Crystal is 1 year 10 months 11 days
this few days, everytime during dinner, i ask Crystal what time it is. she will look at the clock and say, half pass seven. yes, most of the time, we dine around 7.30pm.
i think she has learnt that 7.30 is dinner time.
yesterday, on 7.15 i ask her:
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now ?
Crys : 7 o'clock.
mom : it's 7.15
1 minute later:
mom : Jing-jing, what time is it?
Crys : 7.15 (daddy and grandma heard it and laughed)
on 7.30, i asked her again
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now?
Crys : 6 pass 7.
mom : no. it's 7.30 . 6 means half.
Crys : 6 pass 7
mom: no. it's half pass seven
Crys : half pass seven
after 10pm
mom : Jing-jing, what time is it now?
Crys : 3 pass 10
mom : no. it's 15 pass 10.
Crys : 15 pass 10.
another 15 minutes went by.
mom : Jing-jing, look at the clock, what time is it now?
Crys : 6 pass 10
mom : no. it's half pass 10.
Crys : (playing with our new TV carton box) half pass 10... it's already time to sleep.
(mom, dad & grandma laughed)
while she was around 4 months old, i often asked her, "what time is it now?" she would find and look at the clock in our living room. she started to differ the numbers 0-9 when she was around 14 months. she learnt from the playing mattress, which is quite popular in china.
Friday, May 11, 2007
Thursday, May 10, 2007
otak babi
puas banget ........!!!!
akhirnya tercapai juga cita-cita gua makan otak babi setelah ngidam bertahun2.
he-eh.. maksudnya, sejak kuliah dan kerja di jakarta, tinggal jauh dari emak, emang dah susah nemu 'otak babi'.
dulu kalo di rumah, sekali2 mak suka tim otak babi buat gua. emang gua yang paling doyan di rumah. dimakan bersama kecap maggi.
pas tinggal di china sini, pernah beberapa kali ke pasar, tempat jual daging babi, tapi gak pernah nemu yg jual otak babi. soalnya katanya otak babi biasanya dah dibeli resto / rumah makan. biasanya paling gampang nemu di resto yang jualan "huo-guo" (itu lho, cara makannya berupa kuah panas, terus semua makanan mentah dicelup dan direbus di dalamnya)
sebenarnya sih depan rumah dari dulu gua tau ada jualan otak babi yang ditim dg herbal: tian-ma dan gou-ji-jiao. rumah makannya punya orang hok-kian. tapi tiap kali ke situ, dah habis aja atau lagi gak ada.
nah, 2 malam lalu gua beli sup-tim-ayamnya, krn otak babinya dah gak ada. murah, semangkuk kecil (300cc) cuman 5 yuan. terus gua titip pesen ke lao-ban-niang-nya buat nyisain satu porsi otak babi buat gua besoknya (laoban = boss, laobanniang = boss cewek/istri boss).
nah begitulah. jadi maren sore sepulang kantor, jam 6.15pm, gua langsung mampir dan dapatlah si otak babi yang telah lama diidam-idamkan, dengan harga 4 yuan (sama, porsi 300 cc).
itung-itung, kayaknya dah lebih 10 tahun lho gua gak makan otak babi. jadi puas banget dah! yummy sekali! rasanya mirip sih dengan otak ayam / bebek /angsa / sapi.
di daftar menunya ditulis:
tian ma zhu nao tang (bu nao yang shen)
sup otak babi dengan herbal tian-ma
gua bingung juga nerjemahi bu-nao yang shen. yang jelas maksudnya baik untuk otak dan memberi ketenangan. repose of mind (?)
sugesti kali yah... sejak 2 hari lalu, gua pusing2 terus (mungkin krn flu juga).
pas lagi makan otak babinya juga masih pusing2. tapi setelahnya, pas di rumah, kira-kira jam 7.30 suami pulang dan nanya gimana pusing2nya. ternyata gua dah nggak pusing lagi.
sugesti kali yah... ;-)
hehehe... sorenya suami sempat becanda di telpon bilang, "jangan kebanyakan makan otak babinya yah? ntar sapa tau calon bayi kita punya otak babi kan repot (maksudnya: bodoh/bego)." hahaha...!
akhirnya tercapai juga cita-cita gua makan otak babi setelah ngidam bertahun2.
he-eh.. maksudnya, sejak kuliah dan kerja di jakarta, tinggal jauh dari emak, emang dah susah nemu 'otak babi'.
dulu kalo di rumah, sekali2 mak suka tim otak babi buat gua. emang gua yang paling doyan di rumah. dimakan bersama kecap maggi.
pas tinggal di china sini, pernah beberapa kali ke pasar, tempat jual daging babi, tapi gak pernah nemu yg jual otak babi. soalnya katanya otak babi biasanya dah dibeli resto / rumah makan. biasanya paling gampang nemu di resto yang jualan "huo-guo" (itu lho, cara makannya berupa kuah panas, terus semua makanan mentah dicelup dan direbus di dalamnya)
sebenarnya sih depan rumah dari dulu gua tau ada jualan otak babi yang ditim dg herbal: tian-ma dan gou-ji-jiao. rumah makannya punya orang hok-kian. tapi tiap kali ke situ, dah habis aja atau lagi gak ada.
nah, 2 malam lalu gua beli sup-tim-ayamnya, krn otak babinya dah gak ada. murah, semangkuk kecil (300cc) cuman 5 yuan. terus gua titip pesen ke lao-ban-niang-nya buat nyisain satu porsi otak babi buat gua besoknya (laoban = boss, laobanniang = boss cewek/istri boss).
nah begitulah. jadi maren sore sepulang kantor, jam 6.15pm, gua langsung mampir dan dapatlah si otak babi yang telah lama diidam-idamkan, dengan harga 4 yuan (sama, porsi 300 cc).
itung-itung, kayaknya dah lebih 10 tahun lho gua gak makan otak babi. jadi puas banget dah! yummy sekali! rasanya mirip sih dengan otak ayam / bebek /angsa / sapi.
di daftar menunya ditulis:
tian ma zhu nao tang (bu nao yang shen)
sup otak babi dengan herbal tian-ma
gua bingung juga nerjemahi bu-nao yang shen. yang jelas maksudnya baik untuk otak dan memberi ketenangan. repose of mind (?)
sugesti kali yah... sejak 2 hari lalu, gua pusing2 terus (mungkin krn flu juga).
pas lagi makan otak babinya juga masih pusing2. tapi setelahnya, pas di rumah, kira-kira jam 7.30 suami pulang dan nanya gimana pusing2nya. ternyata gua dah nggak pusing lagi.
sugesti kali yah... ;-)
hehehe... sorenya suami sempat becanda di telpon bilang, "jangan kebanyakan makan otak babinya yah? ntar sapa tau calon bayi kita punya otak babi kan repot (maksudnya: bodoh/bego)." hahaha...!
Wednesday, May 09, 2007
3 bulan
oh ya, kalo itungannya gua dah masuk 3 bulan.
biasanya itungannya dari hari pertama haid terakhir.
so far i feel so great .. despite the flu dan bosen ama makanan rumah.
gak pakai acara morning sickness. (enak kan? hehe!)
yang penting asal habis makan gak langsung minum, nungguin 10 menitan.
terus, kalo soal ngidam..rasanya tiap hari sih ngidam makanan enak. hehehe... belom puas ama pempek, sate padang, dan makanan2 indo nih!
baru maren gua bilang ke suami, kayaknya mirip kehamilan pertama, doyannya ama pangsit kuah; dimakan dg cuka dan cabe.
note: pangsit ama suikiao (shuijiao) itu beda lho. beda di kulit pembungkusnya.
terus gua bilang juga ke suami, wah .. dg hamil gini jadi ada kesempatan makan pizza hut...hahaha! soalnya kita jarang makan ke pizza hut, paling banyak setahun sekali atau 2 kali. pizza hut di sini lebih mahal dibanding kalo di jakarta.
oh...oh.. satu-satunya keluhan, mungkin juga karena 2 hari terakhir flu, jadi rada sesak napas.
Gejala awal kehamilan
katanya sih ada beberapa gejala awal kehamilan, tapi beda-beda di tiap orang :
* morning sickness (alias mual-mual) di 3 bulan pertama. kalo gua kali ini boleh dibilang gak ngalami.
* bentar-bentar dah pengen pipis. karena rahim mulai menekan ureter. dulu pas kehamilan pertama, batuk dikit atau bersin, susah sekali ngontrol supaya air seninya gak leak-out (terutama pas kehamilan makin besar).
* mimisan (kalo di gua awal2 kehamilan upilnya sempat berupa darah kering. hamil yang pertama juga gitu. tapi gak sampe mimisan. dan sekarang udah nggak)
* gampang ngantuk (kalo yang ini iya.. kalo dah habis makan malam, bawaannya dah mulai ngantuk. jadwal rutinnya sih biasanya nemeni Crystal dulu jalan-jalan ke taman dekat komplek. balik sekitar jam 9. nah habis itu nemeni dia main-main sambil baring-baring di tempat tidur. kadang terus guanya ketiduran.
* badan pegel-pegel. wah, maren pulang indo 2 minggu, si Crystal sering banget minta gendong. untung so far waktu itu fit aja. kadang-kadang doang pinggang rada pegel. waktu itu juga udah mulai curiga sih, soalnya haidnya terlambat. tapi belom test aja.
* kram
makin ke belakang, kalo kurang kalsium, bisa gampang kram. jadi pas kehamilan dah masuk 4 bulan, sebaiknya mulai mengkonsumsi tablet kalsium tiap hari. kalo kekurangan kalsium, si baby akan ngambil cadangan kalsium di tulang / gigi kita. ada teman kantor yang sehabis kelahiran anak pertama, giginya tanggal satu.
* lebih gampang sesak napas. kadang kerasa sesak napas. apalagi 2-3 hari ini kena flu.
* gak nafsu makan. teman kantor ada juga yang lagi hamil 2 bulan. badannya pegel-pegel, kadang mual, gak nafsu makan. gua sempat gak nafsu makan minggu lalu .. bosen ama makanan rumah. kadang pagi-pagi habis bangun tidur, berburu pangsit. malam-malam, 2 jam sehabis makan malam, berburu mie sayur. katanya tiap lapar kudu makan. soalnya begitu kita lapar, si baby juga ikutan lapar. terus suka berburu jerut purut. hehehe... !
Makan apa yah ?
sebenarnya apa aja boleh dimakan, yang penting merata. sayur, buah, daging. kalo gua biasanya minum susu at least 2 atau 3 gelas sehari. terus kalo laper, diusahakan makan sesuatu, ntah biscuit, roti, apel...apa aja. kalo gak doyan susu, yoghurt bagus tuh...katanya malah lebih bagus dari susu.
sebaiknya jangan minum teh, kopi atau coklat. teh itu bisa merusak gizi dari makanan yang dimakan. tapi kalo pun mau, minum yang gak terlalu pekat. terus jangan langsung minum teh setelah makan.
kalo kopi dan coklat katanya menurunkan daya serap si baby terhadap kalsium, yang sangat penting untuk pembentukan tulang dan gigi si baby.
alkohol juga gak boleh yah..! takut merusak jaringan kali yah... ah.. gua gak tau persis penjelasan ilmiahnya. pokoknya katanya gak boleh.
banyak-banyak mengkonsumsi kaldu ayam, sop tulang, udang (berikut kulitnya), karena kaya kalsium. sayuran hijau, sumber zat besi, untuk nambah darah. yang paling bagus katanya "spinach", yang kalo di indonesia agak salah kaprah, disebut bayam. sebenarnya spinach itu beda ama bayam. tapi sayur bayam juga bagus dan kaya zat besi.
banyak mengkonsumsi kacang-kacangan, sumber vitamin B.
oh ya, 3 bulan pertama kudu mengkonsumi Folic Acid (asam folat), katanya bagus untuk pembentukan otak.
ada satu makanan lagi yang katanya bagus untuk nambah darah. kurma. bisa yang kering ataupun yang segar kalo bisa diperoleh. katanya, 1 buah kurma gizinya setara 7 buah apel. kalo di china, buah kurma gampang ditemuin. terutama yang kering, banyak dijual di supermarket. kalo yg segar, mesti nunggu musimnya. kalo gak salah sekitar juni-agustus. udah rada lupa.
pas kehamilan pertama, tiap minggu gua rutin makan kurma kering. tiap kali test darah, kata dokter hasilnya selalu bagus.
walnut juga bagus ..katanya sih... bagus untuk pembentukan otak si janin. gua gak tau penjelasan ilmiahnya sih.
oh ya, nekad juga yah...sampai sekarang gua belom check up ke dokter. hehehe!
bukannya cuek, tapi so far belom ada keluhan berarti. mungkin rencana minggu depan aja baru
ke dokter. di sini gak kayak di indo, tiap datang ke dokter langsung USG. katanya gak baik untuk si janin kalo sering2 USG. kalo di China, USG cuman 3 atau 4 kali. 1 kali di bulan ke 4. satu kali sekitar bulan ke 7. dan satu kali lagi saat udah check-in mau bersalin. kecuali mungkin ada kasus khusus, yang mesti dipantau. mungkin USG bisa lebih dari 3 kali.
satu lagi, di china sini, pas USG, kita-kita gak dibolehin ngelihat screen, untuk merahasiakan jenis kelamin si janin.
mencegah kemungkinan ada yg pengen gugurin kalo misal si anak itu perempuan, dan yang bersangkutan pengen anak laki. lagi-lagi karena berhubungan sama "one child policy".
lain-lain :
* yah, seperti kata orang2 tua, selama hamil jangan ngangkat/mendorong benda2 berat. tapi buat yang hamil kedua, gendong anak yang pertama yang masih balita, masih ok kok. dengan catatan si anak pertama bukan jumbo size lho. kalo anak pertama beratnya sampai 30kg, yah.. jangan digendonglah. anak pertamaku saat hamil kedua ini beratnya sekitar 11-12kg.
* jangan makan nenas muda dalam jumlah banyak saat kehamilan di bulan2 pertama, katanya bisa memicu keguguran.
* jangan over dosis mengkonsumsi merica (jangan terlalu pedas), gua pernah dibilangi, ada bumil yang over dosis mengkonsumsi merica terus mengalami keguguran. (sori .. gak tau penjelasan ilmiah).
* kata nyokap, jangan makan pisang ambon. aduuuh.. sori gak tau penjelasannya apa. aku sih nunut aja. pisang jenis lain boleh.
* kalo jalan jauh dan kecapean, angkatlah betis/paha sejajar dengan pinggang saat duduk/beristirahat. sanggah dengan kursi. kalo di kantor, bisa sanggah dengan kardus mungkin. katanya sih bisa mencegah varises.
* ada tips dari seorang guru jaman dulu, katanya istrinya saat kehamilan mulai gede, sering melakukan gerakan jongkok-berdiri-jongkok. sehingga saat melahirkan gampang dan cepat. gua juga ngelakuin hal ini. ada yg bilang sering2 jalan jauh, ngepel, naik turun tangga. namun semua ini kembali ke kondisi fisik masing2 bumil. ada bumil yang gak boleh terlalu capek, mesti bedrest, tapi ada bumil yang ok-ok aja, fit terus.
biasanya itungannya dari hari pertama haid terakhir.
so far i feel so great .. despite the flu dan bosen ama makanan rumah.
gak pakai acara morning sickness. (enak kan? hehe!)
yang penting asal habis makan gak langsung minum, nungguin 10 menitan.
terus, kalo soal ngidam..rasanya tiap hari sih ngidam makanan enak. hehehe... belom puas ama pempek, sate padang, dan makanan2 indo nih!
baru maren gua bilang ke suami, kayaknya mirip kehamilan pertama, doyannya ama pangsit kuah; dimakan dg cuka dan cabe.
note: pangsit ama suikiao (shuijiao) itu beda lho. beda di kulit pembungkusnya.
terus gua bilang juga ke suami, wah .. dg hamil gini jadi ada kesempatan makan pizza hut...hahaha! soalnya kita jarang makan ke pizza hut, paling banyak setahun sekali atau 2 kali. pizza hut di sini lebih mahal dibanding kalo di jakarta.
oh...oh.. satu-satunya keluhan, mungkin juga karena 2 hari terakhir flu, jadi rada sesak napas.
Gejala awal kehamilan
katanya sih ada beberapa gejala awal kehamilan, tapi beda-beda di tiap orang :
* morning sickness (alias mual-mual) di 3 bulan pertama. kalo gua kali ini boleh dibilang gak ngalami.
* bentar-bentar dah pengen pipis. karena rahim mulai menekan ureter. dulu pas kehamilan pertama, batuk dikit atau bersin, susah sekali ngontrol supaya air seninya gak leak-out (terutama pas kehamilan makin besar).
* mimisan (kalo di gua awal2 kehamilan upilnya sempat berupa darah kering. hamil yang pertama juga gitu. tapi gak sampe mimisan. dan sekarang udah nggak)
* gampang ngantuk (kalo yang ini iya.. kalo dah habis makan malam, bawaannya dah mulai ngantuk. jadwal rutinnya sih biasanya nemeni Crystal dulu jalan-jalan ke taman dekat komplek. balik sekitar jam 9. nah habis itu nemeni dia main-main sambil baring-baring di tempat tidur. kadang terus guanya ketiduran.
* badan pegel-pegel. wah, maren pulang indo 2 minggu, si Crystal sering banget minta gendong. untung so far waktu itu fit aja. kadang-kadang doang pinggang rada pegel. waktu itu juga udah mulai curiga sih, soalnya haidnya terlambat. tapi belom test aja.
* kram
makin ke belakang, kalo kurang kalsium, bisa gampang kram. jadi pas kehamilan dah masuk 4 bulan, sebaiknya mulai mengkonsumsi tablet kalsium tiap hari. kalo kekurangan kalsium, si baby akan ngambil cadangan kalsium di tulang / gigi kita. ada teman kantor yang sehabis kelahiran anak pertama, giginya tanggal satu.
* lebih gampang sesak napas. kadang kerasa sesak napas. apalagi 2-3 hari ini kena flu.
* gak nafsu makan. teman kantor ada juga yang lagi hamil 2 bulan. badannya pegel-pegel, kadang mual, gak nafsu makan. gua sempat gak nafsu makan minggu lalu .. bosen ama makanan rumah. kadang pagi-pagi habis bangun tidur, berburu pangsit. malam-malam, 2 jam sehabis makan malam, berburu mie sayur. katanya tiap lapar kudu makan. soalnya begitu kita lapar, si baby juga ikutan lapar. terus suka berburu jerut purut. hehehe... !
Makan apa yah ?
sebenarnya apa aja boleh dimakan, yang penting merata. sayur, buah, daging. kalo gua biasanya minum susu at least 2 atau 3 gelas sehari. terus kalo laper, diusahakan makan sesuatu, ntah biscuit, roti, apel...apa aja. kalo gak doyan susu, yoghurt bagus tuh...katanya malah lebih bagus dari susu.
sebaiknya jangan minum teh, kopi atau coklat. teh itu bisa merusak gizi dari makanan yang dimakan. tapi kalo pun mau, minum yang gak terlalu pekat. terus jangan langsung minum teh setelah makan.
kalo kopi dan coklat katanya menurunkan daya serap si baby terhadap kalsium, yang sangat penting untuk pembentukan tulang dan gigi si baby.
alkohol juga gak boleh yah..! takut merusak jaringan kali yah... ah.. gua gak tau persis penjelasan ilmiahnya. pokoknya katanya gak boleh.
banyak-banyak mengkonsumsi kaldu ayam, sop tulang, udang (berikut kulitnya), karena kaya kalsium. sayuran hijau, sumber zat besi, untuk nambah darah. yang paling bagus katanya "spinach", yang kalo di indonesia agak salah kaprah, disebut bayam. sebenarnya spinach itu beda ama bayam. tapi sayur bayam juga bagus dan kaya zat besi.
banyak mengkonsumsi kacang-kacangan, sumber vitamin B.
oh ya, 3 bulan pertama kudu mengkonsumi Folic Acid (asam folat), katanya bagus untuk pembentukan otak.
ada satu makanan lagi yang katanya bagus untuk nambah darah. kurma. bisa yang kering ataupun yang segar kalo bisa diperoleh. katanya, 1 buah kurma gizinya setara 7 buah apel. kalo di china, buah kurma gampang ditemuin. terutama yang kering, banyak dijual di supermarket. kalo yg segar, mesti nunggu musimnya. kalo gak salah sekitar juni-agustus. udah rada lupa.
pas kehamilan pertama, tiap minggu gua rutin makan kurma kering. tiap kali test darah, kata dokter hasilnya selalu bagus.
walnut juga bagus ..katanya sih... bagus untuk pembentukan otak si janin. gua gak tau penjelasan ilmiahnya sih.
oh ya, nekad juga yah...sampai sekarang gua belom check up ke dokter. hehehe!
bukannya cuek, tapi so far belom ada keluhan berarti. mungkin rencana minggu depan aja baru
ke dokter. di sini gak kayak di indo, tiap datang ke dokter langsung USG. katanya gak baik untuk si janin kalo sering2 USG. kalo di China, USG cuman 3 atau 4 kali. 1 kali di bulan ke 4. satu kali sekitar bulan ke 7. dan satu kali lagi saat udah check-in mau bersalin. kecuali mungkin ada kasus khusus, yang mesti dipantau. mungkin USG bisa lebih dari 3 kali.
satu lagi, di china sini, pas USG, kita-kita gak dibolehin ngelihat screen, untuk merahasiakan jenis kelamin si janin.
mencegah kemungkinan ada yg pengen gugurin kalo misal si anak itu perempuan, dan yang bersangkutan pengen anak laki. lagi-lagi karena berhubungan sama "one child policy".
lain-lain :
* yah, seperti kata orang2 tua, selama hamil jangan ngangkat/mendorong benda2 berat. tapi buat yang hamil kedua, gendong anak yang pertama yang masih balita, masih ok kok. dengan catatan si anak pertama bukan jumbo size lho. kalo anak pertama beratnya sampai 30kg, yah.. jangan digendonglah. anak pertamaku saat hamil kedua ini beratnya sekitar 11-12kg.
* jangan makan nenas muda dalam jumlah banyak saat kehamilan di bulan2 pertama, katanya bisa memicu keguguran.
* jangan over dosis mengkonsumsi merica (jangan terlalu pedas), gua pernah dibilangi, ada bumil yang over dosis mengkonsumsi merica terus mengalami keguguran. (sori .. gak tau penjelasan ilmiah).
* kata nyokap, jangan makan pisang ambon. aduuuh.. sori gak tau penjelasannya apa. aku sih nunut aja. pisang jenis lain boleh.
* kalo jalan jauh dan kecapean, angkatlah betis/paha sejajar dengan pinggang saat duduk/beristirahat. sanggah dengan kursi. kalo di kantor, bisa sanggah dengan kardus mungkin. katanya sih bisa mencegah varises.
* ada tips dari seorang guru jaman dulu, katanya istrinya saat kehamilan mulai gede, sering melakukan gerakan jongkok-berdiri-jongkok. sehingga saat melahirkan gampang dan cepat. gua juga ngelakuin hal ini. ada yg bilang sering2 jalan jauh, ngepel, naik turun tangga. namun semua ini kembali ke kondisi fisik masing2 bumil. ada bumil yang gak boleh terlalu capek, mesti bedrest, tapi ada bumil yang ok-ok aja, fit terus.
* saat usia kehamilan 4~5 bulan, sering2 nungging .. maksudnya ambil posisi menyembah (seperti sedang sembahyang / bersujud), pantat menungging lebih tinggi dari kepala kedua lengan menjulur lurus ke depan melewati kepala. katanya sih posisi ini bisa merangsang kepala bayi turun ke bawah.
* boleh tuh ikutan kelas senam hamil. berenang juga boleh. kalo gua sih yoga sendiri aja di rumah waktu kehamilan pertama. jurus2nya dapat dari hasil browsing di internet. dengar kata yoga jangan langsung merasa serem .. gak menakutkan kok gerak2annya. gak ada gerakan akrobatik. benar2 gerakan biasa; yang gak punya dasar yoga pun bisa melakukannya tanpa kesulitan. bisa juga lihat di sini, ada gambarnya yang gampang diikutin, tapi tulisannya mandarin.
* boleh tuh ikutan kelas senam hamil. berenang juga boleh. kalo gua sih yoga sendiri aja di rumah waktu kehamilan pertama. jurus2nya dapat dari hasil browsing di internet. dengar kata yoga jangan langsung merasa serem .. gak menakutkan kok gerak2annya. gak ada gerakan akrobatik. benar2 gerakan biasa; yang gak punya dasar yoga pun bisa melakukannya tanpa kesulitan. bisa juga lihat di sini, ada gambarnya yang gampang diikutin, tapi tulisannya mandarin.
* check this out: week-by-week guide to Pregnancy
Liburan 1-7 May 2007
Liburan Hari Buruh
Di China ada 3 minggu libur penting.
* Spring Festival (which is kalo di indo disebut IMLEK or Sincia).
* Libur Hari Buruh 1 May
* Libur Hari Nasional 1 Oktober
Cara liburnya biasanya diatur 7 hari berturutan. tujuannya sih untuk meningkatkan pariwisata domestik, biar orang2 cukup waktu untuk wisata.
nah, 7 hari berturutan itu termasuk di dalamnya hari Sabtu dan Minggu. Terus yang 2 hari mesti diganti dg hari kerja di hari Sabtu dan atau Minggu di minggu sebelum atau sesudahnya. jadi yang bener-bener efektif disebut "libur" yah sebenarnya jatahnya cuman 3 hari.
Masih soal libur .. enaknya lagi kalo jadi perempuan di China, pas International Women's Day, 8 Maret, kita-kita yang perempuan dapat jatah libur setengah hari (4 jam kerja). terus dari perserikatan buruhnya kita dapat sedikit ampao..hahaha... kalo 3 tahun lalu, kita yang perempuan, dinner bareng. setelah dinner pun, masih kebagian ampao yg kalo dirupiahin sekitar 80 ribu rp. lumayan bisa beli berkilo-kilo stroberi (suka banyak dan murah di bulan februari - maret). sekilo stroberi kalo dirupiahin kira2 5-8 ribu rp.
Libur hari buruh tahun ini kita di Hefei aja. gak keluar kota. paling ngajakin Crystal jalan2 ke taman2 kota aja. kita maren ajakin dia ke "Taman Judge Bao" dan "Taman Bunga Apricot". gratis, gak pake karcis masuk. kecuali misal mau masuk ke museum Judge Bao, baru bayar.
Taman Judge Bao ada sungainya (atau bentuknya lebih mirip danau). terus bisa naik kapal2an. kalo yang bermotor, bayarnya 30 yuan. Ada juga mainan bola gede yang bisa dimasukin orang terus terapung di atas air.
Taman Bunga Apricot itu kayak dufan, selain taman buat nyantai, fasilitas olah raga (gratis juga) di area sesudah pintu masuk, ada sungai/danau buatannya, ada niagara, kincir raksasa, kora-kora, dsbnya. masuknya sih gratis. cuman naik sekali, bayarnya 10 yuan. bukan model karcis terusan seperti di dufan.
Toilet-toilet umumnya lumayan lah.. dah bersihan dan lebih terawat dibanding jaman beberapa tahun lalu. enaknya di China sini, pemerintah udah banyak menggalakkan toilet umum gratis. jadi banyakan toilet umum di taman2 gratis. ada toilet2 umum (bukan di taman2) yang bayar 0.3 yuan (kira2 350 rp). tapi banyakan sekarang udah gratis. wah, kalo di indo, sekali masuk toilet bisa gopek atau seribu yah ...! waktu gua ke tangkuban perahu, bayarnya 1000.
hasil dari liburan seminggu maren, gua bukannya nambah berat badan, malah turun berat badan nyaris 1.5 kg. 2 hari terakhir sempat pilek dan gak nafsu makan, mag gua juga lagi gak beres 2 hari terakhir itu. pilek gara-gara sebenarnya cuaca cukup hangat, jadi pas bawa si kecil jalan2 ke taman dekat rumah, gua cuman pakai baju lengan pendek tanpa jaket luaran, taunya anginnya lumayan kenceng.
gak nafsu makannya gara2 bosen ama makanan rumah.
jadi sempat ngeloyor ke luar pagi-pagi atau malam-malam nyari pangsit atau mie sayur.
Almost successful
oh ya, another good news for me. hehe..!
Crystal selama liburan seminggu full ini sudah bisa pipis atau pup sendiri ke pispot. otomatis seharian gak basah celana. kalo main di atas tempat tidur juga kalo pipis dia ngomong.
seneng deh! kalo gua ketiduran, dia neriakin ke gua, "pipis.. pipis...!" gua langsung meloncat bangun.
kadang gua suka bilangin, "jangan pipis di tempat tidur yah.. ntar mesti cuci, jemur, kan repot."
ntar dia akan ngulangi persis apa yang gua omongi ke dia.
habis pipis juga, dia mulai suka ngelap sendiri. tadinya masih dilap-in. tapi lama-lama dia pengen ngelakuin sendiri.
New words
banyak kata-kata baru yang bisa diucapkan Crystal. walaupun kita sama-sama tau anak kecil belajar ngomong itu kecepatannya luar biasa, tapi tetap aja menakjubkan tiap dengerin dia ngucapin kalimat atau hal-hal baru.
misal:
* Ini nih .. Jing-jing anterin kacamata untuk papa
* Saya lihat-lihat dulu
* Nenek mengukur tekanan darah
* Jingjing ngantor di Indonesia. dapat banyak uang. kasih mama, papa, nenek dan kakek. Beli permen, beli baju, beli topi, beli sepatu.
* kalo ngajak dia salaman, dia akan bilang, "nihao..nihao... (apa kabar?) .. saya Liu Hui Han."
selain itu, dia sudah bisa pakai sepatu sendiri. dan mulai suka belajar pakai sendiri celana dalam dan celana panjang. pernah suatu kali, dia mengenakan celana dalamnya yang belom dimasukin ke lemari, dipakainya di luar celana panjangnya. tapi yang menjengkelkan, dia suka melepas sendiri sepatu dan kaus kakinya, padahal lantai masih dingin buat nyeker.
ada lagi, dia itu paling susah kalo dibeliin sepatu dan topi. selalu menolak, bagaimanapun lucunya modelnya. akhirnya nemu juga sepatu hello kitty yang nyaris persis sama dg sepatu dia summer tahun lalu, cuman beda warna. setelah dibujuk2, akhirnya mau juga.
dan sekali-sekalinya di supermarket, dia suka sama sebuah topi. pas dipakaiin di kepalanya, tumben-tumbennya, ga mau dilepas lagi. terus bercermin segala di samping counter topi sambil senyum-senyum. dasar ... !
sayang liburan ini kamera lagi dipinjem teman buat jalan2 ke thailand, singapore dan malaysia. jadi gak bisa motretin acara jalan2nya.
Di China ada 3 minggu libur penting.
* Spring Festival (which is kalo di indo disebut IMLEK or Sincia).
* Libur Hari Buruh 1 May
* Libur Hari Nasional 1 Oktober
Cara liburnya biasanya diatur 7 hari berturutan. tujuannya sih untuk meningkatkan pariwisata domestik, biar orang2 cukup waktu untuk wisata.
nah, 7 hari berturutan itu termasuk di dalamnya hari Sabtu dan Minggu. Terus yang 2 hari mesti diganti dg hari kerja di hari Sabtu dan atau Minggu di minggu sebelum atau sesudahnya. jadi yang bener-bener efektif disebut "libur" yah sebenarnya jatahnya cuman 3 hari.
Masih soal libur .. enaknya lagi kalo jadi perempuan di China, pas International Women's Day, 8 Maret, kita-kita yang perempuan dapat jatah libur setengah hari (4 jam kerja). terus dari perserikatan buruhnya kita dapat sedikit ampao..hahaha... kalo 3 tahun lalu, kita yang perempuan, dinner bareng. setelah dinner pun, masih kebagian ampao yg kalo dirupiahin sekitar 80 ribu rp. lumayan bisa beli berkilo-kilo stroberi (suka banyak dan murah di bulan februari - maret). sekilo stroberi kalo dirupiahin kira2 5-8 ribu rp.
Libur hari buruh tahun ini kita di Hefei aja. gak keluar kota. paling ngajakin Crystal jalan2 ke taman2 kota aja. kita maren ajakin dia ke "Taman Judge Bao" dan "Taman Bunga Apricot". gratis, gak pake karcis masuk. kecuali misal mau masuk ke museum Judge Bao, baru bayar.
Taman Judge Bao ada sungainya (atau bentuknya lebih mirip danau). terus bisa naik kapal2an. kalo yang bermotor, bayarnya 30 yuan. Ada juga mainan bola gede yang bisa dimasukin orang terus terapung di atas air.
Taman Bunga Apricot itu kayak dufan, selain taman buat nyantai, fasilitas olah raga (gratis juga) di area sesudah pintu masuk, ada sungai/danau buatannya, ada niagara, kincir raksasa, kora-kora, dsbnya. masuknya sih gratis. cuman naik sekali, bayarnya 10 yuan. bukan model karcis terusan seperti di dufan.
Toilet-toilet umumnya lumayan lah.. dah bersihan dan lebih terawat dibanding jaman beberapa tahun lalu. enaknya di China sini, pemerintah udah banyak menggalakkan toilet umum gratis. jadi banyakan toilet umum di taman2 gratis. ada toilet2 umum (bukan di taman2) yang bayar 0.3 yuan (kira2 350 rp). tapi banyakan sekarang udah gratis. wah, kalo di indo, sekali masuk toilet bisa gopek atau seribu yah ...! waktu gua ke tangkuban perahu, bayarnya 1000.
hasil dari liburan seminggu maren, gua bukannya nambah berat badan, malah turun berat badan nyaris 1.5 kg. 2 hari terakhir sempat pilek dan gak nafsu makan, mag gua juga lagi gak beres 2 hari terakhir itu. pilek gara-gara sebenarnya cuaca cukup hangat, jadi pas bawa si kecil jalan2 ke taman dekat rumah, gua cuman pakai baju lengan pendek tanpa jaket luaran, taunya anginnya lumayan kenceng.
gak nafsu makannya gara2 bosen ama makanan rumah.
jadi sempat ngeloyor ke luar pagi-pagi atau malam-malam nyari pangsit atau mie sayur.
Almost successful
oh ya, another good news for me. hehe..!
Crystal selama liburan seminggu full ini sudah bisa pipis atau pup sendiri ke pispot. otomatis seharian gak basah celana. kalo main di atas tempat tidur juga kalo pipis dia ngomong.
seneng deh! kalo gua ketiduran, dia neriakin ke gua, "pipis.. pipis...!" gua langsung meloncat bangun.
kadang gua suka bilangin, "jangan pipis di tempat tidur yah.. ntar mesti cuci, jemur, kan repot."
ntar dia akan ngulangi persis apa yang gua omongi ke dia.
habis pipis juga, dia mulai suka ngelap sendiri. tadinya masih dilap-in. tapi lama-lama dia pengen ngelakuin sendiri.
New words
banyak kata-kata baru yang bisa diucapkan Crystal. walaupun kita sama-sama tau anak kecil belajar ngomong itu kecepatannya luar biasa, tapi tetap aja menakjubkan tiap dengerin dia ngucapin kalimat atau hal-hal baru.
misal:
* Ini nih .. Jing-jing anterin kacamata untuk papa
* Saya lihat-lihat dulu
* Nenek mengukur tekanan darah
* Jingjing ngantor di Indonesia. dapat banyak uang. kasih mama, papa, nenek dan kakek. Beli permen, beli baju, beli topi, beli sepatu.
* kalo ngajak dia salaman, dia akan bilang, "nihao..nihao... (apa kabar?) .. saya Liu Hui Han."
selain itu, dia sudah bisa pakai sepatu sendiri. dan mulai suka belajar pakai sendiri celana dalam dan celana panjang. pernah suatu kali, dia mengenakan celana dalamnya yang belom dimasukin ke lemari, dipakainya di luar celana panjangnya. tapi yang menjengkelkan, dia suka melepas sendiri sepatu dan kaus kakinya, padahal lantai masih dingin buat nyeker.
ada lagi, dia itu paling susah kalo dibeliin sepatu dan topi. selalu menolak, bagaimanapun lucunya modelnya. akhirnya nemu juga sepatu hello kitty yang nyaris persis sama dg sepatu dia summer tahun lalu, cuman beda warna. setelah dibujuk2, akhirnya mau juga.
dan sekali-sekalinya di supermarket, dia suka sama sebuah topi. pas dipakaiin di kepalanya, tumben-tumbennya, ga mau dilepas lagi. terus bercermin segala di samping counter topi sambil senyum-senyum. dasar ... !
sayang liburan ini kamera lagi dipinjem teman buat jalan2 ke thailand, singapore dan malaysia. jadi gak bisa motretin acara jalan2nya.
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
blog itu tempat curhat yaa...
tempat curhat
tiap kali kalo berasa tertekan atau stress .. paling enak memang nulis di blog.
bisa curhat, ngomel atau nyerocos sepuas2nya.
toh orang rumah gak ngerti. soalnya nulisnya pakai bahasa indo. hehehe !
selain itu, kadang suka curhat via email ke hanna or henny.
maklum .. di sini gak ada teman yang bener2 teman.
paling curhat ke teman kantor aja, itupun gak all-out.
hubungan mak mertua dan menantu
nah ini dia nih..topik hari ini.
kayaknya di mana-mana hubungan mom and daughter-in-law itu susah dilakoni yah.
pasti ada friksi sedikit banyak; apalagi kalo tinggal serumah.
kalo gua list, untuk kasus umum dan kasus gua mungkin ada beberapa faktor:
1. beda/gap generasi: biasanya beda umur at least 20 tahun, kalo gua dg mak mertu beda 26 tahun.
2. beda pendidikan: mak mertuku gak menyelesaikan SD-nya. oh ya, tapi sering tuh dia nyeletuk ngomongi gua, sarjana S2, gak bisa apa2... pokoknya yang sejenis itu lah. walaupun dg nada bercanda.
3. beda culture: biarpun sama-sama orang chinese, tapi gua tumbuh di kultur orang indonesia, tinggal di kota kecil, terus pindah ke kota besar krn kuliah dan kerja. sementara mak mertua tinggal dan besar di kampung, baru pindah ke kota beberapa tahun setelah menikah. jadi kolot dan masih tahyulan banget. tapi paling gak mau atau malah bisa tersinggung dibilang tahyul, alias gak ngaku tahyul. contoh paling sederhana, gak boleh nyebut kata "mimpi" di pagi hari dan gak boleh ngebahas mimpi. soalnya katanya ntar seharian bakal ditimpal kesialan. masuk akalnya di mana coba?! beda kultur inilah yg banyak mempengaruhi cara hidup. misal kalo gua ngasih kado ke orang, gua senangnya harganya dicopot aja. yg penting kan bukan harganya. nah kalo di sini, justru harganya gak boleh dicopot, malah bon pembeliannya sekalian ditaroh di dalam. biar ketauan harganya berapa. terus kalo ada kado dari orang, dicatet sampai detil, terus mesti dibales dg harga yang kurang lebih sama. memang ada baiknya sih. tapi bikin hidup jadi lelah.
4. beda hobby / kegemaran: pernah gua dan suami ajak dia nyobain pizza hut, terus pulang dia muntah2. dia nyalahin si pizza. padahal sebenarnya adalah waktu itu dia udah laper, terus sebelum makan, perut kosong, dia minum coca cola pakai es. sementara magnya itu gak bagus. langsung masuk angin. terus dia bilang, "makanan elo, kita2 gak makan."
5. beda agama / kepercayaan: dia gak punya agama, ngakunya gak percaya. tapi kadang2 percaya ama "fu" (Buddha), jadi gak konsisten. ajaran kristen soal kasih pasti gak terlalu bisa diterima sama dia sepenuhnya, contoh yg simple: bila ditampar pipi kirimu berikan pipi kananmu. wah, bisa diketawain ama dia deh.
6. beda karakter, beda pemikiran: namanya juga beda orang, pasti karakter/pemikiran beda lah. repotnya, para mak mertua itu biasanya punya kecenderungan merasa dia lebih tua, dia lebih benar. apa yang dia lakukan, katakan, atau dia pikirkan adalah pasti lebih benar. kita2 orang muda tau apa sih? mak gua juga gitu kok ke ipar gua. sering gua ingetin jangan terlalu cerewet dan membesar2kan hal kecil. yah gitu deh.. tetap merasa dia lebih tau dan pasti lebih bener. dan hal ini sering membuat yang jadi menantu merasa tertekan / stress krn dituntut menjadi seperti si ibu mertua. kasus gua, repotnya mak mertua gua suka bawel. jadi satu hal bisa diulang2 ngomongnya. paling gua cuman bisa sabar...sabar...nahan diri. jangan dilawan. kalo dia memang bener, ikutin aja. tapi kalo dia gak bener atau gua gak sreg dg pemikiran dia, diem aja. gak usah dibantah. tapi juga gak usah dijalani seperti maunya dia. ngapain maksa diri ngelakuin hal yg lo gak percaya bakal ok. biasanya kalo di gua, hal ini banyak menyangkut soal parenting. gimana cara mengasuh anak. kalo dia ngoceh2 terus...paling gua diem aja. tapi tetap ngejalani apa yg gua percaya bener. misal aja, gua mau masak air, anak gua pengen nutupin tutup ceretnya, yah gua kasih aja dia nutup. yang penting kan si kecil happy, toh gak berbahaya. eh, gua diomelin!
gua kasih anak gua naik kiddy ride, eh, dia bawel.. bilang ngabisin duit. duit 2 yuan (kira2 2 ribu rupiah) kalo beli sayur dapat sekantong .. sambil ditunjukin tentengan sayur bayem yang baru dia beli. terus diumumi ke semua orang. pusing gak sih ...!
terus dah spring begini, suhu mulai naik. gua gak ngasih anak gua pakai baju terlalu banyak. yang jelas gua bisa ngira2 takerannya kapan anak gua kedinginan atau kepanasan. dia ngotot kudu ngasih pakai baju yg banyak ke anak gua. maksudnya baik sih, takut anak gua masuk angin. tapi takerannya badannya sendiri yg memang belakangan dia gak terlalu fit, jadi sering merasa kedinginan. sementara anak kecil itu gampang kepanasan dan keringatan. gua diem ajalah, daripada ntar malah jadi berantem. paling gua bilang, iya, ntar kalo dia kedinginan, gua tambahin bajunya. lha, pernah mak mertua gua cerita sendiri, waktu gua di kantor, Crystal pernah minta dipakaiin vest krn kedinginan! pas mak mertua gua pegang tangannya, memang dingin. tapi kalo kepanasan, dia buka sendiri vest-nya, gak mau pakai.
wah, masih banyak lagi deh friksi-friksinya kalo keseharian 24 jam ketemu terus.
maren gua libur seminggu full, dari tgl 1-7 May. gak terlalu ke mana2. paling bawa anak gua main2 ke taman2 tertentu. atau bawa jalan di komplek dekat rumah. selebih dari itu, yah di rumah. stress juga... dibawelin setiap saat.
mana suaranya menggelegar. gua suka males/feel annoyed denger orang ngomong tereak-tereak.
tadi pagi tuh, sumbernya kenapa gua jadi curhat panjang gini.
anak gua ngeluarin mainan yg pakai hand-drive gitu deh dari kamar.. terus langsung deh mau direbut ama si Smarty (koko sepupunya). terus mertua gua bilang, "kan sudah dibilang jangan dikeluarin."
gua nyambung, " mana gua tau. si Jing-jing kan mau, jadi yah gua keluarin."
eh, ternyata dia tuh lagi ngomong ke anak gua, yang gua pikir dia ngomong ke gua.
langsung gua kena damprat, dia bilang gua suka membantah apa yang dia omong... bla..bla..bla..
gua bilang, gua kan gak tau kalo dia bukan lagi ngomong ke gua.
tetap aja dia nyerocos ngomelin gua. dan semua orang lagi ada, pak mertu, neneknya suami, abangnya suami. habis tuh gua diemi aja lah. sabar..sabar...namanya juga orang tua.
tapi .. bete...bete.... bete euy...!
untung .. untung... untung gua kerja yah. kalo gak, gak kebayang gua mesti 24 jam sehari tinggal di rumah. dulu awal2 gua baru nikah, 3 bulan pertama belom dpt kerja. gua stress berat. situasinya miriplah.
adik bungsunya yang bantuin ngerawat si kecil pernah suatu kali ngomong ke gua bahwa kakaknya sendiri ngaku ke dia waktu gua belom kerja awal2 gua di sini, dia memang suka "ngerjain" gua.
pantesan, masa-masa itu gua bawaannya stress banget kalo di rumah.
bisa dimaklumi, dia takut gua nganggur seumur hidup dan jadi 'beban' buat anaknya (suami gua).
yah, gitulah... curhat panjang lebar soal mak mertu dan menantu.
kuncinya cuman satu.. dan gampang-gampang susah untuk dilakoni...
sabar..sabar..ngalah..ngalah...
gak mungkin kita merubah orang yg memang sudah begitu adanya.
dengan menjadi lebih sabar, friksi-friksi yang sebenarnya gak perlu ada bisa dihindari.
gua juga selalu berusaha belajar sabar...sabar... !
tiap kali kalo berasa tertekan atau stress .. paling enak memang nulis di blog.
bisa curhat, ngomel atau nyerocos sepuas2nya.
toh orang rumah gak ngerti. soalnya nulisnya pakai bahasa indo. hehehe !
selain itu, kadang suka curhat via email ke hanna or henny.
maklum .. di sini gak ada teman yang bener2 teman.
paling curhat ke teman kantor aja, itupun gak all-out.
hubungan mak mertua dan menantu
nah ini dia nih..topik hari ini.
kayaknya di mana-mana hubungan mom and daughter-in-law itu susah dilakoni yah.
pasti ada friksi sedikit banyak; apalagi kalo tinggal serumah.
kalo gua list, untuk kasus umum dan kasus gua mungkin ada beberapa faktor:
1. beda/gap generasi: biasanya beda umur at least 20 tahun, kalo gua dg mak mertu beda 26 tahun.
2. beda pendidikan: mak mertuku gak menyelesaikan SD-nya. oh ya, tapi sering tuh dia nyeletuk ngomongi gua, sarjana S2, gak bisa apa2... pokoknya yang sejenis itu lah. walaupun dg nada bercanda.
3. beda culture: biarpun sama-sama orang chinese, tapi gua tumbuh di kultur orang indonesia, tinggal di kota kecil, terus pindah ke kota besar krn kuliah dan kerja. sementara mak mertua tinggal dan besar di kampung, baru pindah ke kota beberapa tahun setelah menikah. jadi kolot dan masih tahyulan banget. tapi paling gak mau atau malah bisa tersinggung dibilang tahyul, alias gak ngaku tahyul. contoh paling sederhana, gak boleh nyebut kata "mimpi" di pagi hari dan gak boleh ngebahas mimpi. soalnya katanya ntar seharian bakal ditimpal kesialan. masuk akalnya di mana coba?! beda kultur inilah yg banyak mempengaruhi cara hidup. misal kalo gua ngasih kado ke orang, gua senangnya harganya dicopot aja. yg penting kan bukan harganya. nah kalo di sini, justru harganya gak boleh dicopot, malah bon pembeliannya sekalian ditaroh di dalam. biar ketauan harganya berapa. terus kalo ada kado dari orang, dicatet sampai detil, terus mesti dibales dg harga yang kurang lebih sama. memang ada baiknya sih. tapi bikin hidup jadi lelah.
4. beda hobby / kegemaran: pernah gua dan suami ajak dia nyobain pizza hut, terus pulang dia muntah2. dia nyalahin si pizza. padahal sebenarnya adalah waktu itu dia udah laper, terus sebelum makan, perut kosong, dia minum coca cola pakai es. sementara magnya itu gak bagus. langsung masuk angin. terus dia bilang, "makanan elo, kita2 gak makan."
5. beda agama / kepercayaan: dia gak punya agama, ngakunya gak percaya. tapi kadang2 percaya ama "fu" (Buddha), jadi gak konsisten. ajaran kristen soal kasih pasti gak terlalu bisa diterima sama dia sepenuhnya, contoh yg simple: bila ditampar pipi kirimu berikan pipi kananmu. wah, bisa diketawain ama dia deh.
6. beda karakter, beda pemikiran: namanya juga beda orang, pasti karakter/pemikiran beda lah. repotnya, para mak mertua itu biasanya punya kecenderungan merasa dia lebih tua, dia lebih benar. apa yang dia lakukan, katakan, atau dia pikirkan adalah pasti lebih benar. kita2 orang muda tau apa sih? mak gua juga gitu kok ke ipar gua. sering gua ingetin jangan terlalu cerewet dan membesar2kan hal kecil. yah gitu deh.. tetap merasa dia lebih tau dan pasti lebih bener. dan hal ini sering membuat yang jadi menantu merasa tertekan / stress krn dituntut menjadi seperti si ibu mertua. kasus gua, repotnya mak mertua gua suka bawel. jadi satu hal bisa diulang2 ngomongnya. paling gua cuman bisa sabar...sabar...nahan diri. jangan dilawan. kalo dia memang bener, ikutin aja. tapi kalo dia gak bener atau gua gak sreg dg pemikiran dia, diem aja. gak usah dibantah. tapi juga gak usah dijalani seperti maunya dia. ngapain maksa diri ngelakuin hal yg lo gak percaya bakal ok. biasanya kalo di gua, hal ini banyak menyangkut soal parenting. gimana cara mengasuh anak. kalo dia ngoceh2 terus...paling gua diem aja. tapi tetap ngejalani apa yg gua percaya bener. misal aja, gua mau masak air, anak gua pengen nutupin tutup ceretnya, yah gua kasih aja dia nutup. yang penting kan si kecil happy, toh gak berbahaya. eh, gua diomelin!
gua kasih anak gua naik kiddy ride, eh, dia bawel.. bilang ngabisin duit. duit 2 yuan (kira2 2 ribu rupiah) kalo beli sayur dapat sekantong .. sambil ditunjukin tentengan sayur bayem yang baru dia beli. terus diumumi ke semua orang. pusing gak sih ...!
terus dah spring begini, suhu mulai naik. gua gak ngasih anak gua pakai baju terlalu banyak. yang jelas gua bisa ngira2 takerannya kapan anak gua kedinginan atau kepanasan. dia ngotot kudu ngasih pakai baju yg banyak ke anak gua. maksudnya baik sih, takut anak gua masuk angin. tapi takerannya badannya sendiri yg memang belakangan dia gak terlalu fit, jadi sering merasa kedinginan. sementara anak kecil itu gampang kepanasan dan keringatan. gua diem ajalah, daripada ntar malah jadi berantem. paling gua bilang, iya, ntar kalo dia kedinginan, gua tambahin bajunya. lha, pernah mak mertua gua cerita sendiri, waktu gua di kantor, Crystal pernah minta dipakaiin vest krn kedinginan! pas mak mertua gua pegang tangannya, memang dingin. tapi kalo kepanasan, dia buka sendiri vest-nya, gak mau pakai.
wah, masih banyak lagi deh friksi-friksinya kalo keseharian 24 jam ketemu terus.
maren gua libur seminggu full, dari tgl 1-7 May. gak terlalu ke mana2. paling bawa anak gua main2 ke taman2 tertentu. atau bawa jalan di komplek dekat rumah. selebih dari itu, yah di rumah. stress juga... dibawelin setiap saat.
mana suaranya menggelegar. gua suka males/feel annoyed denger orang ngomong tereak-tereak.
tadi pagi tuh, sumbernya kenapa gua jadi curhat panjang gini.
anak gua ngeluarin mainan yg pakai hand-drive gitu deh dari kamar.. terus langsung deh mau direbut ama si Smarty (koko sepupunya). terus mertua gua bilang, "kan sudah dibilang jangan dikeluarin."
gua nyambung, " mana gua tau. si Jing-jing kan mau, jadi yah gua keluarin."
eh, ternyata dia tuh lagi ngomong ke anak gua, yang gua pikir dia ngomong ke gua.
langsung gua kena damprat, dia bilang gua suka membantah apa yang dia omong... bla..bla..bla..
gua bilang, gua kan gak tau kalo dia bukan lagi ngomong ke gua.
tetap aja dia nyerocos ngomelin gua. dan semua orang lagi ada, pak mertu, neneknya suami, abangnya suami. habis tuh gua diemi aja lah. sabar..sabar...namanya juga orang tua.
tapi .. bete...bete.... bete euy...!
untung .. untung... untung gua kerja yah. kalo gak, gak kebayang gua mesti 24 jam sehari tinggal di rumah. dulu awal2 gua baru nikah, 3 bulan pertama belom dpt kerja. gua stress berat. situasinya miriplah.
adik bungsunya yang bantuin ngerawat si kecil pernah suatu kali ngomong ke gua bahwa kakaknya sendiri ngaku ke dia waktu gua belom kerja awal2 gua di sini, dia memang suka "ngerjain" gua.
pantesan, masa-masa itu gua bawaannya stress banget kalo di rumah.
bisa dimaklumi, dia takut gua nganggur seumur hidup dan jadi 'beban' buat anaknya (suami gua).
yah, gitulah... curhat panjang lebar soal mak mertu dan menantu.
kuncinya cuman satu.. dan gampang-gampang susah untuk dilakoni...
sabar..sabar..ngalah..ngalah...
gak mungkin kita merubah orang yg memang sudah begitu adanya.
dengan menjadi lebih sabar, friksi-friksi yang sebenarnya gak perlu ada bisa dihindari.
gua juga selalu berusaha belajar sabar...sabar... !
Monday, April 30, 2007
potty training
Crystal is 22 months today
since Crystal could sit well, and especially when she started to walk, 11.5 months, if i was at home, i'd try as much to let her sit on potty when pee or poop.
also i often told her:
"Jing-jing, if you want to pee or poop, tell mama. OK? or if you want, you can go and pee at toilet. or you can sit on potty by yourself."
i think it's about time for her now.
she is more than half way to success for this potty training.
sometimes if she wants to pee, she sits on the potty by herself.
sometimes i just remind her by saying, "Jing-jing, go and sit on potty before you pee on your pants."
many kiddy pants in china are having a hole on the bottom area.
so, she wouldnt have to take off her pants. she can just sit on the potty and pee.
actually i have let her wear a kiddy panty. but her grandma is not so patient to let her wear it. she doesnt want to let her wear it.
sometimes Crystal will tell us by saying, "niao niao." (means: pee).
but still .. sometimes she says "niao niao" after she has already pee. lol !
last nite, around 9pm, i let her play puzzles on bed. few minutes later, i fell aslept 'coz i was awfully sleepy.
on 9.30pm, in my sleep, i heard her saying to me, "niao niao..niao niao..."
i found out she was standing besides our bed, talking to me, pointing her pee on the floor.
her pants were wet. lol !
she had got down from the bed. she just had pee before reaching the potty.
blamed mama for falling a sleep !
on 10pm, she told me she wanted to poop. so she sat on potty with me sat in front of her, accompanying her.
here was the sweetest thing she did while we sat together waiting for her to poop;
she said she wanted to kiss my eyes. so i let her do it. my dear lill one, mommy's enjoying your kissing mommy's eyes very much !!! and i also kissed her eyes.
Smarty doesn't want to use potty
On contrary, Smarty, the boy of my in-laws, never wants to sit on potty or toilet.
So anyone in the house should carry up this 18kgs boy whenever he poops, with extra bonus: the smell comes up from the basin where he poops.
They never let him have potty training .. never !
He is now, 2 years 8 months; maybe a little bit late for starting a potty training.
'They' here includes his own parents and my mother and father-in-law.
They just simply say, he doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet.
Yes .. of course he doesn't want, 'coz they never let him do from the very beginning.
So, please do carry him all the time if he wants to poop, and you all will surely get your bonus of course.. lol.
They never listen to my advise regarding some parenting stuffs. They think they know more perhaps. Whatever..!
But they often finds out Crystal can do this or that earlier compares to her brother.
Then they would start to teach similar thing to Smarty.
Same case with eating with a spoon.
I have a little argument (not quarrel) with my husband regarding potty training last nite.
My husband doesn't believe that Smarty doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet because of no potty training on him.
My husband said, it's just a boy's nature. A girl is easier to squat when pee or sit on potty, because of the nature that she is a girl.
Whatever-lah .. the potty training I did for Crystal has brought good result.. as i said, more than half way to success.
since Crystal could sit well, and especially when she started to walk, 11.5 months, if i was at home, i'd try as much to let her sit on potty when pee or poop.
also i often told her:
"Jing-jing, if you want to pee or poop, tell mama. OK? or if you want, you can go and pee at toilet. or you can sit on potty by yourself."
i think it's about time for her now.
she is more than half way to success for this potty training.
sometimes if she wants to pee, she sits on the potty by herself.
sometimes i just remind her by saying, "Jing-jing, go and sit on potty before you pee on your pants."
many kiddy pants in china are having a hole on the bottom area.
so, she wouldnt have to take off her pants. she can just sit on the potty and pee.
actually i have let her wear a kiddy panty. but her grandma is not so patient to let her wear it. she doesnt want to let her wear it.
sometimes Crystal will tell us by saying, "niao niao." (means: pee).
but still .. sometimes she says "niao niao" after she has already pee. lol !
last nite, around 9pm, i let her play puzzles on bed. few minutes later, i fell aslept 'coz i was awfully sleepy.
on 9.30pm, in my sleep, i heard her saying to me, "niao niao..niao niao..."
i found out she was standing besides our bed, talking to me, pointing her pee on the floor.
her pants were wet. lol !
she had got down from the bed. she just had pee before reaching the potty.
blamed mama for falling a sleep !
on 10pm, she told me she wanted to poop. so she sat on potty with me sat in front of her, accompanying her.
here was the sweetest thing she did while we sat together waiting for her to poop;
she said she wanted to kiss my eyes. so i let her do it. my dear lill one, mommy's enjoying your kissing mommy's eyes very much !!! and i also kissed her eyes.
Smarty doesn't want to use potty
On contrary, Smarty, the boy of my in-laws, never wants to sit on potty or toilet.
So anyone in the house should carry up this 18kgs boy whenever he poops, with extra bonus: the smell comes up from the basin where he poops.
They never let him have potty training .. never !
He is now, 2 years 8 months; maybe a little bit late for starting a potty training.
'They' here includes his own parents and my mother and father-in-law.
They just simply say, he doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet.
Yes .. of course he doesn't want, 'coz they never let him do from the very beginning.
So, please do carry him all the time if he wants to poop, and you all will surely get your bonus of course.. lol.
They never listen to my advise regarding some parenting stuffs. They think they know more perhaps. Whatever..!
But they often finds out Crystal can do this or that earlier compares to her brother.
Then they would start to teach similar thing to Smarty.
Same case with eating with a spoon.
I have a little argument (not quarrel) with my husband regarding potty training last nite.
My husband doesn't believe that Smarty doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet because of no potty training on him.
My husband said, it's just a boy's nature. A girl is easier to squat when pee or sit on potty, because of the nature that she is a girl.
Whatever-lah .. the potty training I did for Crystal has brought good result.. as i said, more than half way to success.
Saturday, April 28, 2007
funny fact about math
From a strictly mathematical viewpoint it goes like this:
What makes 100%?
What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?
Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?
We have all been to those meetings where someone wants you to give more than 100%!!!
How about achieving 103%?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help you answer these questions:
If:
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
Then:
H-A-R-D-W-O-R-K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
and,
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%
but,
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
And,
B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T
2+21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%
And look how far ass kissing will take you:
A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G
1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%
So, one can conclude with mathematical certainity that:
While Hardwork and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, Bullshit and Ass Kissing will put you over the top!!!
a ton of people who practice this and get places in this world!
from:
http://sunrisenmoon.blogs.friendster.com/my_blog/2006/02/the_real_truth_.html
What makes 100%?
What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?
Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?
We have all been to those meetings where someone wants you to give more than 100%!!!
How about achieving 103%?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help you answer these questions:
If:
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
Then:
H-A-R-D-W-O-R-K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
and,
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%
but,
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
And,
B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T
2+21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%
And look how far ass kissing will take you:
A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G
1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%
So, one can conclude with mathematical certainity that:
While Hardwork and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, Bullshit and Ass Kissing will put you over the top!!!
a ton of people who practice this and get places in this world!
from:
http://sunrisenmoon.blogs.friendster.com/my_blog/2006/02/the_real_truth_.html
husband store
A lady enters a "husband store".
there's a sign written on the door:
our store has 6 floors.
you can only go up and cannot return to the lower floor.
you will find an exit on each floor after you've picked what you need.
On the first floor the sign reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
She continues to the second floor. The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012th to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
there's a sign written on the door:
our store has 6 floors.
you can only go up and cannot return to the lower floor.
you will find an exit on each floor after you've picked what you need.
On the first floor the sign reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
She continues to the second floor. The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012th to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
Friday, April 27, 2007
bener2 pengen nangis !
sebel ama pemerintah china!
setelah nanya sana-sini, ke pihak berwenang .. ternyata aku tidak boleh melahirkan di china.
kalo melahirkan di china, suamiku akan kehilangan pekerjaannya, karena punya 2 anak status WNC. anak yang lahir di sini otomatis jadi WNC, karena salah satu orang tuanya WNC.
jadi aku harus balik dan melahirkan di indo. supaya si anak bisa berstatus WNI.
NO OTHER CHOICE, NO OTHER WAY !
kebayang bagaimana repotnya nanti.
atau pilihan kedua, menggugurkan si janin !
bener2 pengen nangis !
setelah nanya sana-sini, ke pihak berwenang .. ternyata aku tidak boleh melahirkan di china.
kalo melahirkan di china, suamiku akan kehilangan pekerjaannya, karena punya 2 anak status WNC. anak yang lahir di sini otomatis jadi WNC, karena salah satu orang tuanya WNC.
jadi aku harus balik dan melahirkan di indo. supaya si anak bisa berstatus WNI.
NO OTHER CHOICE, NO OTHER WAY !
kebayang bagaimana repotnya nanti.
atau pilihan kedua, menggugurkan si janin !
bener2 pengen nangis !
Thursday, April 26, 2007
got angry with mama
while playing on the bed after dinner, Crystal scratched mama's face with a plastic part of a pen. Mama didn't let her. She got angry and insisted. so mama beat her hand coz she kept insisting. after that she cried.
daddy came and said that he would take her out for a walk. she stopped crying. and said to daddy, "don't play with mama. play with daddy."
hahaha... made daddy and mama laughing.
few hours later, when it's about bed time, again similar thing happened on the bed.
Crystal got angry again.
Crys : Beat mama..beat mama.. Mama .. go to work!
Dad : (work on the computer, laughing)
G'ma: (just come in, hear it and laughing too)
Mom: OK, mama goes to work. Mama doesn't want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom : Hey ... didnt you ask mama to go to work just now ?
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom: Mama goes to work, mama doesnt want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : want Jing-jing.
Mom: dont want Jing-jing
Crys : eeh.. want Jing-jing, mama dont go to work.
Mom: (smiling) Ok, want Jing-jing. come here and hug mama.
yesterday evening, Crystal was playing with daddy's drawer key.
Grandpa said with hard tone, "dont play with it. gun-dan!"
Crystal cried bcoz of that.
during dinner, when we talked about this, Crystal also joined the conversation:
Crys : Jingjing went to grandma grandpa's bedroom.
Mom: oh.. what did you get ?
Crys: Got a key
Mom: what did Grandpa say to you?
Crys: gun dan
(everybody laughed)
Mom: and what did you do? did you cry? how did you cry?
Crys : eeh...eeh...
Dad : Jingjing, here is what gun-dan means ... (daddy got an egg and rolled it on the table)
gun = rolling
dan = egg
gun dan = go out (Chinese colloquial)
daddy came and said that he would take her out for a walk. she stopped crying. and said to daddy, "don't play with mama. play with daddy."
hahaha... made daddy and mama laughing.
few hours later, when it's about bed time, again similar thing happened on the bed.
Crystal got angry again.
Crys : Beat mama..beat mama.. Mama .. go to work!
Dad : (work on the computer, laughing)
G'ma: (just come in, hear it and laughing too)
Mom: OK, mama goes to work. Mama doesn't want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom : Hey ... didnt you ask mama to go to work just now ?
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom: Mama goes to work, mama doesnt want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : want Jing-jing.
Mom: dont want Jing-jing
Crys : eeh.. want Jing-jing, mama dont go to work.
Mom: (smiling) Ok, want Jing-jing. come here and hug mama.
yesterday evening, Crystal was playing with daddy's drawer key.
Grandpa said with hard tone, "dont play with it. gun-dan!"
Crystal cried bcoz of that.
during dinner, when we talked about this, Crystal also joined the conversation:
Crys : Jingjing went to grandma grandpa's bedroom.
Mom: oh.. what did you get ?
Crys: Got a key
Mom: what did Grandpa say to you?
Crys: gun dan
(everybody laughed)
Mom: and what did you do? did you cry? how did you cry?
Crys : eeh...eeh...
Dad : Jingjing, here is what gun-dan means ... (daddy got an egg and rolled it on the table)
gun = rolling
dan = egg
gun dan = go out (Chinese colloquial)
Friday, April 20, 2007
one child policy in China
by one child policy regulation in China, normally a Chinese couple is only allowed to have 1 child.
several exception i've ever heard:
* both the husband and wife are from the minority folk. the majority is "HAN". the minority are such as Xinjiang, Zhang, Chaoxian, etc. there are total 55 minority folks (thribes) in China.
* both the husband and wife are single-child in their own families.
* farmers whose first kid is a daughter.
* either the husband or wife is a foreigner.
previously, we got info that we could have 2 kids with Chinese nationality. but we needed to wait for another 3 years for the second one. but it was a mis-informatiton we got. another version we got was, if we wanted to have 2 children, both of the children must have foreign nationality (which is Indonesia).
the latest version, which is the correct version so far is:
we can have 2 children, if first one has Chinese nationality, then the second one cannot have the Chinese nationality, and cannot change it also in the future. if the second has the Chinese nationality, my husband will get fired from his job, which he works for the government (China Telecom). for this second kid, we dont have to wait for 3 years or so.
Thank God ! i really feel in such great relief now.
last few days i was in most stressfull condition ever, worried .. by the law that i must abort my second baby. if it happened, and i got no choice, i would plan to have my second baby in Indonesia.
and here is the great news...
i am now 9 weeks pregnant. and i feel great now!
actually it is out of our plan, out of the calculation, it happened during my infertile period; which was around the 20th day (from the first day of my period).
never rely on calculation by "fertility period" if you dont plan to get pregnant. lol ... !
several exception i've ever heard:
* both the husband and wife are from the minority folk. the majority is "HAN". the minority are such as Xinjiang, Zhang, Chaoxian, etc. there are total 55 minority folks (thribes) in China.
* both the husband and wife are single-child in their own families.
* farmers whose first kid is a daughter.
* either the husband or wife is a foreigner.
previously, we got info that we could have 2 kids with Chinese nationality. but we needed to wait for another 3 years for the second one. but it was a mis-informatiton we got. another version we got was, if we wanted to have 2 children, both of the children must have foreign nationality (which is Indonesia).
the latest version, which is the correct version so far is:
we can have 2 children, if first one has Chinese nationality, then the second one cannot have the Chinese nationality, and cannot change it also in the future. if the second has the Chinese nationality, my husband will get fired from his job, which he works for the government (China Telecom). for this second kid, we dont have to wait for 3 years or so.
Thank God ! i really feel in such great relief now.
last few days i was in most stressfull condition ever, worried .. by the law that i must abort my second baby. if it happened, and i got no choice, i would plan to have my second baby in Indonesia.
and here is the great news...
i am now 9 weeks pregnant. and i feel great now!
actually it is out of our plan, out of the calculation, it happened during my infertile period; which was around the 20th day (from the first day of my period).
never rely on calculation by "fertility period" if you dont plan to get pregnant. lol ... !
Monday, April 16, 2007
most difficult moment ever ...
this is the most difficult moment EVER in my life.
i dont know what to do, cause it seems that i won't have any choice.
i dont know what to do, cause it seems that i won't have any choice.
Sunday, April 15, 2007
diarrhea and brown sugar
we arrived at home on 11.30pm yesterday.
fyuuuh... awfully tired in and out ...!
'coz we travelled by train from Shanghai to Hefei.
it took us 7 hours sitting on the train.. fyuuuhh... again !
of course we kept Crystal being as convenient as possible, including when she wanted to sleep. at the beginning she slept on my arms and thighs. later on i couldn't stand it anymore, and i put her on the seat. thank goodness ... she slept soundly still. she got a little fever and cough before leaving Jakarta, blamed us on letting her drank coconut ice few days before.
she got well once we arrived at home. while today, i got diarrhea.
i took 2 tablets of diarrhea medicine, but i didn't work out. i still went to toilet 3 times and it's getting worse.
my father-in-law asked me to drink brown-sugar-water.
put around 2 table spoons of brown sugar into a glass of hot water (around 200ml).
voila... it worked ! and for the whole nite i only went to toilet once.
today is Lin's lunar bday.
we have some bday cake .. no... no... i didn't bake for sure, it's from the bakery.
we also got a nice surprise today. a very nice surprise !!!
well ... though we have thought we would get it. tell you later on.
fyuuuh... awfully tired in and out ...!
'coz we travelled by train from Shanghai to Hefei.
it took us 7 hours sitting on the train.. fyuuuhh... again !
of course we kept Crystal being as convenient as possible, including when she wanted to sleep. at the beginning she slept on my arms and thighs. later on i couldn't stand it anymore, and i put her on the seat. thank goodness ... she slept soundly still. she got a little fever and cough before leaving Jakarta, blamed us on letting her drank coconut ice few days before.
she got well once we arrived at home. while today, i got diarrhea.
i took 2 tablets of diarrhea medicine, but i didn't work out. i still went to toilet 3 times and it's getting worse.
my father-in-law asked me to drink brown-sugar-water.
put around 2 table spoons of brown sugar into a glass of hot water (around 200ml).
voila... it worked ! and for the whole nite i only went to toilet once.
today is Lin's lunar bday.
we have some bday cake .. no... no... i didn't bake for sure, it's from the bakery.
we also got a nice surprise today. a very nice surprise !!!
well ... though we have thought we would get it. tell you later on.
Sunday, April 01, 2007
flight to Jakarta
on 30-Mar-07 we took night train from Hefei to Shanghai.
left hefei on 8.15pm. arrived at Shanghai the next morning on 5am.
Crystal was being nice on the way. as i learnt from Lisa, who prepared 15 gifts for her Fino on the flight; i brought a puzzle for Crystal; but no 15 gifts. lol.
so she played puzzle on the bed or wandered around on the train. she also loved to climb the bed stairs. there're 6 beds in a block. 3 on the left and 3 on the right.
luckily, we got 2 lowest level beds. otherwise, i couldn't imagine how troublesome it would be.
after arriving in Shanghai, we had some breakfast at a resto besides the railway station. actually we could take the airport bus, with only RMB 18/person. but consider our flight was on 10.10am, so we took taxi, which cost us about RMB 170.
ghosh... our flight was canceled. it's said that Jusuf Kalla was in Shanghai, on his way to Egypt (or somewhere in the middle east country). the plane would be used as back-up for him. damn !
so we were all hanging around waiting for news regarding our flight.
our flight was transfered to Singapore Airline, schedule on 00.05am the next day.
so we all went to hotel for a rest.
on 9pm, we went to the airport again.
i was told that Garuda had mistakenly booked Crystal flight on the 08.30am flight. i just needed to inform the person-in-charge during check in. so we queued. around 11.10pm, we got trouble, we couldnt check in due to Crystal was not booked at the same flight with us. those stupid persons couldnt change her flight to the same flight with us in the booking system, even she was infant, which meant she didn't need a seat.
at the end, we couldnt get into this flight.
they re-booked us for the next morning flight.
ghosh .. in the middle of the night, we returned again to the hotel.
woke up 5.30 the next morning and went to airport again.
finally, we flied with SQ on 8.30am to Singapore.
luckily, SQ services was quite nice, the seat was also more comfortable (if compared to Garuda).
Crystal also got some toy from the stewardess.
Thank God, she was not giving us any trouble during the flight.
she played puzzled, played with spoon, fork, bread jam, butter, cup, etc.
The only problem was she didn't sleep --while i was quite sleepy-- and never stopped bugging me .... hahahaa... !
walking in the plane, going into the first class area, sometimes saying she wanted to pee while actually i put diaper on her. so once in a while i took her to toilet for pee in her diaper. lol !
when the plane were about to land, she fell asleep. at that time, unfortunately ... i couldnt sleep anymore.
we arrived at Singapore on around 1.30pm.
waiting for the next flight with Garuda to Jakarta on around 4.30pm.
Crystal was sleeping on my arms, for about 1.5 hours.
we ate some Hainan chicken rice at a resto in Changi airport.
hmmm... the taste was quite ok .. especially the "saus cabe" ... very tasty!
finally ..
in Jakarta, my cousin sister (Eny), her daughter (Jasselynn) and my youngest brother came to pick us.
what a tiring day !!!
Pudong Airport (31-Mar-07)
Shanghai Airline Hotel, 31-Mar-07
Changi Airport, 1-April-07
left hefei on 8.15pm. arrived at Shanghai the next morning on 5am.
Crystal was being nice on the way. as i learnt from Lisa, who prepared 15 gifts for her Fino on the flight; i brought a puzzle for Crystal; but no 15 gifts. lol.
so she played puzzle on the bed or wandered around on the train. she also loved to climb the bed stairs. there're 6 beds in a block. 3 on the left and 3 on the right.
luckily, we got 2 lowest level beds. otherwise, i couldn't imagine how troublesome it would be.
after arriving in Shanghai, we had some breakfast at a resto besides the railway station. actually we could take the airport bus, with only RMB 18/person. but consider our flight was on 10.10am, so we took taxi, which cost us about RMB 170.
ghosh... our flight was canceled. it's said that Jusuf Kalla was in Shanghai, on his way to Egypt (or somewhere in the middle east country). the plane would be used as back-up for him. damn !
so we were all hanging around waiting for news regarding our flight.
our flight was transfered to Singapore Airline, schedule on 00.05am the next day.
so we all went to hotel for a rest.
on 9pm, we went to the airport again.
i was told that Garuda had mistakenly booked Crystal flight on the 08.30am flight. i just needed to inform the person-in-charge during check in. so we queued. around 11.10pm, we got trouble, we couldnt check in due to Crystal was not booked at the same flight with us. those stupid persons couldnt change her flight to the same flight with us in the booking system, even she was infant, which meant she didn't need a seat.
at the end, we couldnt get into this flight.
they re-booked us for the next morning flight.
ghosh .. in the middle of the night, we returned again to the hotel.
woke up 5.30 the next morning and went to airport again.
finally, we flied with SQ on 8.30am to Singapore.
luckily, SQ services was quite nice, the seat was also more comfortable (if compared to Garuda).
Crystal also got some toy from the stewardess.
Thank God, she was not giving us any trouble during the flight.
she played puzzled, played with spoon, fork, bread jam, butter, cup, etc.
The only problem was she didn't sleep --while i was quite sleepy-- and never stopped bugging me .... hahahaa... !
walking in the plane, going into the first class area, sometimes saying she wanted to pee while actually i put diaper on her. so once in a while i took her to toilet for pee in her diaper. lol !
when the plane were about to land, she fell asleep. at that time, unfortunately ... i couldnt sleep anymore.
we arrived at Singapore on around 1.30pm.
waiting for the next flight with Garuda to Jakarta on around 4.30pm.
Crystal was sleeping on my arms, for about 1.5 hours.
we ate some Hainan chicken rice at a resto in Changi airport.
hmmm... the taste was quite ok .. especially the "saus cabe" ... very tasty!
finally ..
in Jakarta, my cousin sister (Eny), her daughter (Jasselynn) and my youngest brother came to pick us.
what a tiring day !!!
Pudong Airport (31-Mar-07)
Shanghai Airline Hotel, 31-Mar-07
Changi Airport, 1-April-07
Thursday, March 29, 2007
persiapan mudik
ternyata bloggernya bisa dibuka lagi. jadi masih nyempetin nulis sedikit catetan.
persiapan mudik repot juga...dari pesan tiket sampai belanja oleh2.
TIKET
maklum, maunya cari tiket harga termurah. akhirnya dapat tiket discount, mesti balik dalam 14 hari. cocok banget, soalnya kerjaan kantorku dan kantor suami sama2 gak bisa ditinggal terlalu lama. kalo kerjaanku, gak bisa ditinggal karena aku kawatir gak ke-handle dg baik.
kalo suami, pertimbangannya, kalo lebih dari sekian hari (lupa berapa hari), bonusnya bisa hilang. dan bonusnya itu separoh dari gaji.
tiket discount Garuda pulang pergi Shanghai-Jakarta harganya US$500/RMB 3845 (all in, udah termasuk tax, fuel charge dan sebagainya). karena tiketnya special discount, tiket untuk Crystal (infant) bukan yang seharusnya 10% untuk anak di bawah 2 tahun, tapi kena 20% (aturan internalnya Garuda). jadi harga tiketnya si kecil mayan juga... RMB 3310 (US$430).
tiket Jakarta-Jambi juga dah dapat: Rp 338,000/adult, Rp 68,000/infant.
jadi rada tenang sekarang.
untuk Hefei-Shanghai, kita naik kereta malam. jadi bisa tidur di kereta. ada tempat tidurnya dan ber-AC. biar irit ... hehehe! kebetulan schedulenya juga pas dg jadwal terbangnya.
BELANJA OLEH2
repot juga yah kalo punya sodara sekompi. bayangi makku total ada 11 bersodara (1 orang dah meninggal) dan babe 8 bersodara (ada 1 juga yang dah meninggal). masing2 oom dan tante punya anak 3-6 orang. dan 50%-nya dah married dan punya anak 1-3 orang. kalo didaftar kira2 kayak gini statistiknya:
oom dan tante = 25 orang (termasuk pasangannya)
sepupu = 28 orang (gak termasuk pasangannya)
ponakan = 30 orang (estimasi aja..soalnya gak ada update yg pasti).
maren mertua gua belanja chinese teh (Huangshan Maofeng, Huoshan Huangya, Lu An Guapian, Longjing) nyaris total mencapai 8 kg. packingnya dalam bentuk kalengan. total 1 kardus ukuran sedang. itu pun gak semua tante/oom dapat jatah. kalo yg tinggal di luar jambi / jakarta, udh gak dijatahin .. hehehehe..! gua sendiri belanja cemilan2 khas chinese di carrefour, plus belanja sedikit baju/celana untuk ponakan, sodara dan bonyok. total 1 koper gede. hehehee...!
oh ya, untungnya bokap mertua banyak channel nih. beli chinese teanya itu nyari teman "seperjuangan" waktu di tentara kelautan dulu, yang kebetulan punya adik yang buka toko chinese teh. uuh... discountnya gila-gilaan. bayangi aja, harga normal pasaran (udah gak bisa ditawar) untuk Huangshan Maofeng adalah RMB 480/kg. nah, bokap mertua gua itu bisa beli dg harga RMB 160/kg (udah modalnya doang).
sebenarnya pusing juga, belom mikirin oleh-oleh untuk teman2 dekat, yang kayaknya udah gak muat lagi, alias mesti di-skip kayaknya...! =( soalnya masih mesti bawa koper baju dan menggendong si kecil, kalo dia gak mau jalan repot juga kan... gua dah nyari semacam tali buat gendong bayi gitu. (apa yah namanya?) biar tangan gua bisa bebas narik koper.. gak nemu euiii... adanya yang rada belibet gitu... gak ringkes. akhirnya gak jadi beli.
di samping belanja oleh2, kudu belanja baju-baju tropikal untuk si kecil, soalnya banyak baju kala summer tahun lalu dah agak kekecilan. repot juga belanja buat si kecil .. baju-baju, sepatu untuk summer belom launching di toko2. ujungnya, gua cuman dapat 1 buah rok terusan. akhirnya coba bongkar2 baju-baju tahun lalu. yah... beli di indo aja deh, solusi termudah.
repotnya lagi.. pas gua nyoba-nyoba topi buat si kecil, semua ditolak ama dia. juga sepatu, nemu satu di stok lama yang punya toko, terlalu ngepas banget, gak ada ukuran yang gedean dikit. takut gak nyaman di kaki, udah gitu, dia juga menolak, protes-protes terus pas dicobaiin ke kakinya. emang paling pusing kalo beli sepatu buat dia. solusi terbaik adalah nyari yang persis sama dg model yang dia pakai saat ini. tapi di toko gak ada yang sama persis. toko tempat gua beli tahun lalu kebetulan dah tutup, dan buka tempat mandi untuk baby.
di rumah ada beberapa pasang sepatu yang dibeliin, dia gak mau pakai. setiap kali dipakaikan ke kakinya, nangis2, ngomel dan protes, dan dilepasin sendiri ama dia. puyeeengggg...!
PASSPORT
sempat nyaris batal rencana pulang bawa anak dan suami. soalnya sempat passport suami gak diloloskan dg alasan yang gak jelas dan gak penting banget. tapi akhirnya dg bantuan sodara / oom yang di kepolisian, akhirnya jadi juga paspornya 2 bulan lalu. fyuuuh....!
SINGAPORE dan BALI
tadinya sempat mikir mampir dulu 2 hari di singapore, soalnya kebetulan gua ada customer visit ke singapore. udah nyiapin uang jaminannya segala. warga PRC yang apply visa singapore mesti bayar jaminan RMB 5100/orang, dewasa maupun anak kecil idem. eh.. pas lagi mau urus2 visa via agent, ditolak, karena katanya maknya orang asing, agent gak bisa urus visanya, mesti urus sendiri ke konsulat singapore yang di shanghai. cari info di website, katanya sih warga PRC yang mampir di singapore gak lebih dari 96 jam, bisa visa free. tapi ada syarat ini itunya, yang akhirnya males juga ngecek lebih jauh, lagian takut kalo bermasalah pas di sononya .. malah repot.
yah sutralah... akhirnya mutusin gak mampir ke singapore, tapi langsung beli tiket ke jakarta.
ternyata mau "keluar negri" itu repotnya juga minta ampun yah!
sempat nimbang mau ajak suami jalan2 ke bali, udah contact guide segala. tapi sutralah..takut si kecil gak kuat fisiknya, kecapean jalan jauh, akhirnya ditunda untuk beberapa tahun aja lagi.
GAK SABARAN
oke deh... dari segala pernak-pernik persiapan mudik di atas, gua paling gak sabaran pengen cepat2 menikmati pempek, sate padang, siomai, ayam bakar, ikan bakar, sambal terasi, sayur asem, gado-gado, martabak, bakso, ... kuetiaw/bihun goreng.... nyammm....nyamm....nyammm... ! jangan kata gua di china sini, tempat asal kuetiaw dan sodara2nya; kuetiaw, bihun goreng atau bakmi terenak tetap aja dari indo. hahahahaa!
persiapan mudik repot juga...dari pesan tiket sampai belanja oleh2.
TIKET
maklum, maunya cari tiket harga termurah. akhirnya dapat tiket discount, mesti balik dalam 14 hari. cocok banget, soalnya kerjaan kantorku dan kantor suami sama2 gak bisa ditinggal terlalu lama. kalo kerjaanku, gak bisa ditinggal karena aku kawatir gak ke-handle dg baik.
kalo suami, pertimbangannya, kalo lebih dari sekian hari (lupa berapa hari), bonusnya bisa hilang. dan bonusnya itu separoh dari gaji.
tiket discount Garuda pulang pergi Shanghai-Jakarta harganya US$500/RMB 3845 (all in, udah termasuk tax, fuel charge dan sebagainya). karena tiketnya special discount, tiket untuk Crystal (infant) bukan yang seharusnya 10% untuk anak di bawah 2 tahun, tapi kena 20% (aturan internalnya Garuda). jadi harga tiketnya si kecil mayan juga... RMB 3310 (US$430).
tiket Jakarta-Jambi juga dah dapat: Rp 338,000/adult, Rp 68,000/infant.
jadi rada tenang sekarang.
untuk Hefei-Shanghai, kita naik kereta malam. jadi bisa tidur di kereta. ada tempat tidurnya dan ber-AC. biar irit ... hehehe! kebetulan schedulenya juga pas dg jadwal terbangnya.
BELANJA OLEH2
repot juga yah kalo punya sodara sekompi. bayangi makku total ada 11 bersodara (1 orang dah meninggal) dan babe 8 bersodara (ada 1 juga yang dah meninggal). masing2 oom dan tante punya anak 3-6 orang. dan 50%-nya dah married dan punya anak 1-3 orang. kalo didaftar kira2 kayak gini statistiknya:
oom dan tante = 25 orang (termasuk pasangannya)
sepupu = 28 orang (gak termasuk pasangannya)
ponakan = 30 orang (estimasi aja..soalnya gak ada update yg pasti).
maren mertua gua belanja chinese teh (Huangshan Maofeng, Huoshan Huangya, Lu An Guapian, Longjing) nyaris total mencapai 8 kg. packingnya dalam bentuk kalengan. total 1 kardus ukuran sedang. itu pun gak semua tante/oom dapat jatah. kalo yg tinggal di luar jambi / jakarta, udh gak dijatahin .. hehehehe..! gua sendiri belanja cemilan2 khas chinese di carrefour, plus belanja sedikit baju/celana untuk ponakan, sodara dan bonyok. total 1 koper gede. hehehee...!
oh ya, untungnya bokap mertua banyak channel nih. beli chinese teanya itu nyari teman "seperjuangan" waktu di tentara kelautan dulu, yang kebetulan punya adik yang buka toko chinese teh. uuh... discountnya gila-gilaan. bayangi aja, harga normal pasaran (udah gak bisa ditawar) untuk Huangshan Maofeng adalah RMB 480/kg. nah, bokap mertua gua itu bisa beli dg harga RMB 160/kg (udah modalnya doang).
sebenarnya pusing juga, belom mikirin oleh-oleh untuk teman2 dekat, yang kayaknya udah gak muat lagi, alias mesti di-skip kayaknya...! =( soalnya masih mesti bawa koper baju dan menggendong si kecil, kalo dia gak mau jalan repot juga kan... gua dah nyari semacam tali buat gendong bayi gitu. (apa yah namanya?) biar tangan gua bisa bebas narik koper.. gak nemu euiii... adanya yang rada belibet gitu... gak ringkes. akhirnya gak jadi beli.
di samping belanja oleh2, kudu belanja baju-baju tropikal untuk si kecil, soalnya banyak baju kala summer tahun lalu dah agak kekecilan. repot juga belanja buat si kecil .. baju-baju, sepatu untuk summer belom launching di toko2. ujungnya, gua cuman dapat 1 buah rok terusan. akhirnya coba bongkar2 baju-baju tahun lalu. yah... beli di indo aja deh, solusi termudah.
repotnya lagi.. pas gua nyoba-nyoba topi buat si kecil, semua ditolak ama dia. juga sepatu, nemu satu di stok lama yang punya toko, terlalu ngepas banget, gak ada ukuran yang gedean dikit. takut gak nyaman di kaki, udah gitu, dia juga menolak, protes-protes terus pas dicobaiin ke kakinya. emang paling pusing kalo beli sepatu buat dia. solusi terbaik adalah nyari yang persis sama dg model yang dia pakai saat ini. tapi di toko gak ada yang sama persis. toko tempat gua beli tahun lalu kebetulan dah tutup, dan buka tempat mandi untuk baby.
di rumah ada beberapa pasang sepatu yang dibeliin, dia gak mau pakai. setiap kali dipakaikan ke kakinya, nangis2, ngomel dan protes, dan dilepasin sendiri ama dia. puyeeengggg...!
PASSPORT
sempat nyaris batal rencana pulang bawa anak dan suami. soalnya sempat passport suami gak diloloskan dg alasan yang gak jelas dan gak penting banget. tapi akhirnya dg bantuan sodara / oom yang di kepolisian, akhirnya jadi juga paspornya 2 bulan lalu. fyuuuh....!
SINGAPORE dan BALI
tadinya sempat mikir mampir dulu 2 hari di singapore, soalnya kebetulan gua ada customer visit ke singapore. udah nyiapin uang jaminannya segala. warga PRC yang apply visa singapore mesti bayar jaminan RMB 5100/orang, dewasa maupun anak kecil idem. eh.. pas lagi mau urus2 visa via agent, ditolak, karena katanya maknya orang asing, agent gak bisa urus visanya, mesti urus sendiri ke konsulat singapore yang di shanghai. cari info di website, katanya sih warga PRC yang mampir di singapore gak lebih dari 96 jam, bisa visa free. tapi ada syarat ini itunya, yang akhirnya males juga ngecek lebih jauh, lagian takut kalo bermasalah pas di sononya .. malah repot.
yah sutralah... akhirnya mutusin gak mampir ke singapore, tapi langsung beli tiket ke jakarta.
ternyata mau "keluar negri" itu repotnya juga minta ampun yah!
sempat nimbang mau ajak suami jalan2 ke bali, udah contact guide segala. tapi sutralah..takut si kecil gak kuat fisiknya, kecapean jalan jauh, akhirnya ditunda untuk beberapa tahun aja lagi.
GAK SABARAN
oke deh... dari segala pernak-pernik persiapan mudik di atas, gua paling gak sabaran pengen cepat2 menikmati pempek, sate padang, siomai, ayam bakar, ikan bakar, sambal terasi, sayur asem, gado-gado, martabak, bakso, ... kuetiaw/bihun goreng.... nyammm....nyamm....nyammm... ! jangan kata gua di china sini, tempat asal kuetiaw dan sodara2nya; kuetiaw, bihun goreng atau bakmi terenak tetap aja dari indo. hahahahaa!
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
libur posting dan libur mau pulkamp
gak tau napa, blogspot di tempatku gak bisa dibuka (baik komputer kantor maupun komputer rumah). yang kayak gini nih sering banget. periode tertentu bisa buka. terus periode tertentu... gak bisa lagi. aneh ... !
cuman bisa buka dashboard dan kirim entry, tapi gak bisa lihat hasil jadinya.
jadi libur posting dulu ah... juga libur mengunjungi blog2 teman2 ..! =(
ada satu lagi ... sekalian libur mau mudik nih.
rencananya mau pulkam, Jakarta, Depok dan Jambi ... 31 Mar-13 Apr.
langsung kebayang makanan2 enak ... paling kangen pempek nih !!!!!
terus ayam bakar cikini !!!!!!!!
cuman bisa buka dashboard dan kirim entry, tapi gak bisa lihat hasil jadinya.
jadi libur posting dulu ah... juga libur mengunjungi blog2 teman2 ..! =(
ada satu lagi ... sekalian libur mau mudik nih.
rencananya mau pulkam, Jakarta, Depok dan Jambi ... 31 Mar-13 Apr.
langsung kebayang makanan2 enak ... paling kangen pempek nih !!!!!
terus ayam bakar cikini !!!!!!!!
Sunday, March 18, 2007
because .. again .. puzzles ..
BECAUSE
Crystal can use "because" to answer a "why" question.
Mama: Jingjing, do you love mama?
Crys : love mama
Mama: why do you love mama?
Crys : Because Jingjing wants to get down.
Mama: hah .. what relation it has with you love mama?!
Crys : (thinking..) because mama is nice.
Mama: Of course mama is nice, because mama loves you. (kiss.. smack..smack..)
AGAIN
Crystal always loves to play with spoon. Mama's feeding Crystal with her lunch. She said one word that I never expected she could say it, which is "again"; like this: "spoon .. give to Jingjing. Mama take one again" (pointing at the kitchen cabinet).
PLAYING 11pcs PUZZLES
Crys : cannot match
Mama : change another piece
Crys : (take another piece) cannot match
Mama : take this one
Crys : cannot match
Mama : turn it another way
Crys : can match now
and when she finishes the puzzles, she will say, "yeah..." and holding up her hands. (this was taught by her grandpa)
Crystal can use "because" to answer a "why" question.
Mama: Jingjing, do you love mama?
Crys : love mama
Mama: why do you love mama?
Crys : Because Jingjing wants to get down.
Mama: hah .. what relation it has with you love mama?!
Crys : (thinking..) because mama is nice.
Mama: Of course mama is nice, because mama loves you. (kiss.. smack..smack..)
AGAIN
Crystal always loves to play with spoon. Mama's feeding Crystal with her lunch. She said one word that I never expected she could say it, which is "again"; like this: "spoon .. give to Jingjing. Mama take one again" (pointing at the kitchen cabinet).
PLAYING 11pcs PUZZLES
Crys : cannot match
Mama : change another piece
Crys : (take another piece) cannot match
Mama : take this one
Crys : cannot match
Mama : turn it another way
Crys : can match now
and when she finishes the puzzles, she will say, "yeah..." and holding up her hands. (this was taught by her grandpa)
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
weird .. chicken? doggy?
This morning around 4am, suddenly Crystal woke up and cried.
Crys : get it ... get it ...
Ma : what do you want to get?
Crys : (still weeping a bit) shao zi
Ma : what? (couldn't understand clearly)
Crys : shao zi
Ma : xiao ji? (it sounds like 'xiao ji', chicken)
Crys : shao zi
Ma : ok, mama will get the chicken for you (wooden chicken)
Crys : (still crying) shao zi .. shao zi..
Ma : (listen carefully .. seems not chicken)
Ma : xiao gou? ok, mama will get the doggy for you.
Crys : shao zi...shao zi...
Ma : (think a while, aah.. remember now. go and get a spoon)
Crys : another one. another one.
Ma : ok, ok... get another one for you.
Crys : (back to sleep calmly by her hands holding 2 spoons)
Crystal likes to play with spoon. she has plastic, wooden and iron spoon. last nite before sleep, she was playing with 2 spoons. then i said to her, "let's put the spoons on the shelf, you can play it again tomorrow when you wake up. ok?" She noded.
weird ... ! =)
Crys : get it ... get it ...
Ma : what do you want to get?
Crys : (still weeping a bit) shao zi
Ma : what? (couldn't understand clearly)
Crys : shao zi
Ma : xiao ji? (it sounds like 'xiao ji', chicken)
Crys : shao zi
Ma : ok, mama will get the chicken for you (wooden chicken)
Crys : (still crying) shao zi .. shao zi..
Ma : (listen carefully .. seems not chicken)
Ma : xiao gou? ok, mama will get the doggy for you.
Crys : shao zi...shao zi...
Ma : (think a while, aah.. remember now. go and get a spoon)
Crys : another one. another one.
Ma : ok, ok... get another one for you.
Crys : (back to sleep calmly by her hands holding 2 spoons)
Crystal likes to play with spoon. she has plastic, wooden and iron spoon. last nite before sleep, she was playing with 2 spoons. then i said to her, "let's put the spoons on the shelf, you can play it again tomorrow when you wake up. ok?" She noded.
weird ... ! =)
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
WHINING PRINCESS
Crystal now can whine more and more.
A toddler is smart. Once she knows she can get something by whining .. hah .. she will whine more and more often!
if we don't let her climb the table .. flings on the floor .. whining ..
if we don't let her play with a glass.. whining ..
if I want to go to toilet, she won't let me .. whining ..
if I want to eat my dinner, while she wants me to play with her .. whining ..
so I have to distract her, so she forgets to whine. Lol.
She always wants to do things we do. Anything! Even my glasses have to be put by her on me.. instead of wearing it by myself.
If I take her to toilet with me, she will get a wipe and said, “wipe mama's butt.” she will also try to pull up my jeans. Hahaha!
Sometimes she will pick up phone, and said, “hello. where are you?”
That's what her grandpa says every time he calls his sons.
Or she will say, “hello. who are you looking for?”
Usually I seldom forbid her doing anything she wants, coz I think it’s a learning process for her, unless doing something which has relation with fire, hot water, electricity, knife, or medicine.
Two nights ago, after repeated twice, I said to her:
Mama : Crystal, there are 5 things which are forbidden for children.
First is fire, second is hot water, third is electricity,
fourth is .. (I stopped a while, thinking what's next)
Crys : knife!
Mama : ah .. you remember. and fifth is ..?
Crys : medicine!
Last night, she climbed the tea table in the living room.
Mama : Crystal, get down, or you might fall.
Crys : (keep climbing)
Mama : Crystal, get down. If you won't listen, you have to stand on the naughty corner!
Crys : (went to naughty corner for 5 seconds, then back to climb the table again).
Mama : Get down, or mama will spank you
Crys : (ignore mama's words)
Mama : mama will spank you if you won't listen (spank her twice)
Crys : (still ignore and leaning her tummy on the table)
Mama : get down quickly.
Crys : (ignore..ignore..)
Mama : (spank twice again)
Crys : (come to mama, crying and beat mama's hand)
Mama : mama's not wrong, why do you beat mama? (beat Crystal's hand)
Crys : (lying on the cold floor and crying loud)
Mama : stand up, the floor is cold.
Crys : (still crying loud for few minutes)
Gr'pa : (come to carry her up and go to dining room)
Crystal doesn't want mama, mama is bad.
Grandpa carries you.
Crys : (stop crying)
Mama : mama said you should not climb the table. Do you understand?
Crys : (don't reply mama's word, looking at mama with angry face)
Mama : (repeated the same question)
Crys : (keep silent, still with angry face)
Mama : (cant keep smiling behind Crystal)
Gr'pa : go and pinch mama's nose, mama will not be angry anymore.
Crys : (come to mama, pinch mama's nose and smile)
Mama : next time you should listen to mama, will you?
Crystal: listen to mama.
Mama : what shouldn't you climb?
Crystal: tea table
Mama : if you climb tea table, what will mama do?
Crystal : spank Crystal.
Mama : so, will you listen to mama?
Crystal: listen to mama (nodding her head)
A toddler is smart. Once she knows she can get something by whining .. hah .. she will whine more and more often!
if we don't let her climb the table .. flings on the floor .. whining ..
if we don't let her play with a glass.. whining ..
if I want to go to toilet, she won't let me .. whining ..
if I want to eat my dinner, while she wants me to play with her .. whining ..
so I have to distract her, so she forgets to whine. Lol.
She always wants to do things we do. Anything! Even my glasses have to be put by her on me.. instead of wearing it by myself.
If I take her to toilet with me, she will get a wipe and said, “wipe mama's butt.” she will also try to pull up my jeans. Hahaha!
Sometimes she will pick up phone, and said, “hello. where are you?”
That's what her grandpa says every time he calls his sons.
Or she will say, “hello. who are you looking for?”
Usually I seldom forbid her doing anything she wants, coz I think it’s a learning process for her, unless doing something which has relation with fire, hot water, electricity, knife, or medicine.
Two nights ago, after repeated twice, I said to her:
Mama : Crystal, there are 5 things which are forbidden for children.
First is fire, second is hot water, third is electricity,
fourth is .. (I stopped a while, thinking what's next)
Crys : knife!
Mama : ah .. you remember. and fifth is ..?
Crys : medicine!
Last night, she climbed the tea table in the living room.
Mama : Crystal, get down, or you might fall.
Crys : (keep climbing)
Mama : Crystal, get down. If you won't listen, you have to stand on the naughty corner!
Crys : (went to naughty corner for 5 seconds, then back to climb the table again).
Mama : Get down, or mama will spank you
Crys : (ignore mama's words)
Mama : mama will spank you if you won't listen (spank her twice)
Crys : (still ignore and leaning her tummy on the table)
Mama : get down quickly.
Crys : (ignore..ignore..)
Mama : (spank twice again)
Crys : (come to mama, crying and beat mama's hand)
Mama : mama's not wrong, why do you beat mama? (beat Crystal's hand)
Crys : (lying on the cold floor and crying loud)
Mama : stand up, the floor is cold.
Crys : (still crying loud for few minutes)
Gr'pa : (come to carry her up and go to dining room)
Crystal doesn't want mama, mama is bad.
Grandpa carries you.
Crys : (stop crying)
Mama : mama said you should not climb the table. Do you understand?
Crys : (don't reply mama's word, looking at mama with angry face)
Mama : (repeated the same question)
Crys : (keep silent, still with angry face)
Mama : (cant keep smiling behind Crystal)
Gr'pa : go and pinch mama's nose, mama will not be angry anymore.
Crys : (come to mama, pinch mama's nose and smile)
Mama : next time you should listen to mama, will you?
Crystal: listen to mama.
Mama : what shouldn't you climb?
Crystal: tea table
Mama : if you climb tea table, what will mama do?
Crystal : spank Crystal.
Mama : so, will you listen to mama?
Crystal: listen to mama (nodding her head)
Rich
just a thought ..
when you are very rich and wearing a fake-branded product,
people around you will think it's real one!
but when you are not rich, and wearing a real-extremely-expensive-branded product,
people will anyway think... aaah.... it must be fake!
moral:
when you don't extremely have much money, focus your money for buying something more useful or functional, of course considering the quality properly.
(don't have much time to write lately...)
when you are very rich and wearing a fake-branded product,
people around you will think it's real one!
but when you are not rich, and wearing a real-extremely-expensive-branded product,
people will anyway think... aaah.... it must be fake!
moral:
when you don't extremely have much money, focus your money for buying something more useful or functional, of course considering the quality properly.
(don't have much time to write lately...)
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
big and small - 20 months
Crystal is 20 months today
it's amazing if you observe how your children grow and how their intelligences develop!
and it's really amazing to find out how fast they learn something, either to sing, to count, to memorize poem, to mimic things the adult do, or anything else.
as a working mom, i always want to rush home after office hour, to be with my girl and see her grow up time to time.
Crystal begins to understand the concept of big and small.
lately she often says to herself, "Mama's big. Jing-jing's small."
if i ask about her rubber duckling, which one one is big which one is small, she can also point it out. same case with spoons or balls or anything else with different size.
Crystal sings several songs.
either 100% or only 70% of each song.
Crystal memorizes 4 poems.
Quiet Night
Stork watcher tower
Toiling Farmer
Goose
Crystal likes to counts 1-100.
with a little help on 50, 60, 70, 80, 90
Crystal says several names of vegetables / spices.
carrot, cabbage, brocolli/cauliflower, cucumber, potato, mushroom, eggplant, ginger, garlic, chilli, corn
Crystal says some fruit names
watermelon, apple, peach, grape, pear, lichee, cherry, orange, lu-gan orange, banana, strawberry, mango, melon.
Crystal mentions some vehicles names
sedan, taxi, bicyle, motorcycle, bus, boat
Crystal pees in toilet floor or in potty by herself
but, she often pees on her pants too.
and still wears diaper when sleeping.
we dont want out bed to get wet.
Crystal can eat with a spoon, can drink with a cup
but mommy will always remind her not to drip while drinking.
but she cannot have soup with a spoon.
but she often are so messed-up if eating by herself, so mommy prefers to feed her, let her use spoon sometimes.
Crystal takes shoes for others when coming home
Crystal asks daddy to have dinner after coming home
Crystal says goodmorning and goodnight
now Crystal likes candy or chocolate very much and will eat unstoppingly if you let her. blame to the spring festival. all the adults (of my husband's relatives) always gave her a lot of candies during our visit, which was very difficult to refuse. i only took it away some whenever nobody saw it. usually i always keep candy out of her sight and reach. she also likes dried melon seeds (kuaci, gua zi). she will eat it all with the peel. but often she spits out the peel after some time.
it's amazing if you observe how your children grow and how their intelligences develop!
and it's really amazing to find out how fast they learn something, either to sing, to count, to memorize poem, to mimic things the adult do, or anything else.
as a working mom, i always want to rush home after office hour, to be with my girl and see her grow up time to time.
Crystal begins to understand the concept of big and small.
lately she often says to herself, "Mama's big. Jing-jing's small."
if i ask about her rubber duckling, which one one is big which one is small, she can also point it out. same case with spoons or balls or anything else with different size.
Crystal sings several songs.
either 100% or only 70% of each song.
Crystal memorizes 4 poems.
Quiet Night
Stork watcher tower
Toiling Farmer
Goose
Crystal likes to counts 1-100.
with a little help on 50, 60, 70, 80, 90
Crystal says several names of vegetables / spices.
carrot, cabbage, brocolli/cauliflower, cucumber, potato, mushroom, eggplant, ginger, garlic, chilli, corn
Crystal says some fruit names
watermelon, apple, peach, grape, pear, lichee, cherry, orange, lu-gan orange, banana, strawberry, mango, melon.
Crystal mentions some vehicles names
sedan, taxi, bicyle, motorcycle, bus, boat
Crystal pees in toilet floor or in potty by herself
but, she often pees on her pants too.
and still wears diaper when sleeping.
we dont want out bed to get wet.
Crystal can eat with a spoon, can drink with a cup
but mommy will always remind her not to drip while drinking.
but she cannot have soup with a spoon.
but she often are so messed-up if eating by herself, so mommy prefers to feed her, let her use spoon sometimes.
Crystal takes shoes for others when coming home
Crystal asks daddy to have dinner after coming home
Crystal says goodmorning and goodnight
now Crystal likes candy or chocolate very much and will eat unstoppingly if you let her. blame to the spring festival. all the adults (of my husband's relatives) always gave her a lot of candies during our visit, which was very difficult to refuse. i only took it away some whenever nobody saw it. usually i always keep candy out of her sight and reach. she also likes dried melon seeds (kuaci, gua zi). she will eat it all with the peel. but often she spits out the peel after some time.
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
mama goes to work
Crystal and daddy were lying on the bed.
Crys: Daddy's computer (pointing at the PC)
Dad : Eiih... yes, daddy's computer.
Mom: (hiding behind daddy's back and
grabbing watch and glasses on the shelf)
Crys: Mama is here (saw mama already)
Mom: (couldn't help laughing) Mama will go to work
Crys: wuaaah.... wuaah.... (started to cry and crawled up)
G'pa: Mama will go to work.
Crys: Mama won't go to work. Grandpa goes to work (still crying)
Mom: (having breakfast, washing teeth)
Dad : Mama will go to work and earn some money
for buying milk and buying candy for Crystal.
G'pa: Grandpa goes to work. Mama doesn't go to work.
Crys: Eeeeh... mama goes to work. (stopped crying)
G'pa: Mama doesn't go to work.
Crys: Mama goes to work!
Dad : Why does mama go to work?
Crys: To earn money.
Dad : Money for buying what?
Crys: buying candy
Crys: Daddy's computer (pointing at the PC)
Dad : Eiih... yes, daddy's computer.
Mom: (hiding behind daddy's back and
grabbing watch and glasses on the shelf)
Crys: Mama is here (saw mama already)
Mom: (couldn't help laughing) Mama will go to work
Crys: wuaaah.... wuaah.... (started to cry and crawled up)
G'pa: Mama will go to work.
Crys: Mama won't go to work. Grandpa goes to work (still crying)
Mom: (having breakfast, washing teeth)
Dad : Mama will go to work and earn some money
for buying milk and buying candy for Crystal.
G'pa: Grandpa goes to work. Mama doesn't go to work.
Crys: Eeeeh... mama goes to work. (stopped crying)
G'pa: Mama doesn't go to work.
Crys: Mama goes to work!
Dad : Why does mama go to work?
Crys: To earn money.
Dad : Money for buying what?
Crys: buying candy
if we want her do something, which she refuses and has her "no..no..NOOO..", we will say the contrary. for example she refuses to eat, we say, "we don't let Crystal eat". she will open her mouth. sometimes it doesn't work anyway !
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
empathy...ribut-ribut
kemarin malam, aku ribut-ribut dg lin. masalah sepele. gara2 sebuah senter.
dan urat air mataku terlalu tipis. menangis kesal dengan Crystal dalam gendongan.
fifth grandaunt-nya si Crystal bilang, "sini, grand-aunt gendong. mama lagi nangis."
sebenarnya gak nangis gimana, cuma mata basah aja saking kesel pada suami.
Crystal memandangku dan langsung menangis dengan kencang.
aduh, cintaku, mama tak sampai hati melihatmu menangis karna melihat mama menangis.
so, aku bilang, "mama gak nangis. mama gak nangis." dan aku pun menghentikan tangisku.
dia pun berhenti menangis juga.
guess what?!
setelah itu, siang ini lin bilang semalam dia menatap lin dengan pandangan mata yang galak. seolah berkata, "jangan bikin mamaku nangis." dan dia gak mau digendong lin.
mungkin karena capek. malam ini pun aku jadi marah2 dan ribut lagi karena kesal oleh hal lain.
gimana gak capek, selama 2 hari menjelang imlek, di mana2 terdengar bunyi mercon. Crystal ketakutan sekali. jadi setiap saat merayapi badanku, minta gendong, gak mau oleh orang lain. jadi selama 5 hari ini sejak libur ngantor, otomatis pagi sampai malam, hampir selalu minta gendong atau gandeng. kadang masih bisa digendong sambil duduk, kadang setelah digendong pun dia bilang, "mama berdiri."
udah gitu, di rumah sodara di kampung, ranjang kecil 1.4m, buat tidur berempat. iparku, aku dan kedua anak kecil. mana si kecil tidurnya gak kalem lagi. sering bolak balik badan. kadang udah muter2. sering mendesak aku ke pinggiran. otomatis 2 malam aku gak terlalu tidur nyenyak.
udah gitu, mak mertuaku lagi di kamar main game di komputer. sehabis aku marah2 pada suami, dia bilang ke suami, "anakku kasian yah. dimarahi dua orang." kali ini, bokap mertua mendukungku saat aku marah2 karena kesal. mungkin aku terlalu sensi, tapi kupikir, kok nadanya menyindir yah? kesal pun jadi bertambah.
aku gak bisa menahan air mata saat menemani si kecil yang sudah mengantuk. si kecil sepertinya ngerti. gak banyak ngomong saat akan tidur. matanya terus2an menatap mataku. tangannya mengelus2 wajahku dan mataku yang berair. lalu dia pun tertidur.
mama sayang sekali padamu .. malaikat kecilku!
dan urat air mataku terlalu tipis. menangis kesal dengan Crystal dalam gendongan.
fifth grandaunt-nya si Crystal bilang, "sini, grand-aunt gendong. mama lagi nangis."
sebenarnya gak nangis gimana, cuma mata basah aja saking kesel pada suami.
Crystal memandangku dan langsung menangis dengan kencang.
aduh, cintaku, mama tak sampai hati melihatmu menangis karna melihat mama menangis.
so, aku bilang, "mama gak nangis. mama gak nangis." dan aku pun menghentikan tangisku.
dia pun berhenti menangis juga.
guess what?!
setelah itu, siang ini lin bilang semalam dia menatap lin dengan pandangan mata yang galak. seolah berkata, "jangan bikin mamaku nangis." dan dia gak mau digendong lin.
mungkin karena capek. malam ini pun aku jadi marah2 dan ribut lagi karena kesal oleh hal lain.
gimana gak capek, selama 2 hari menjelang imlek, di mana2 terdengar bunyi mercon. Crystal ketakutan sekali. jadi setiap saat merayapi badanku, minta gendong, gak mau oleh orang lain. jadi selama 5 hari ini sejak libur ngantor, otomatis pagi sampai malam, hampir selalu minta gendong atau gandeng. kadang masih bisa digendong sambil duduk, kadang setelah digendong pun dia bilang, "mama berdiri."
udah gitu, di rumah sodara di kampung, ranjang kecil 1.4m, buat tidur berempat. iparku, aku dan kedua anak kecil. mana si kecil tidurnya gak kalem lagi. sering bolak balik badan. kadang udah muter2. sering mendesak aku ke pinggiran. otomatis 2 malam aku gak terlalu tidur nyenyak.
udah gitu, mak mertuaku lagi di kamar main game di komputer. sehabis aku marah2 pada suami, dia bilang ke suami, "anakku kasian yah. dimarahi dua orang." kali ini, bokap mertua mendukungku saat aku marah2 karena kesal. mungkin aku terlalu sensi, tapi kupikir, kok nadanya menyindir yah? kesal pun jadi bertambah.
aku gak bisa menahan air mata saat menemani si kecil yang sudah mengantuk. si kecil sepertinya ngerti. gak banyak ngomong saat akan tidur. matanya terus2an menatap mataku. tangannya mengelus2 wajahku dan mataku yang berair. lalu dia pun tertidur.
mama sayang sekali padamu .. malaikat kecilku!
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
poetry reading (2) Stork-Watchtower 登鹳雀楼 and Toiling Farmers 悯农诗
here are other 2 poems Crystal could memorize these 2 days.
登鹳雀楼 王之涣(688-742)
白日依山尽
黄河入海流
欲穷千里目
更上一层楼
Stork-Watchtower
by Wang Zhihuan (688-742)
sunlight fading away over the mountain
yellow river flowing to the sea
to look thousand miles away
let's climb up higher steps
悯农诗 李绅（772-846）
锄禾日当午
汗滴河下土
谁知盘中餐
粒粒皆辛苦
Toiling Farmers
by Li Shen （772-846）
farmers weeding during sunny day,
their sweat drips down on the ground
who knows food on a tray
due to their toiling day?
登鹳雀楼 王之涣(688-742)
白日依山尽
黄河入海流
欲穷千里目
更上一层楼
Stork-Watchtower
by Wang Zhihuan (688-742)
sunlight fading away over the mountain
yellow river flowing to the sea
to look thousand miles away
let's climb up higher steps
悯农诗 李绅（772-846）
锄禾日当午
汗滴河下土
谁知盘中餐
粒粒皆辛苦
Toiling Farmers
by Li Shen （772-846）
farmers weeding during sunny day,
their sweat drips down on the ground
who knows food on a tray
due to their toiling day?
every chinese students know this poem. it's to let the children value their meals as every grain of it comes from the farmers' hard toil.
Crystal's pronunciation is not perfect of course. She still can't pronounce "ke/ge" (similar to k for "key" or k for "kunci").
for example:
guan = close (she will say 'puan')
gege = big brother (she will say 'dede')
gugu = auntie (she will say 'dudu')
let's go = she will say "let's joe"
Thursday, February 08, 2007
poetry reading (1) IN THE QUIET NIGHT 静夜思
Crystal is 1 year 7 month 1 week today
Smarty could memorize around 4~5 poems from the Tang Dinasty. i only knew (memorize) 1 poem. so i read this poem several times to Crystal on Tuesday nite, before bed time. and explain the meaning to her in kid language. this is the only one chinese poem i could remember by heart.
静夜思 (李白)
床前明月光
疑是地上霜
举头望明月
低头思故乡
There are 7 translations for this poem. among them, below translation is what i like the most. though i still think it's a little bit awkward anyway. such kind of poem if translated, cannot represent the original version in Chinese. though i'm not very fluent in Chinese language, i still could feel the beauty in the above poem when reading in original Chinese version.
IN THE QUIET NIGHT
by Li Bai
Beside my bed a pool of light---
Is it hoarfrost on the ground?
I lift my eyes and see the moon,
I bend my head and think of home.
(Tr. Xianyi and Gladys Yang, 1984, from "Poetry and Prose of the Tang and Song")
to my surprise is .. tonite Crystal can memorize the whole poem. though i believe she doesnt really understand the meaning. but it's amazing !
hahaha... and it encourages me to learn more chinese poem and also improve my chinese learning. otherwise, how could i teach my daughter in the future if she has questions for her school homeworks? well, her dad will be in charge actually ... =)
all this time, i am too busy and have no time to learn 'kanji' (chinese characters).
actually the true reason is, i am lazy! 'coz i still have time for blogging.. ;P
Smarty could memorize around 4~5 poems from the Tang Dinasty. i only knew (memorize) 1 poem. so i read this poem several times to Crystal on Tuesday nite, before bed time. and explain the meaning to her in kid language. this is the only one chinese poem i could remember by heart.
静夜思 (李白)
床前明月光
疑是地上霜
举头望明月
低头思故乡
There are 7 translations for this poem. among them, below translation is what i like the most. though i still think it's a little bit awkward anyway. such kind of poem if translated, cannot represent the original version in Chinese. though i'm not very fluent in Chinese language, i still could feel the beauty in the above poem when reading in original Chinese version.
IN THE QUIET NIGHT
by Li Bai
Beside my bed a pool of light---
Is it hoarfrost on the ground?
I lift my eyes and see the moon,
I bend my head and think of home.
(Tr. Xianyi and Gladys Yang, 1984, from "Poetry and Prose of the Tang and Song")
to my surprise is .. tonite Crystal can memorize the whole poem. though i believe she doesnt really understand the meaning. but it's amazing !
hahaha... and it encourages me to learn more chinese poem and also improve my chinese learning. otherwise, how could i teach my daughter in the future if she has questions for her school homeworks? well, her dad will be in charge actually ... =)
all this time, i am too busy and have no time to learn 'kanji' (chinese characters).
actually the true reason is, i am lazy! 'coz i still have time for blogging.. ;P
2 hal baik hari ini
naik gaji
naik gaji lagi euy.. kali ini 10.5%.
lagi2 gak nyangka, aku kira gak secepat ini yah. soalnya bulan juni kemaren baru naik. seneng sih, siapa yang gak seneng coba ? tapi juga gak senang2 banget. cenderung biasa.
why?
2 minggu lalu sempat ngobrol2 sama orang finance soal naik gaji dan apa yang dicari di dunia kerja.
kayaknya setelah punya anak, kita-kita merasa gak terlalu pengen ngejar karir. bahkan gaji naiknya sedikit atau gak dikasih naik gaji juga gak terlalu masalah, si orang keuangan di tempatku ini juga punya pikiran yang sama. dia juga puas-puas aja dengan penghasilannya sendiri. toh suaminya berpenghasilan cukup tinggi dan bekerja untuk "bumn" di china sini.
intinya biasa2 aja, penghasilan (yang mungkin) tetap. kalo perusahaan gak terkena ancaman tutup. dan dapat menikmati hidup secara sederhana dan bahagia. cukup kayaknya.
aku sendiri cukup puas dengan penghasilanku saat ini. soalnya mengingat betapa susahnya awal2 nyari kerja di sini. gaji di perush pertama, lebih kecil dibanding fresh graduate di jakarta. gaji perush kedua, malah lebih kecil lagi. baru sekarang ini .. aku cukup puas (soalnya udah ngalami pahitnya..huehehe..! jadi mesti disyukuri!)
yah gitu deh. senang sekaligus juga biasa-biasa aja.
padahal gak lama ini masih kepikiran pengen karir meningkat, pengen gaji meningkat. mungkin juga sekarang berasa biasa-biasa aja, siapa tau beberapa bulan kemudian, eeeh, tabiat ambisius nongol lagi.. huehehe!
promosi
hari ini Lin dapat promosi ke divisi yang lebih baik. kalo dengan posisi sekarang, nyaris gak ada peluang peningkatan karir. di tempat mereka, kalo dah kepala tiga, sudah mulai tanda-tanda kemandegan di karir.
bedanya, sebelumnya dia mengepalai 20 orang (dari 4 shift). sekarang dia jadi gak punya bawahan, tapi bekerja dalam team. nah lho!
bedanya lagi, orang-orang di team ini punya kesempatan promosi yang besar. sebelumnya, kemungkinan dia akan tetap di posisinya sampai 10-15 tahun. lalu digantikan orang lain, balik lagi jadi maintenance engineer biasa, tinggal nunggu pensiun.
biarpun promosi, dari segi gaji, gak ada peningkatan. aku senang, tapi malah dia yang biasa-biasa aja. padahal sebelumnya dia juga ikut proses seleksi untuk masuk team ini. tapi yang kepilih orang lain. dan dia ditempatkan pada posisi yang sekarang. dia kecewa sekali waktu itu. sekarang, tanpa proses seleksi, eh dia malah biasa aja.
lagi2 soal berubah pikiran. dia cukup enjoy dengan posisi sekarang, karena cukup bebas. dengan posisi baru, akan lebih repot dan akan sering dinas atau kadang sering tugas tengah malam kalo ada maintenance project.
kadang memang gitu. ketika kita menginginkan sesuatu, gak mendapatkan dan jadi kecewa. saat sudah mendapatkan malah jadi biasa-biasa aja. padahal mestinya disyukuri yah?!
jadi yah, aku tentunya sangat dan tetap bersyukur atas semua kebaikan Tuhan yang tiada henti!
naik gaji lagi euy.. kali ini 10.5%.
lagi2 gak nyangka, aku kira gak secepat ini yah. soalnya bulan juni kemaren baru naik. seneng sih, siapa yang gak seneng coba ? tapi juga gak senang2 banget. cenderung biasa.
why?
2 minggu lalu sempat ngobrol2 sama orang finance soal naik gaji dan apa yang dicari di dunia kerja.
kayaknya setelah punya anak, kita-kita merasa gak terlalu pengen ngejar karir. bahkan gaji naiknya sedikit atau gak dikasih naik gaji juga gak terlalu masalah, si orang keuangan di tempatku ini juga punya pikiran yang sama. dia juga puas-puas aja dengan penghasilannya sendiri. toh suaminya berpenghasilan cukup tinggi dan bekerja untuk "bumn" di china sini.
intinya biasa2 aja, penghasilan (yang mungkin) tetap. kalo perusahaan gak terkena ancaman tutup. dan dapat menikmati hidup secara sederhana dan bahagia. cukup kayaknya.
aku sendiri cukup puas dengan penghasilanku saat ini. soalnya mengingat betapa susahnya awal2 nyari kerja di sini. gaji di perush pertama, lebih kecil dibanding fresh graduate di jakarta. gaji perush kedua, malah lebih kecil lagi. baru sekarang ini .. aku cukup puas (soalnya udah ngalami pahitnya..huehehe..! jadi mesti disyukuri!)
yah gitu deh. senang sekaligus juga biasa-biasa aja.
padahal gak lama ini masih kepikiran pengen karir meningkat, pengen gaji meningkat. mungkin juga sekarang berasa biasa-biasa aja, siapa tau beberapa bulan kemudian, eeeh, tabiat ambisius nongol lagi.. huehehe!
promosi
hari ini Lin dapat promosi ke divisi yang lebih baik. kalo dengan posisi sekarang, nyaris gak ada peluang peningkatan karir. di tempat mereka, kalo dah kepala tiga, sudah mulai tanda-tanda kemandegan di karir.
bedanya, sebelumnya dia mengepalai 20 orang (dari 4 shift). sekarang dia jadi gak punya bawahan, tapi bekerja dalam team. nah lho!
bedanya lagi, orang-orang di team ini punya kesempatan promosi yang besar. sebelumnya, kemungkinan dia akan tetap di posisinya sampai 10-15 tahun. lalu digantikan orang lain, balik lagi jadi maintenance engineer biasa, tinggal nunggu pensiun.
biarpun promosi, dari segi gaji, gak ada peningkatan. aku senang, tapi malah dia yang biasa-biasa aja. padahal sebelumnya dia juga ikut proses seleksi untuk masuk team ini. tapi yang kepilih orang lain. dan dia ditempatkan pada posisi yang sekarang. dia kecewa sekali waktu itu. sekarang, tanpa proses seleksi, eh dia malah biasa aja.
lagi2 soal berubah pikiran. dia cukup enjoy dengan posisi sekarang, karena cukup bebas. dengan posisi baru, akan lebih repot dan akan sering dinas atau kadang sering tugas tengah malam kalo ada maintenance project.
kadang memang gitu. ketika kita menginginkan sesuatu, gak mendapatkan dan jadi kecewa. saat sudah mendapatkan malah jadi biasa-biasa aja. padahal mestinya disyukuri yah?!
jadi yah, aku tentunya sangat dan tetap bersyukur atas semua kebaikan Tuhan yang tiada henti!
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
19 months
Crystal is 19 months old
here are her pictures taken while her grandma and grandaunt was cleaning her house since it's near to CNY.
here are her pictures taken while her grandma and grandaunt was cleaning her house since it's near to CNY.
Saturday, January 27, 2007
Thursday, January 25, 2007
Smarty got flu again ... and the following impact to Crystal
oh boy... Smarty got flu and cough again these few days.
so it's unavoidable for Crystal (just as most of the time).
after returned home last nite around 11.30pm .. from dinner with our CEO and Asia Pacific VP, i found out that Crystal got a flu by her breath. she was sleeping.
and on around 3am, she woke up for a short time, saying: "snot. snot." (she likes to repeat a sentence or a word she says). then i wiped her snot. only several seconds, she complained again: "snot. snot. eeehh... " i wiped it again and said, "mama has wiped it. now you can sleep again."
My in-laws took Smarty to visit an old 'Chinese doctor/herbalist doctor' (zhong yi 中医，in Indonesia people know it as 'shin shei'). The doctor is around 70 years old and owns his own herbal store. He sometimes goes abroad to cure his patients. Smarty went back with a herbal bandage tied on his feet.
Usually if Crystal gets a flu, i give her a kind of chinese medicine, of very light one made of herb, with red sugar taste, so she wants to drink it. if we ask, "Jing-jing, what are you drinking?" she says, "ban lan gen".
so it's unavoidable for Crystal (just as most of the time).
after returned home last nite around 11.30pm .. from dinner with our CEO and Asia Pacific VP, i found out that Crystal got a flu by her breath. she was sleeping.
and on around 3am, she woke up for a short time, saying: "snot. snot." (she likes to repeat a sentence or a word she says). then i wiped her snot. only several seconds, she complained again: "snot. snot. eeehh... " i wiped it again and said, "mama has wiped it. now you can sleep again."
My in-laws took Smarty to visit an old 'Chinese doctor/herbalist doctor' (zhong yi 中医，in Indonesia people know it as 'shin shei'). The doctor is around 70 years old and owns his own herbal store. He sometimes goes abroad to cure his patients. Smarty went back with a herbal bandage tied on his feet.
Usually if Crystal gets a flu, i give her a kind of chinese medicine, of very light one made of herb, with red sugar taste, so she wants to drink it. if we ask, "Jing-jing, what are you drinking?" she says, "ban lan gen".
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