after lunch, Smarty's mom and dad were lying on the living room floor, sleepy. it's quite a hot summer day!

Crystal and I were winding around living room, bedrooms .. here and there. Smarty was following us everywhere we went. Until then Smarty grabbed an empty plastic chocolate bottle from Crystal's, actually he had one in his hands, coz i gave one each to both of them. of course Crystal wouldnt let him do it. so they were vying for it. i released Crystal's hand coz i knew it would hurt her hand!

after having the bottle, Smarty hit it to Crystal's head, and i quickly covered Crystal's head with my hand (we're sitting on the floor). my sis-in-law said, " Smarty, do not beat mei-mei." (mei-mei = little sister)

Smarty grabbed another toy also hit to Crystal's head, my hand still covered her head. then i carried Crystal, stood up. Smarty took another toy, throwing towards us. when he failed, he spat! oh boy.... ! and during that moment, my in-laws including my father-in-law just watching it and said nothing about it! they really had over spoiled the boy!

i went to bedroom where my mom-in-laws and husband were taking nap. Smarty's following us, and still throwing things to us. i went out. he's following again. at that time, his hand was holding other thing, i said to him, "if you dare throw it to me, i will spank you 3 times." he hesitated for a while, then threw it low to my leg. i spanked him 3 times, not so hard, in front of my in-laws. he spat. and i said, "if you spit again, i will spank you 3 more times." and he spat! and his parents again said nothing!

i went to bedroom and closed the door. he was crying and howling in the living room, wanted to follow us. since he was angry, throwing things in the living room, his grandpa asked him to beat his dad. and his dad said, "beat me Smarty, beat me. even you beat me to death, i will not beat you." oh boy ...!!!!

after 5 minutes, he didnt stop, i went out again with Crystal and he stopped crying. but then he started kicking his mom's legs. his mom just let him do it without saying anything and his grandpa was laughing on it.

how a kid behaves, depends on how the adults treat him, especially parents and or grandparents. here in china, mostly grandparents take care of kid while the parents go to work. so often a kid is spoiled by his/her grandparents.

in my opinion, if a kid is over naughty, sometimes you have to spank him, otherwise he will be out of control, especially after he grows up. and when either of you spank your kid, the other shouldn't laugh or stand on his side.

Crytal always played with the electric fan, turn it on, turn it off, turn it on..off.. once Lin beat her hand hard and she cried. after that, she almost never played with electric fan anymore.

just last week, when we were in the train, Echo (my colleague) couldn't sleep during the journey, got annoyed by a 3-year-old boy; i said to her the next day, "i never feel annoyed by any kid". this time i really feel annoyed. but i think mostly not bcoz of Smarty, but bcoz of his parents and grandpa.