around 140.
but at the end, the heart beat dropped to 120. i worried. but the doctor said it was OK and still in safety limit. but i had to push harder to faster the process. since i worried so much about my baby heartbeat, i pushed harder and harder.
01pm 30-Jun-05
later on the doctor made some cut at my vagina. again, it's hurt of course. but still manageable for me; it's nothing compare to my eagerness to hold my baby safely.
01.08 30-Jun-05
then i heard some voice, "bruuug...sruuugg...sruuug..." my baby was pulled out and put on the bed. i could feel that my baby was moving on the bed. then i heard her crying out, not too loud. though Lin said, it was very loud =) few minutes later, i just knew my baby was a girl when the doctor carried up the baby and showed to me that it was a girl. then without my agreement, the doctor brought her away. oooh... she didnt let me hold my baby first!
in China, usually you would never know your baby's genital until she was born. to avoid early abortion. in china, some family still treasures boy more than girl. while every family normally only is allowed to have 1 child (one child policy). people with particular exceptions can have 2 kids.
really, the whole process was not as hurt as i imagined before. i had prepared for the worst, which i assumed very very much hurting!
later on, the doctor cleaned my womb, pressing it... some fluid (or blood) flew out. then i got 6 stitches, whole process was without anaesthetic. the doctor said that i shouldn't have pushed when she made some cut on my vagina. but when she instructed me, i didnt hear it at all, besides probably bcoz i didnt understand chinese language perfectly. so i got more stitches. but i heard my sis-in-law got 13 stitches, due to the big size head of my nephew.
only then, after the labor process, the doctor just knew i was not a local chinese, i was an indonesian chinese (or a chinese indonesian) =)
2pm 30-Jun-05
about an hour after labor process, my baby was put besides me on my left side for 30 minutes to get her first breast feeding (colostrum). i couldnt express it in any word for the feeling of holding her for the very first time. i just felt so touched and fully in love when holding this tiny creature in my arms. she was so cute and so lovely.
i didnt know whether she could drink something or not.
few months later, i just knew that colostrum is the best intake for a newborn. dont let her drink anything like water or formula milk at first.
while in hospital we didnt know. my mom-in-law gave her formula, worried that she might get hungry.
3pm 30-Jun-05
after i was done and ready to get out from the labor room, i saw my roomate was brought in. i said 'hi' to her. she hadnt had her baby. she was shocked to know that i had my baby already, ahead of herself, while she went into labor room first.
later on we knew that she had to switche to c-section, since her baby's head was very big and couldnt go thru normal labor. her baby was 4.15kg. while my baby was 3.25kg.
her baby's head got stucked during the way out. it took 3 doctors to pull the head out during C-section! how horrible! actually the baby was already in danger.
my husband was not in the labor room, with several reasons:
* i didnt want him to faint out to see the bloods
* it's not allowed from the hospital
* you should pay extra money if you insist to go into the labor room
funny thing was, my husband sent in a towel for me later on before the labor. he meant i could bite it if i couldnt manage the hurt. previously he ever said to me, "hhmmm... it seems that in the middle you would ask for c-section." hahahaha...! i didnt use the towel and i didnt ask for c-section.
'coz i still believe that normal labor is the best, unless i have no choice but to go for a c-section. and i am totally ready for the most hurt or pain that i should bear.
really, it's better to have a normal labor, you would only 'suffer' for several hours. (of course if everything is normal). one day after the labor process, i could already get down from bed, and walked by myself. if you have a c-section, it's hurting after the labor. and you must totally lie in bed for at least 4 days. it hurts even when you laugh. that's what happened to my roomate and it's still hurting even you've already gone home. i could go home after the 4th day, while my roomate needed to stay in the hospital for 1 week.
during my stay in hospital for 4 days, we thought that i hadnt produce any milk, bcoz we didnt quite understand about it. my mo-in-law also didnt really understand too. luckily the doctor taught us and said actually i had had my breastmilk. she taught us how to massage since the milk wasnt totally sucked by the baby and got hard and hurting.
the babies were always put besides the moms during stay time in hospital, so they can get breast feeding when needed. during nursing time, i often talked to my baby, and she responded by humming, "mm...mmmm..."
my roomate said, "listen, listen ... how cute ... as if she knew her mom was talking to her."
we became famous in the hospital, because there are seldom foreigners having baby in the hospital. they doctors and nurses called my baby, "yenni junior" (xiao yenni 小燕妮）.
my mom-in-law said, "no..she is not Yenni. Yenni is her mama's name." lol ...!
she was afraid of water during "swimming session." she cried out loud, compared to other baby. so her swimming session ended up quickly.
the mom that checked-in at the same time with me, finally having a c-section. firstly, her husband insisted to have a normal labor, where it's very obvious that the baby's head position was not normal, and must have a c-section. probably due to the fund problem, bcoz it will be more expensive if you have a c-section. so from 10am (29-Jun) until the next day afternoon, she still suffered for not being able to have her baby out. my roomate said that she heard her screaming all the time while in labor room.
after suffering for more than 24 hours, in the afternoon, probably 5pm (of 30-Jun), her husband agreed for her wife to have c-section. otherwise, not only the baby, the mom's life could also be in danger.
hopefully this sharing could be useful to any of you.
however, IMHO, it would be better to consider for c-section if:
* you are about 10-14 days late than your due date
* your baby size is too big
* your baby's position is not normal
* your baby's head is circling by the umbilical cord (more than 1 cycle)
* above all, consult with your doctors, they know best !
above all, if you decide to have a normal labor, for me.. it's really not as hurt as i imagine. dont worry so much about it. many moms could go thru it, so will you !
take deep breath during constraction, you will be OK !
written on 30-Nov-2005, in indonesian version.
english version on 5-Feb-07 (sorry for the limitation of my english vocab and writing ability).
my due date was 23-June-05. i was late a week than my due date.
how i felt so impatient to hold my little baby. i planned to get an injection to stimulate my constraction if it's over a week than due date.
4am 29-Jun-05
luckily, i found some blood (mucus) while i went to toilet, looks like some thick slippery brown discharge. but i still couldnt feel the constraction and my water (amniotic fluid) hadnt broken. my mom said, every woman could have different sign for labor. some women probably never experience mucus plug, for others, it may occur just before labor, or any time in the last month of pregnancy.
while some women will experience the leaking of amniotic fluid before labor. It can be difficult to tell the difference between leaking of urine and amniotic fluid. A good way to check is to recline in bed for an hour after emptying your bladder. If upon arising, fluid trickles out, it is most likely amniotic fluid. Regardless, it is always best to have this checked out.
09.30am 29-Jun-05
on 09.30, after taking a bath and getting ready, my mother-in-law accompanied me to the hospital, which was only 20 minutes by walking. however, it was hot summer day, so we took the bus, for 2 shelters.
when i checked in, there's a mom-to-be that had had her amniotic fluid leaking. i could see from her wet gown. i heard that her baby's head was not in the right position for normal labor. so she was advised to have the C-section.
i got a room for two. my roomate checked in one hour before me. she got the mucus a day before.
after checking in, i went thru some routine check, blood pressure check, USG, heart check, urine test, etc. etc. the result was ok and normal. i felt quite confident and ready for the labor. the supervisor of the labor division (Doctor Lu 吕主任) told me that my baby will be about 3.25kg.
11.30am 29-Jun-05
i felt the constraction after lunch. just before i thought if i still couldnt feel the constraction, i would ask for some stimulating injection. the nurse told me if i felt the constraction once every 5 minutes, i must inform any of them, which i would go into the labor room.
1 pm 29-Jun-05
my roomate began to feel the constraction every 5 minutes. seems that she couldnt manage the pain. so she went into the labor room. the doctor said that she got 2cm opening. while everytime i felt the constraction, which was around 25 minutes, it was not so hurting, so i just took a deep breath.
as info i got from my sister-in-law (Mery), in total the opening was 10 in scale (about 10cm). here was Mery's advice to me:
when you have early opening （1-8 cm), do not use any energy to push. just bear it, take a deep breath, to save your energy. you can begin to push while the opening was between 8-10. otherwise, you may loose energy before it's needed.
so during the 'waiting' time, we played poker, call "80 score". because there were only my roomate's mom-in-law, my mom-in-law, and my husband, need one more people to start the poker.
4.30pm 29-Jun-05
my constraction period was near to every 15 minutes. Lin accompanied me to climb up and down the stairs. hehehe... it's said that it could help to accelerate the labor process. is it true?
11pm 29-Jun-05
my constraction period intensified to every 5-7 minutes. i hadnt report to the nurse. i thought i still could manage the pain. for every constraction, i took a deep breath and humming "Hey Jude" and Ming Yue Ji Shi You (明月几时有--- i didnt know the lyrics, so just humming...). the nite went by.
07am 30-Jun-05
i went to toilet for the "nature's call number one". it's advised that before the labor, it's better you could finish all your "poop", to avoid you might need to poop on the bed. it's very awful if you've got to!
8.30am 30-Jun-05
A nurse came for checking up. i told her i began to feel the constraction every 5 minutes, 'coz she asked me the period of constraction. then came a doctor, who put her hand into my vagina. she said, i got opening of 6. then they brought me to labor room.
though it's said to be the best maternity hospital in town, it doesnt supply any labor dress for you. i just wore my own dress. finally i asked for a blanket to cover my leg, 'coz it's cold inside (because of the AC).
the doctor didnt accompany fully. sometimes she went into the doctor room, which was viewable from my bed.
10am 30-Jun-05
i still tried to take deep breath and singing (humming). according to the doctor, my constraction speed was low. finally she gave me some infusion to stimulate my constraction. probably the doctor didnt want to wait for too long time.
when my opening was 8, the doctor (her family name is Zhou) said that i could now use my energy to push. she said use the energy to push as hard as i could when there was constraction. for me, it's better to push then to bear the constraction with deep breath. because at the end, it's already much easier to push if i could feel the constraction.
i could feel a lot of fluid flew out. i couldnt see what the fluid looked like. was it blood or amniotic fluid? i didnt know, i couldnt see it.
the doctor told me that my water hadnt broken. she told me that she would break it with a kind of injection needle. it hurt a little bit.
during some period of time, the doctor would check the baby heart beat. normally it's around 140.
but at the end, the heart beat dropped to 120. i worried. but the doctor said it was OK and still in safety limit. but i had to push harder to faster the process. since i worried so much about my baby heartbeat, i pushed harder and harder.
01pm 30-Jun-05
later on the doctor made some cut at my vagina. again, it's hurt of course. but still manageable for me; it's nothing compare to my eagerness to hold my baby safely.
01.08 30-Jun-05
then i heard some voice, "bruuug...sruuugg...sruuug..." my baby was pulled out and put on the bed. i could feel that my baby was moving on the bed. then i heard her crying out, not too loud. though Lin said, it was very loud =) few minutes later, i just knew my baby was a girl when the doctor carried up the baby and showed to me that it was a girl. then without my agreement, the doctor brought her away. oooh... she didnt let me hold my baby first!
in China, usually you would never know your baby's genital until she was born. to avoid early abortion. in china, some family still treasures boy more than girl. while every family normally only is allowed to have 1 child (one child policy). people with particular exceptions can have 2 kids.
really, the whole process was not as hurt as i imagined before. i had prepared for the worst, which i assumed very very much hurting!
later on, the doctor cleaned my womb, pressing it... some fluid (or blood) flew out. then i got 6 stitches, whole process was without anaesthetic. the doctor said that i shouldn't have pushed when she made some cut on my vagina. but when she instructed me, i didnt hear it at all, besides probably bcoz i didnt understand chinese language perfectly. so i got more stitches. but i heard my sis-in-law got 13 stitches, due to the big size head of my nephew.
only then, after the labor process, the doctor just knew i was not a local chinese, i was an indonesian chinese (or a chinese indonesian) =)
2pm 30-Jun-05
about an hour after labor process, my baby was put besides me on my left side for 30 minutes to get her first breast feeding (colostrum). i couldnt express it in any word for the feeling of holding her for the very first time. i just felt so touched and fully in love when holding this tiny creature in my arms. she was so cute and so lovely.
i didnt know whether she could drink something or not.
few months later, i just knew that colostrum is the best intake for a newborn. dont let her drink anything like water or formula milk at first.
while in hospital we didnt know. my mom-in-law gave her formula, worried that she might get hungry.
3pm 30-Jun-05
after i was done and ready to get out from the labor room, i saw my roomate was brought in. i said 'hi' to her. she hadnt had her baby. she was shocked to know that i had my baby already, ahead of herself, while she went into labor room first.
later on we knew that she had to switche to c-section, since her baby's head was very big and couldnt go thru normal labor. her baby was 4.15kg. while my baby was 3.25kg.
her baby's head got stucked during the way out. it took 3 doctors to pull the head out during C-section! how horrible! actually the baby was already in danger.
my husband was not in the labor room, with several reasons:
* i didnt want him to faint out to see the bloods
* it's not allowed from the hospital
* you should pay extra money if you insist to go into the labor room
funny thing was, my husband sent in a towel for me later on before the labor. he meant i could bite it if i couldnt manage the hurt. previously he ever said to me, "hhmmm... it seems that in the middle you would ask for c-section." hahahaha...! i didnt use the towel and i didnt ask for c-section.
'coz i still believe that normal labor is the best, unless i have no choice but to go for a c-section. and i am totally ready for the most hurt or pain that i should bear.
really, it's better to have a normal labor, you would only 'suffer' for several hours. (of course if everything is normal). one day after the labor process, i could already get down from bed, and walked by myself. if you have a c-section, it's hurting after the labor. and you must totally lie in bed for at least 4 days. it hurts even when you laugh. that's what happened to my roomate and it's still hurting even you've already gone home. i could go home after the 4th day, while my roomate needed to stay in the hospital for 1 week.
during my stay in hospital for 4 days, we thought that i hadnt produce any milk, bcoz we didnt quite understand about it. my mo-in-law also didnt really understand too. luckily the doctor taught us and said actually i had had my breastmilk. she taught us how to massage since the milk wasnt totally sucked by the baby and got hard and hurting.
the babies were always put besides the moms during stay time in hospital, so they can get breast feeding when needed. during nursing time, i often talked to my baby, and she responded by humming, "mm...mmmm..."
my roomate said, "listen, listen ... how cute ... as if she knew her mom was talking to her."
we became famous in the hospital, because there are seldom foreigners having baby in the hospital. they doctors and nurses called my baby, "yenni junior" (xiao yenni 小燕妮）.
my mom-in-law said, "no..she is not Yenni. Yenni is her mama's name." lol ...!
she was afraid of water during "swimming session." she cried out loud, compared to other baby. so her swimming session ended up quickly.
the mom that checked-in at the same time with me, finally having a c-section. firstly, her husband insisted to have a normal labor, where it's very obvious that the baby's head position was not normal, and must have a c-section. probably due to the fund problem, bcoz it will be more expensive if you have a c-section. so from 10am (29-Jun) until the next day afternoon, she still suffered for not being able to have her baby out. my roomate said that she heard her screaming all the time while in labor room.
after suffering for more than 24 hours, in the afternoon, probably 5pm (of 30-Jun), her husband agreed for her wife to have c-section. otherwise, not only the baby, the mom's life could also be in danger.
hopefully this sharing could be useful to any of you.
however, IMHO, it would be better to consider for c-section if:
* you are about 10-14 days late than your due date
* your baby size is too big
* your baby's position is not normal
* your baby's head is circling by the umbilical cord (more than 1 cycle)
* above all, consult with your doctors, they know best !
above all, if you decide to have a normal labor, for me.. it's really not as hurt as i imagine. dont worry so much about it. many moms could go thru it, so will you !
take deep breath during constraction, you will be OK !
written on 30-Nov-2005, in indonesian version.
english version on 5-Feb-07 (sorry for the limitation of my english vocab and writing ability).
Monday, July 04, 2005
Proses Melahirkan (CRYSTAL)
Pengen bagi2 cerita soal proses melahirkan kemaren. Biar ada gambaran sedikit banyak buat teman2 cewek.
Aku sebenarnya lewat 7 hari dari due date (23 Jun 05) pas melahirkan.
Rasanya udah gak sabaran banget pengen bertemu dengan si kecil =)
Planningnya kalo dah lewat seminggu, aku akan ke rumah sakit untuk injeksi perangsang kontraksi. Pas hari ke-enam lewat due date, 29 juni, subuh jam 4, aku mulai pendarahan (keluar lendir merah).
Tapi perut belom sakit, ketuban belom pecah.
Reaksi tiap perempuan kayaknya sih beda2. Ada yg sakit perut / mules2 dulu, atau pinggang /betis pegel2. Terus ada yg pecah ketuban duluan.
Jam 9.30 pagi aku ke rumah sakit, berhubung rumah sakitnya deket banget, aku naik bus umum, ditemeni makmertu, cuman 2 halte, paling 5 menit dah sampe. Sebenarnya aku malah pengen jalan kaki, supaya ntar pas melahirkan lebih mudah kali yaaaa….
Tapi berhubung summer, panas banget, malas juga. Hehehehe!
makmertu juga suruh naik bus.
Yah.. belom punya mobil pribadi nih !!! masih melarat =)
Pas aku tiba, barengan aku daftar ada cewek yg dah pecah ketuban, dan posisi kepala janin agak miring dari vagina. Jadi mestinya dia caesar.
Terus aku daftar kamar yg berdua. Barengan aku ada cewek yg juga baru masuk.
Dia dah pendarahan sejak kemarennya, maren ke rumah sakit, tapi baru hari ini mulai inap.
Setelah mendaftar, aku dicek tekanan darah, USG, cek jantung, urin, darah, dsbnya.
Rada siang (sekitar jam 12-an) perutku mulai mules… tadinya udah mikir kalo gak mules2 juga, bakal suntik pemacu kontraksi.
Kata suster, kalo dah mulai 5 menit sekali mules, aku mesti lapor, akan masuk kamar bersalin.
Roommate-ku saat sore (29 Jun), mulai sakit 5 menit sekali. Dan dia mulai masuk kamar bersalin, kata dokter dia pembukaan 2.
Dia udah merintih2 menahan sakit.
Pembukaan itu sampai 10. Pada pembukaan2 awal, jangan pakai tenaga dulu, ntar keburu lemas pada saat-saat terakhir.
Saat pembukan 8-10 kita dah mulai boleh pakai tenaga buat ‘push’.
Berhubung gak ada kerjaan, sambil nunggu, akhirnya aku maen kartu remi (80 score). Soalnya nyokap roommate-ku, mertuaku dan suami nganggur juga. Butuh satu orang lagi baru bisa maen.
Menjelang sore jam 5, waktu mulesku mulai makin pendek, mungkin 15 menit sekali.
Lin menemaniku naik turun tangga rumah sakit, katanya sih biar ntar proses bersalin lebih lancar.
Terus jam 11 malam, waktu mules kayaknya makin deket 5-7 menit. Aku sih belom lapor.
Mulai rada sakit juga sih, tapi gak sakit2 banget.
Tiap kali mulai mules, aku tahan aja sambil nyanyi dan tarik napas dalam2 (tapi nyanyinya pelan2), jadi rasa sakitnya rada mendingan dan masih bisa ditahan.
Lagu “Hey Jude”-nya beatles dan Ming Yue Ji Shi You (明月几时有--- gak hafal, jadi berlala-lala aja...)
Pagi sekitar jam 8.30 ada suster check up datang nanya kondisi aku. Aku bilang mulai sakit kira2 5 menit sekali.
Terus datang dokter, masukin tangan ke dalam terus dia bilang aku dah pembukaan 6!!!
Aku langsung dibawa ke kamar bersalin.
Untungnya pagi aku dah pup duluan…. Soalnya kadang lagi ”push” … bisa aja kita pipis + pup di atas tempat tidur.
Di kamar bersalin, aku cuman mengenakan pakaian atas (pakaian dari rumah) dan kakiku kedinginan karena ruangannya ber-AC. Terus aku minta selimut ke dokternya.
Dokter gak fully nemani aku, kadang dia ke ruang dokter (tapi bisa keliatan ama aku)
Jadi aku masih mules2, masih usaha nyanyi dan tarik napas dalam2.
Menurut dokter, kontraksi rahim aku agak lambat, akhirnya aku diinfus juga dg cairan pemacu kontraksi.
Si dokternya mungkin males nungguin aku sampe pembukaan 10.
Konon sih para dokter lebih senang caesar, cepat dan duitnya lebih banyak.
Yah, walaupun katanya ini rumah sakit bersalin terbaik di kota Hefei ini, tapi menurutku pelayanannya biasa2 aja.
Untuk pasien aja gak ada pakaian khusus, gak seperti yang aku lihat di Jakarta.
Seprei tempat tidur juga gak pernah diganti selama aku tinggal 4 hari di situ.
Makanannya juga gak ada enak-enaknya deh!
Balik lagi soal mules2 ... saat mules2, jangan dilawan dg tenaga, tapi kita mesti tarik napas dalam2. soalnya tenaga mesti disimpan untuk nge-push saat mulai pembukaan 8-10. kalo di awal2 udah pake tenaga, ntar di pembukaan 8-10 udah lemas duluan, malah akan repot.
Waktu aku dah pembukaan 8 mungkin ya…. si dokter (her family name is Zhou) bilang aku dah boleh pakai tenaga buat push. Gitu deh, kata dokternya tenaga dipake saat kontraksi. Kalo lagi gak kontraksi, jangan ngejen.
Saat udah ngejen gitu… rasa sakitnya udah gak terlalu lagi (menurutku pribadi yah….), cuman yah gitu….mesti pake tenaga ekstra utk push. Soalnya lebih sulit menahan untuk tidak ngejen selama belom pembukaan 8 daripada ngejen itu sendiri.
Dan aku bisa rasain banyak cairan keluar (ntah darah ntah apa…).
Selama proses nge-push, ketubanku gak pecah, akhirnya dipecahin oleh si dokter.
Selama proses ngejen, si dokter ngecek detak jantung si bayi secara rutin.
Normally babyku detak jantungnya sekitar 140-an.
Terus pada saat dia udah mau keluar, detak jantungnya sempat melambat sampai 120.
Namanya juga gak ngerti, aku kan cemas, kata dokter masih dalam batas aman.
Tapi aku disuruh push lebih kuat aja spy lebih cepat.
Mungkin karena kepala si bayi pada posisi di lubang vagina kali ya…takut keganggu pernapasannya atau apa… aku juga gak ngerti.
Terus terakhir, si dokter ‘nge-gunting’ bagian luar vagina, tak lama kemudian, sret…sret….sret ... kerasa di bayi keluar dan terdengar dia bergerak2 di tempat tidur. Terus kedengaran dia nangis, gak kencang-kencang amat sih nangisnya. Terus ama si dokter diangkat dilihatin jenis kelaminnya ke aku. It’s a baby girl. Tapi aku gak dikasih lihat mukanya. Cuman tampak samping aja.
Pas ngegunting itu, lumayan sakit juga.
Tapi beneran… the whole process bener2 gak sesakit yg aku bayangkan sebelumnya. Aku dah siap2 untuk menahan rasa yang lebih sakit dari ini.
Sesudah itu, si dokter ngebersihin rahimku (ngorek2 gitu deh) dan menekan2 perutku … ngeluarin sisa2 darah.
Terus sesudah itu, aku dijahit, 6 jahitan. Semua proses tanpa obat bius.
Kata si dokter, waktu dia mau gunting, aku seharusnya gak ‘push’ …. Pas dia suruh aku jangan push itu, aku gak denger.
Jadi robeknya rada ‘dahsyat’ dikit. Tapi masih mendingan daripada istri abang aku yg katanya 13 jahitan (soalnya kepala ponakanku rada gede)
Belakangan baru dia tau aku dari Indonesia.
Pas aku dah selesai melahirkan, ternyata roommate aku baru masuk kamar bersalin dan ditempatkan persis sebelah aku.
Sehingga aku sempat ‘say hi‘ ama dia !
Dia sampai kaget, kok aku lebih cepat dari dia.
Soalnya dia dah dibawa ke kamar transisi waktu pembukaan 2.
Di tengah2 proses, akhirnya roommate aku switch jadi operasi Caesar.
Dokter salah juga, rada maksa dia untuk normal.
Akhirnya dia minta Caesar di tengah2.
Ternyata babynya gede. 4.15 kg (baby aku 3.25 kg).
Dan kepala babynya lebih gede dari tulang panggulnya. Sehingga gak bisa lahir normal.
Kepala babynya kejepit di tulang panggul, gak bisa keluar.
Akhirnya waktu di Caesar, ada 3 dokter yang usaha buat ngelepasi kepala si baby yg kejepit itu.
Kalo telat, kemungkinan besar nyawa si baby bisa terancam.
Sebenarnya lebih enak melahirkan normal, mungkin kata orang2 sakit.
Tapi sebenarnya Caesar lebih ‘menderita’.
Aku habis melahirkan, besoknya dah bisa berdiri dan jalan.
Sementara roommateku mesti terbaring 3-4 hari, gak boleh banyak gerak.
Pipis juga dibikinkan saluran di tempat tidur.
Pemulihan operasi Caesar juga lebih lama.
Satu jam setelah melahirkan, babyku ditidurkan di lengan kiriku untuk diberi ASI pertama (colostrum).
Rasa sulit dilukiskan dengan kata-kata, saat di kecil ditaroh di sampingku dan di-breasfeed. Aku sendiri gak tau, apa dia berhasil ’meminum’ sesuatu apa enggak.
Seharusnya yang bener, memang setelah lahir, baby jangan diberi susu formula ataupun air putih, tapi diberi ASI pertama, itu yang paling bagus.
Tapi karena gak tau, mertua langsung memberi FORMULA, katanya takut si baby kelaparan.
Aku juga gak ngerti. (baru tahu hal ini beberapa bulan kemudian).
Dan selama di RS, karena gak tau, kita berasumsi ASI-ku belom keluar, mertua juga gak ngerti.
Untungnya kemudian ada dokter yang berkunjung rutin dan memberitau kalo ASI-ku ada, mengajarkan cara memijat karena payudara sudah mengeras akibat ASI yang tidak keluar. Selama di rumah sakit juga bayi diletakkan berdampingan dengan tempat tidur ibunya tujuannya biar setiap saat bisa diberi ASI. Gak seperti kalo di Jakarta, bayi dipisahkan dari si ibu.
Oh ya, selama breasfeed, aku sering mengajak bicara si kecil, dan dia sering menggumam seolah menjawab. Kata roomateku, kayaknya dia seolah ngerti diajak bicara. Hihihi.. lucu !
Selama di RS, aku jadi 'ngetop' karena jarang-jarang ada orang asing melahirkan di sana.
Bayiku disebut ”Yenni Junior”. Hihihi…mertuaku bilang, namanya bukan Yenni, Yenni itu mamanya. Hahahaa… !
Pas dibawa berenang, si kecil menangis dengan kencang karena ketakutan.
Jahitanku bisa dibuka pada hari keempat setelah melahirkan.
Dan setelah dibuka jahitan, aku dah bisa pulang ke rumah.
Kalo yg operasi biasanya setelah seminggu baru boleh pulang.
Oh ya, orang yg bareng daftar dg aku, posisi bayi gak normal.
Tapi suaminya ngotot suruh lahir normal.
Sehingga seharian dari jam 10 siang, sampai besok paginya dia menderita banget, bayinya gak bisa keluar.
Dia berteriak2 kesakitan selama di kamar bersalin.
Akhirnya baru deh, si suami setuju untuk sesar, kalo nggak nyawa si bayi dan mungkin si ibu bisa terancam.
Seharusnya dari awal udah disesar, karena jelas2 posisi kepala si bayi tidak normal, tidak berada di ‘pintu keluar’.
Gimana kuat dia ngepush, tetap aja di bayi susah keluar.
Segitu dulu ceritanya ntar nyambung lagi. Mudah2an gak ngeboseni dan bermanfaat buat kelak.
Tapi beneran kok, gak sesakit yg aku bayangkan dan gak seserem yg dibilang orang2.
Tentunya dg catatan ukuran bayinya normal.
Kalo bayinya 4 kg atau lebih, sebaiknya konsultasi dg dokter.
Rata2 sih kalo dah 4 kg lebih, orang cenderung milih untuk Caesar.
(ditulis dan diedit ulang 30 Nov 2005)
read also: proses melahirkan Angie
Aku sebenarnya lewat 7 hari dari due date (23 Jun 05) pas melahirkan.
Rasanya udah gak sabaran banget pengen bertemu dengan si kecil =)
Planningnya kalo dah lewat seminggu, aku akan ke rumah sakit untuk injeksi perangsang kontraksi. Pas hari ke-enam lewat due date, 29 juni, subuh jam 4, aku mulai pendarahan (keluar lendir merah).
Tapi perut belom sakit, ketuban belom pecah.
Reaksi tiap perempuan kayaknya sih beda2. Ada yg sakit perut / mules2 dulu, atau pinggang /betis pegel2. Terus ada yg pecah ketuban duluan.
Jam 9.30 pagi aku ke rumah sakit, berhubung rumah sakitnya deket banget, aku naik bus umum, ditemeni makmertu, cuman 2 halte, paling 5 menit dah sampe. Sebenarnya aku malah pengen jalan kaki, supaya ntar pas melahirkan lebih mudah kali yaaaa….
Tapi berhubung summer, panas banget, malas juga. Hehehehe!
makmertu juga suruh naik bus.
Yah.. belom punya mobil pribadi nih !!! masih melarat =)
Pas aku tiba, barengan aku daftar ada cewek yg dah pecah ketuban, dan posisi kepala janin agak miring dari vagina. Jadi mestinya dia caesar.
Terus aku daftar kamar yg berdua. Barengan aku ada cewek yg juga baru masuk.
Dia dah pendarahan sejak kemarennya, maren ke rumah sakit, tapi baru hari ini mulai inap.
Setelah mendaftar, aku dicek tekanan darah, USG, cek jantung, urin, darah, dsbnya.
Rada siang (sekitar jam 12-an) perutku mulai mules… tadinya udah mikir kalo gak mules2 juga, bakal suntik pemacu kontraksi.
Kata suster, kalo dah mulai 5 menit sekali mules, aku mesti lapor, akan masuk kamar bersalin.
Roommate-ku saat sore (29 Jun), mulai sakit 5 menit sekali. Dan dia mulai masuk kamar bersalin, kata dokter dia pembukaan 2.
Dia udah merintih2 menahan sakit.
Pembukaan itu sampai 10. Pada pembukaan2 awal, jangan pakai tenaga dulu, ntar keburu lemas pada saat-saat terakhir.
Saat pembukan 8-10 kita dah mulai boleh pakai tenaga buat ‘push’.
Berhubung gak ada kerjaan, sambil nunggu, akhirnya aku maen kartu remi (80 score). Soalnya nyokap roommate-ku, mertuaku dan suami nganggur juga. Butuh satu orang lagi baru bisa maen.
Menjelang sore jam 5, waktu mulesku mulai makin pendek, mungkin 15 menit sekali.
Lin menemaniku naik turun tangga rumah sakit, katanya sih biar ntar proses bersalin lebih lancar.
Terus jam 11 malam, waktu mules kayaknya makin deket 5-7 menit. Aku sih belom lapor.
Mulai rada sakit juga sih, tapi gak sakit2 banget.
Tiap kali mulai mules, aku tahan aja sambil nyanyi dan tarik napas dalam2 (tapi nyanyinya pelan2), jadi rasa sakitnya rada mendingan dan masih bisa ditahan.
Lagu “Hey Jude”-nya beatles dan Ming Yue Ji Shi You (明月几时有--- gak hafal, jadi berlala-lala aja...)
Pagi sekitar jam 8.30 ada suster check up datang nanya kondisi aku. Aku bilang mulai sakit kira2 5 menit sekali.
Terus datang dokter, masukin tangan ke dalam terus dia bilang aku dah pembukaan 6!!!
Aku langsung dibawa ke kamar bersalin.
Untungnya pagi aku dah pup duluan…. Soalnya kadang lagi ”push” … bisa aja kita pipis + pup di atas tempat tidur.
Di kamar bersalin, aku cuman mengenakan pakaian atas (pakaian dari rumah) dan kakiku kedinginan karena ruangannya ber-AC. Terus aku minta selimut ke dokternya.
Dokter gak fully nemani aku, kadang dia ke ruang dokter (tapi bisa keliatan ama aku)
Jadi aku masih mules2, masih usaha nyanyi dan tarik napas dalam2.
Menurut dokter, kontraksi rahim aku agak lambat, akhirnya aku diinfus juga dg cairan pemacu kontraksi.
Si dokternya mungkin males nungguin aku sampe pembukaan 10.
Konon sih para dokter lebih senang caesar, cepat dan duitnya lebih banyak.
Yah, walaupun katanya ini rumah sakit bersalin terbaik di kota Hefei ini, tapi menurutku pelayanannya biasa2 aja.
Untuk pasien aja gak ada pakaian khusus, gak seperti yang aku lihat di Jakarta.
Seprei tempat tidur juga gak pernah diganti selama aku tinggal 4 hari di situ.
Makanannya juga gak ada enak-enaknya deh!
Balik lagi soal mules2 ... saat mules2, jangan dilawan dg tenaga, tapi kita mesti tarik napas dalam2. soalnya tenaga mesti disimpan untuk nge-push saat mulai pembukaan 8-10. kalo di awal2 udah pake tenaga, ntar di pembukaan 8-10 udah lemas duluan, malah akan repot.
Waktu aku dah pembukaan 8 mungkin ya…. si dokter (her family name is Zhou) bilang aku dah boleh pakai tenaga buat push. Gitu deh, kata dokternya tenaga dipake saat kontraksi. Kalo lagi gak kontraksi, jangan ngejen.
Saat udah ngejen gitu… rasa sakitnya udah gak terlalu lagi (menurutku pribadi yah….), cuman yah gitu….mesti pake tenaga ekstra utk push. Soalnya lebih sulit menahan untuk tidak ngejen selama belom pembukaan 8 daripada ngejen itu sendiri.
Dan aku bisa rasain banyak cairan keluar (ntah darah ntah apa…).
Selama proses nge-push, ketubanku gak pecah, akhirnya dipecahin oleh si dokter.
Selama proses ngejen, si dokter ngecek detak jantung si bayi secara rutin.
Normally babyku detak jantungnya sekitar 140-an.
Terus pada saat dia udah mau keluar, detak jantungnya sempat melambat sampai 120.
Namanya juga gak ngerti, aku kan cemas, kata dokter masih dalam batas aman.
Tapi aku disuruh push lebih kuat aja spy lebih cepat.
Mungkin karena kepala si bayi pada posisi di lubang vagina kali ya…takut keganggu pernapasannya atau apa… aku juga gak ngerti.
Terus terakhir, si dokter ‘nge-gunting’ bagian luar vagina, tak lama kemudian, sret…sret….sret ... kerasa di bayi keluar dan terdengar dia bergerak2 di tempat tidur. Terus kedengaran dia nangis, gak kencang-kencang amat sih nangisnya. Terus ama si dokter diangkat dilihatin jenis kelaminnya ke aku. It’s a baby girl. Tapi aku gak dikasih lihat mukanya. Cuman tampak samping aja.
Pas ngegunting itu, lumayan sakit juga.
Tapi beneran… the whole process bener2 gak sesakit yg aku bayangkan sebelumnya. Aku dah siap2 untuk menahan rasa yang lebih sakit dari ini.
Sesudah itu, si dokter ngebersihin rahimku (ngorek2 gitu deh) dan menekan2 perutku … ngeluarin sisa2 darah.
Terus sesudah itu, aku dijahit, 6 jahitan. Semua proses tanpa obat bius.
Kata si dokter, waktu dia mau gunting, aku seharusnya gak ‘push’ …. Pas dia suruh aku jangan push itu, aku gak denger.
Jadi robeknya rada ‘dahsyat’ dikit. Tapi masih mendingan daripada istri abang aku yg katanya 13 jahitan (soalnya kepala ponakanku rada gede)
Belakangan baru dia tau aku dari Indonesia.
Pas aku dah selesai melahirkan, ternyata roommate aku baru masuk kamar bersalin dan ditempatkan persis sebelah aku.
Sehingga aku sempat ‘say hi‘ ama dia !
Dia sampai kaget, kok aku lebih cepat dari dia.
Soalnya dia dah dibawa ke kamar transisi waktu pembukaan 2.
Di tengah2 proses, akhirnya roommate aku switch jadi operasi Caesar.
Dokter salah juga, rada maksa dia untuk normal.
Akhirnya dia minta Caesar di tengah2.
Ternyata babynya gede. 4.15 kg (baby aku 3.25 kg).
Dan kepala babynya lebih gede dari tulang panggulnya. Sehingga gak bisa lahir normal.
Kepala babynya kejepit di tulang panggul, gak bisa keluar.
Akhirnya waktu di Caesar, ada 3 dokter yang usaha buat ngelepasi kepala si baby yg kejepit itu.
Kalo telat, kemungkinan besar nyawa si baby bisa terancam.
Sebenarnya lebih enak melahirkan normal, mungkin kata orang2 sakit.
Tapi sebenarnya Caesar lebih ‘menderita’.
Aku habis melahirkan, besoknya dah bisa berdiri dan jalan.
Sementara roommateku mesti terbaring 3-4 hari, gak boleh banyak gerak.
Pipis juga dibikinkan saluran di tempat tidur.
Pemulihan operasi Caesar juga lebih lama.
Satu jam setelah melahirkan, babyku ditidurkan di lengan kiriku untuk diberi ASI pertama (colostrum).
Rasa sulit dilukiskan dengan kata-kata, saat di kecil ditaroh di sampingku dan di-breasfeed. Aku sendiri gak tau, apa dia berhasil ’meminum’ sesuatu apa enggak.
Seharusnya yang bener, memang setelah lahir, baby jangan diberi susu formula ataupun air putih, tapi diberi ASI pertama, itu yang paling bagus.
Tapi karena gak tau, mertua langsung memberi FORMULA, katanya takut si baby kelaparan.
Aku juga gak ngerti. (baru tahu hal ini beberapa bulan kemudian).
Dan selama di RS, karena gak tau, kita berasumsi ASI-ku belom keluar, mertua juga gak ngerti.
Untungnya kemudian ada dokter yang berkunjung rutin dan memberitau kalo ASI-ku ada, mengajarkan cara memijat karena payudara sudah mengeras akibat ASI yang tidak keluar. Selama di rumah sakit juga bayi diletakkan berdampingan dengan tempat tidur ibunya tujuannya biar setiap saat bisa diberi ASI. Gak seperti kalo di Jakarta, bayi dipisahkan dari si ibu.
Oh ya, selama breasfeed, aku sering mengajak bicara si kecil, dan dia sering menggumam seolah menjawab. Kata roomateku, kayaknya dia seolah ngerti diajak bicara. Hihihi.. lucu !
Selama di RS, aku jadi 'ngetop' karena jarang-jarang ada orang asing melahirkan di sana.
Bayiku disebut ”Yenni Junior”. Hihihi…mertuaku bilang, namanya bukan Yenni, Yenni itu mamanya. Hahahaa… !
Pas dibawa berenang, si kecil menangis dengan kencang karena ketakutan.
Jahitanku bisa dibuka pada hari keempat setelah melahirkan.
Dan setelah dibuka jahitan, aku dah bisa pulang ke rumah.
Kalo yg operasi biasanya setelah seminggu baru boleh pulang.
Oh ya, orang yg bareng daftar dg aku, posisi bayi gak normal.
Tapi suaminya ngotot suruh lahir normal.
Sehingga seharian dari jam 10 siang, sampai besok paginya dia menderita banget, bayinya gak bisa keluar.
Dia berteriak2 kesakitan selama di kamar bersalin.
Akhirnya baru deh, si suami setuju untuk sesar, kalo nggak nyawa si bayi dan mungkin si ibu bisa terancam.
Seharusnya dari awal udah disesar, karena jelas2 posisi kepala si bayi tidak normal, tidak berada di ‘pintu keluar’.
Gimana kuat dia ngepush, tetap aja di bayi susah keluar.
Segitu dulu ceritanya ntar nyambung lagi. Mudah2an gak ngeboseni dan bermanfaat buat kelak.
Tapi beneran kok, gak sesakit yg aku bayangkan dan gak seserem yg dibilang orang2.
Tentunya dg catatan ukuran bayinya normal.
Kalo bayinya 4 kg atau lebih, sebaiknya konsultasi dg dokter.
Rata2 sih kalo dah 4 kg lebih, orang cenderung milih untuk Caesar.
(ditulis dan diedit ulang 30 Nov 2005)
read also: proses melahirkan Angie
Thursday, June 30, 2005
welcome little darling!
Thursday
30 jun 05 (7 days late from due date)
01.08pm
3.25kg
50cm
24th of the 5th month, year of chicken (lunar calendar)
when seeing my belly shape, everybody kept saying, "it must be a boy ... it must be a baby boy.."and we began to believe so...!
then... it's really a nice surprise to the whole family to welcome our baby girl!
she is so small and cute, with beautiful lips, beautiful hair and 10 pretty fingers.
We named her
Liu Hui Han 刘慧晗 (after changing from Liu Guang Hui) for chinese name
Liu is surname, same as Andy Lau =)
Hui means smart
Han means when the day begins
Parvathi Rinjani (from the sanskrit) for indonesia name
parvathi means little mountain
Rinjani is a beautiful mountain in Lombok
Crystal 晶晶 （read: cing-cing) for her nickname
welcome to this wonderful world ... little darlin' !
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