potty training

Crystal is 22 months today

since Crystal could sit well, and especially when she started to walk, 11.5 months, if i was at home, i'd try as much to let her sit on potty when pee or poop.
also i often told her:
"Jing-jing, if you want to pee or poop, tell mama. OK? or if you want, you can go and pee at toilet. or you can sit on potty by yourself."

i think it's about time for her now.
she is more than half way to success for this potty training.
sometimes if she wants to pee, she sits on the potty by herself.
sometimes i just remind her by saying, "Jing-jing, go and sit on potty before you pee on your pants."
many kiddy pants in china are having a hole on the bottom area.
so, she wouldnt have to take off her pants. she can just sit on the potty and pee.

actually i have let her wear a kiddy panty. but her grandma is not so patient to let her wear it. she doesnt want to let her wear it.

sometimes Crystal will tell us by saying, "niao niao." (means: pee).
but still .. sometimes she says "niao niao" after she has already pee. lol !

last nite, around 9pm, i let her play puzzles on bed. few minutes later, i fell aslept 'coz i was awfully sleepy.
on 9.30pm, in my sleep, i heard her saying to me, "niao niao..niao niao..."
i found out she was standing besides our bed, talking to me, pointing her pee on the floor.
her pants were wet. lol !

she had got down from the bed. she just had pee before reaching the potty.
blamed mama for falling a sleep !
on 10pm, she told me she wanted to poop. so she sat on potty with me sat in front of her, accompanying her.

here was the sweetest thing she did while we sat together waiting for her to poop;
she said she wanted to kiss my eyes. so i let her do it. my dear lill one, mommy's enjoying your kissing mommy's eyes very much !!! and i also kissed her eyes.




Smarty doesn't want to use potty
On contrary, Smarty, the boy of my in-laws, never wants to sit on potty or toilet.
So anyone in the house should carry up this 18kgs boy whenever he poops, with extra bonus: the smell comes up from the basin where he poops.

They never let him have potty training .. never !
He is now, 2 years 8 months; maybe a little bit late for starting a potty training.

'They' here includes his own parents and my mother and father-in-law.
They just simply say, he doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet.

Yes .. of course he doesn't want, 'coz they never let him do from the very beginning.
So, please do carry him all the time if he wants to poop, and you all will surely get your bonus of course.. lol.

They never listen to my advise regarding some parenting stuffs. They think they know more perhaps. Whatever..!
But they often finds out Crystal can do this or that earlier compares to her brother.
Then they would start to teach similar thing to Smarty.
Same case with eating with a spoon.

I have a little argument (not quarrel) with my husband regarding potty training last nite.
My husband doesn't believe that Smarty doesn't want to sit on potty or toilet because of no potty training on him.
My husband said, it's just a boy's nature. A girl is easier to squat when pee or sit on potty, because of the nature that she is a girl.

Whatever-lah .. the potty training I did for Crystal has brought good result.. as i said, more than half way to success.

funny fact about math

From a strictly mathematical viewpoint it goes like this:
What makes 100%?
What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?
Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?
We have all been to those meetings where someone wants you to give more than 100%!!!
How about achieving 103%?


Here's a little mathematical formula that might help you answer these questions:
If:
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26

Then:
H-A-R-D-W-O-R-K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%

and,
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%

but,
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%

And,
B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T
2+21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%

And look how far ass kissing will take you:
A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G
1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%

So, one can conclude with mathematical certainity that:
While Hardwork and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, Bullshit and Ass Kissing will put you over the top!!!
a ton of people who practice this and get places in this world!

from:
http://sunrisenmoon.blogs.friendster.com/my_blog/2006/02/the_real_truth_.html

husband store

A lady enters a "husband store".
there's a sign written on the door:
our store has 6 floors.
you can only go up and cannot return to the lower floor.
you will find an exit on each floor after you've picked what you need.


On the first floor the sign reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.

She continues to the second floor. The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.

The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012th to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!

bener2 pengen nangis !

sebel ama pemerintah china!

setelah nanya sana-sini, ke pihak berwenang .. ternyata aku tidak boleh melahirkan di china.
kalo melahirkan di china, suamiku akan kehilangan pekerjaannya, karena punya 2 anak status WNC. anak yang lahir di sini otomatis jadi WNC, karena salah satu orang tuanya WNC.

jadi aku harus balik dan melahirkan di indo. supaya si anak bisa berstatus WNI.
NO OTHER CHOICE, NO OTHER WAY !
kebayang bagaimana repotnya nanti.
atau pilihan kedua, menggugurkan si janin !

bener2 pengen nangis !

got angry with mama

while playing on the bed after dinner, Crystal scratched mama's face with a plastic part of a pen. Mama didn't let her. She got angry and insisted. so mama beat her hand coz she kept insisting. after that she cried.

daddy came and said that he would take her out for a walk. she stopped crying. and said to daddy, "don't play with mama. play with daddy."
hahaha... made daddy and mama laughing.

few hours later, when it's about bed time, again similar thing happened on the bed.
Crystal got angry again.
Crys : Beat mama..beat mama.. Mama .. go to work!
Dad : (work on the computer, laughing)
G'ma: (just come in, hear it and laughing too)
Mom: OK, mama goes to work. Mama doesn't want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom : Hey ... didnt you ask mama to go to work just now ?
Crys : Jing-jing goes to work.
Mom: Mama goes to work, mama doesnt want Jing-jing anymore.
Crys : want Jing-jing.
Mom: dont want Jing-jing
Crys : eeh.. want Jing-jing, mama dont go to work.
Mom: (smiling) Ok, want Jing-jing. come here and hug mama.


yesterday evening, Crystal was playing with daddy's drawer key.
Grandpa said with hard tone, "dont play with it. gun-dan!"
Crystal cried bcoz of that.

during dinner, when we talked about this, Crystal also joined the conversation:
Crys : Jingjing went to grandma grandpa's bedroom.
Mom: oh.. what did you get ?
Crys: Got a key
Mom: what did Grandpa say to you?
Crys: gun dan
(everybody laughed)
Mom: and what did you do? did you cry? how did you cry?
Crys : eeh...eeh...
Dad : Jingjing, here is what gun-dan means ... (daddy got an egg and rolled it on the table)

gun = rolling
dan = egg
gun dan = go out (Chinese colloquial)

one child policy in China

by one child policy regulation in China, normally a Chinese couple is only allowed to have 1 child.
several exception i've ever heard:
* both the husband and wife are from the minority folk. the majority is "HAN". the minority are such as Xinjiang, Zhang, Chaoxian, etc. there are total 55 minority folks (thribes) in China.
* both the husband and wife are single-child in their own families.
* farmers whose first kid is a daughter.
* either the husband or wife is a foreigner.

previously, we got info that we could have 2 kids with Chinese nationality. but we needed to wait for another 3 years for the second one. but it was a mis-informatiton we got. another version we got was, if we wanted to have 2 children, both of the children must have foreign nationality (which is Indonesia).

the latest version, which is the correct version so far is:
we can have 2 children, if first one has Chinese nationality, then the second one cannot have the Chinese nationality, and cannot change it also in the future. if the second has the Chinese nationality, my husband will get fired from his job, which he works for the government (China Telecom). for this second kid, we dont have to wait for 3 years or so.


Thank God ! i really feel in such great relief now.
last few days i was in most stressfull condition ever, worried .. by the law that i must abort my second baby. if it happened, and i got no choice, i would plan to have my second baby in Indonesia.

and here is the great news...
i am now 9 weeks pregnant. and i feel great now!
actually it is out of our plan, out of the calculation, it happened during my infertile period; which was around the 20th day (from the first day of my period).
never rely on calculation by "fertility period" if you dont plan to get pregnant. lol ... !

most difficult moment ever ...

this is the most difficult moment EVER in my life.
i dont know what to do, cause it seems that i won't have any choice.

diarrhea and brown sugar

we arrived at home on 11.30pm yesterday.
fyuuuh... awfully tired in and out ...!
'coz we travelled by train from Shanghai to Hefei.
it took us 7 hours sitting on the train.. fyuuuhh... again !

of course we kept Crystal being as convenient as possible, including when she wanted to sleep. at the beginning she slept on my arms and thighs. later on i couldn't stand it anymore, and i put her on the seat. thank goodness ... she slept soundly still. she got a little fever and cough before leaving Jakarta, blamed us on letting her drank coconut ice few days before.

she got well once we arrived at home. while today, i got diarrhea.
i took 2 tablets of diarrhea medicine, but i didn't work out. i still went to toilet 3 times and it's getting worse.

my father-in-law asked me to drink brown-sugar-water.

put around 2 table spoons of brown sugar into a glass of hot water (around 200ml).
voila... it worked ! and for the whole nite i only went to toilet once.


today is Lin's lunar bday.
we have some bday cake .. no... no... i didn't bake for sure, it's from the bakery.

we also got a nice surprise today. a very nice surprise !!!
well ... though we have thought we would get it. tell you later on.

flight to Jakarta

on 30-Mar-07 we took night train from Hefei to Shanghai.
left hefei on 8.15pm. arrived at Shanghai the next morning on 5am.

Crystal was being nice on the way. as i learnt from Lisa, who prepared 15 gifts for her Fino on the flight; i brought a puzzle for Crystal; but no 15 gifts. lol.

so she played puzzle on the bed or wandered around on the train. she also loved to climb the bed stairs. there're 6 beds in a block. 3 on the left and 3 on the right.

luckily, we got 2 lowest level beds. otherwise, i couldn't imagine how troublesome it would be.


after arriving in Shanghai, we had some breakfast at a resto besides the railway station. actually we could take the airport bus, with only RMB 18/person. but consider our flight was on 10.10am, so we took taxi, which cost us about RMB 170.


ghosh... our flight was canceled. it's said that Jusuf Kalla was in Shanghai, on his way to Egypt (or somewhere in the middle east country). the plane would be used as back-up for him. damn !


so we were all hanging around waiting for news regarding our flight.
our flight was transfered to Singapore Airline, schedule on 00.05am the next day.
so we all went to hotel for a rest.

on 9pm, we went to the airport again.
i was told that Garuda had mistakenly booked Crystal flight on the 08.30am flight. i just needed to inform the person-in-charge during check in. so we queued. around 11.10pm, we got trouble, we couldnt check in due to Crystal was not booked at the same flight with us. those stupid persons couldnt change her flight to the same flight with us in the booking system, even she was infant, which meant she didn't need a seat.


at the end, we couldnt get into this flight.
they re-booked us for the next morning flight.
ghosh .. in the middle of the night, we returned again to the hotel.
woke up 5.30 the next morning and went to airport again.

finally, we flied with SQ on 8.30am to Singapore.
luckily, SQ services was quite nice, the seat was also more comfortable (if compared to Garuda).
Crystal also got some toy from the stewardess.

Thank God, she was not giving us any trouble during the flight.
she played puzzled, played with spoon, fork, bread jam, butter, cup, etc.
The only problem was she didn't sleep --while i was quite sleepy-- and never stopped bugging me .... hahahaa... !
walking in the plane, going into the first class area, sometimes saying she wanted to pee while actually i put diaper on her. so once in a while i took her to toilet for pee in her diaper. lol !
when the plane were about to land, she fell asleep. at that time, unfortunately ... i couldnt sleep anymore.


we arrived at Singapore on around 1.30pm.
waiting for the next flight with Garuda to Jakarta on around 4.30pm.
Crystal was sleeping on my arms, for about 1.5 hours.

we ate some Hainan chicken rice at a resto in Changi airport.
hmmm... the taste was quite ok .. especially the "saus cabe" ... very tasty!


finally ..
in Jakarta, my cousin sister (Eny), her daughter (Jasselynn) and my youngest brother came to pick us.


what a tiring day !!!


Pudong Airport (31-Mar-07)



Shanghai Airline Hotel, 31-Mar-07



Changi Airport, 1-April-07